brother confused

[vipersniper70]

Hi all

My 13 year old brother told me earlyer that he was a bit confused about his sexuality ( st8-bi or gay) so he asked me for help

Is there anything i can do that would help him?

[Mark2000]

Hay, if you are BI you have some ideas of what to ask. Be honest.

[Dalton504]

Tell him not to rush things and just give it time...He's 13 so he still has a lot of time to think things over. Since you're bi, just tell him how you figured out your sexuality, maybe that'll help him.

[Jaffe]

Tell him ....
- to just wait it out, not push himself to take on a label
- that whatever he is or is not, its okay

[northy]

Tell him about your experiences as realising that you are bi. Tell him that you will support him no matter what( I hope) and that he can be whoever he wants to be. It's only a label. Also, remind him that he is young, still had lots of time to work things out and it could just be raging hormones.

[fast8]

Just talk to him and tell him he will figure it out then no matter what tell him you will support him and be there if he has any questions

[paletanner]

Hi all

My 13 year old brother told me earlyer that he was a bit confused about his sexuality ( st8-bi or gay) so he asked me for help

Is there anything i can do that would help him?

just do what my big bro did when i had the same issues. ask me what i'm thinking about and feeling. ask me what is confusing me. ask me what i'm ok with. he let me get it out of my system, express myself without any labels or judgement or anything, and then told me he loves me no matter what because we're brothers. :)

[Zachary G]

just tell him to take his time to discover who he really is, not to rush into anything; its best if he follows his heart, it never lies and will lead him in the right direction; just be there for him to listen, talk, share you life experiences -- be the big brother some of us wish we had.

[jacshamy]

just do what my big bro did when i had the same issues. ask me what i'm thinking about and feeling. ask me what is confusing me. ask me what i'm ok with. he let me get it out of my system, express myself without any labels or judgement or anything, and then told me he loves me no matter what because we're brothers. :)

Awwww. Love ya lil bro. :wub::yeah:

Yeah, what he said. :P

[DoodleSnap]

This is what I would say:

Sexuality is a very fluid and confusing spectrum, with lots of in-between parts, and with lots of different ways of approaching and describing it. Many people sit in-between straight and gay, and that is perfectly okay. Just because you like boys doesn't mean you have to describe yourself as gay. One could be bisexual. Many people question their sexuality during puberty, as the amount of hormones running through the body exposes things that one wouldn't necessarily notice beforehand. Rather than worrying about a label, and identifying yourself straight away, be patient, and find out what you like over time. Be honest, and let yourself be attracted to whoever you are attracted to, and find out what you like with time and experience. Nothing happens immediately, so don't be alarmed when you have to give it some time. Rome wasn't built in a day.

I would also suggest that you tell him that you support him and that he can ask you questions and whatnot. That is my advice.

[Straya]

Hi all

My 13 year old brother told me earlyer that he was a bit confused about his sexuality ( st8-bi or gay) so he asked me for help

Is there anything i can do that would help him?

just tell him youll be there and youll support him when he needs it and your there to help him

[SethfromMI]

tell him you love him no matter what and tell him to take his time to think things through. if he asks questions, try to answer as honestly as you can, but the main thing is don't have him be in a rush or even try to label himself