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idekw
June 24th, 2015, 09:19 AM
So I'd been talking to this girl a lot lately and we had both developed extremely strong feelings for eachother, however, she said she wanted to slow down and when I asked her to be more specific, she would not give me a definitive answer. This progressed to her just telling me to give up on her, and then she just wanted to be friends, now she says I'm "like a brother to her." I just don't think I can deal with having my emotions so strong, and this being a sort of long distance thing (an hour away by car is far when you can't drive) I had poured myself out to this girl, and I had fallen in love with her and now I'm left with just the memories of when she made me so happy that I smiled like an idiot. (I'm actually tearing up just writing this).

How do I deal with this pain?
The37thElement
June 24th, 2015, 10:25 AM
I had the same thing happen recently, the situation was very similar. Just recognize the fact that she wants to stay friends for now, and if it escalates again, than that's a plus for you! Also, there are plenty of other people out there waiting for you.
idekw
June 24th, 2015, 10:33 AM
I had the same thing happen recently, the situation was very similar. Just recognize the fact that she wants to stay friends for now, and if it escalates again, than that's a plus for you! Also, there are plenty of other people out there waiting for you.

first of all, I must correct you. It's "then" not "than"

secondly, I just don't see having a long distance friendship being worth it if I'm also having to mask my emotions.
The37thElement
June 24th, 2015, 10:42 AM
first of all, I must correct you. It's "then" not "than"

secondly, I just don't see having a long distance friendship being worth it if I'm also having to mask my emotions.

Sorry, I'm typing on a phone. If you don't believe that she will understand, then you can gradually stop being friends. The braver route to take would be to explain to her that you have really strong feelings for her and that you want to restart a relationship that moves slow. You were most likely overwhelming her with attention that wasn't wanted desired at the given moment. The worst that can happen is rejection, which is your signal to move on.
Emerald Dream
July 3rd, 2015, 08:06 AM
The OP is banned. :locked: