Curious for so long...

[Teen curious]

Hii guys, I'm new on here, sorry about the long message in advance!

Okay so when I was about 16/17 I developed these sexual urges for a guy I knew at school! Now I had considered myself to be totally straight and these feelings came out of nowhere! Anyway these urges made me curious as I started imagining him doing things with me sexual things, I even started to look up gay porn and I was shocked to find that I instantly got hard to it! Now this guy was gay so I couldn't hold it in much longer and I started talking to him hinting that I was curious, anyway he explained what happens in gay sex and we had a dirty chat that got me very hard! Again to my surprise! We even shared pics of our you know what's!

We did that once and then he didn't speak to me again, and I kept messaging him because I was confused (still am) about what my urges and all of this meant. He has been pretty rude and eventually I stopped trying to talk to him. But even now when I get super horny I think about him and imagine the sex with him...I'm 19 now and I think I am straight but I've been curious for so long now I am unsure. I keep looking at gay porn, more than any other these days and I love looking at a guys butt that's smooth and like a bubble butt...

Sorry for how long it is but I needed to get it off my chest :) thank you for reading :)

[Abhorrence]

You think you're straight but meh, I wouldn't say you are.

[CuriousConner]

Don't claim what society wants you to be.. Be you

[Teen curious]

It's just so confusing I need advice just what am I? Okay so if I'm not straight then what would you say I am? I am just so confused!

[northy]

Don't use porn as a way to judge your sexuality. Be who you want to be, if you want to be bi, be bi. If you want to be gay, be gay. If you want to be curious, then be curious.
Are you attracted to women too?

[Teen curious]

I am attracted to women yeah, I find lots of girls pretty. I can imagine being in a relationship with a girl it's what I have always imagined myself doing. I can't imagine a relationship with a guy, but I don't know anymore I have imagined sex with a guy more and more often for the past few months and have become even more curious...its just confusing

[Cronor]

According to what you've said you're heteroflexible (bisexual that is mostly hetero)

[Teen curious]

Okay but why have I felt so curious for so long if I'm mostly hetero and why doe I get hard to gay porn and keep watching it more than any other porn, and what about all the urges for the guy I mentioned...

Heteroflexible sounds like the best way to put it though so far it's really hard this is, took a lot for me to come on here and post all that I put.

[Teen curious]

I can not stop thinking about all of this I have no one to talk to and the urges and thoughts keep going round and round my head I am just so confused right now :what:

[paletanner]

Hii guys, I'm new on here, sorry about the long message in advance!

Okay so when I was about 16/17 I developed these sexual urges for a guy I knew at school! Now I had considered myself to be totally straight and these feelings came out of nowhere! Anyway these urges made me curious as I started imagining him doing things with me sexual things, I even started to look up gay porn and I was shocked to find that I instantly got hard to it! Now this guy was gay so I couldn't hold it in much longer and I started talking to him hinting that I was curious, anyway he explained what happens in gay sex and we had a dirty chat that got me very hard! Again to my surprise! We even shared pics of our you know what's!

We did that once and then he didn't speak to me again, and I kept messaging him because I was confused (still am) about what my urges and all of this meant. He has been pretty rude and eventually I stopped trying to talk to him. But even now when I get super horny I think about him and imagine the sex with him...I'm 19 now and I think I am straight but I've been curious for so long now I am unsure. I keep looking at gay porn, more than any other these days and I love looking at a guys butt that's smooth and like a bubble butt...

Sorry for how long it is but I needed to get it off my chest :) thank you for reading :)

maybe it's hormones. or maybe you're bi. or maybe you're just really horny and you don't care where you stick it. lol

[Zachary G]

It's just so confusing I need advice just what am I? Okay so if I'm not straight then what would you say I am? I am just so confused!


you dont have to label yourself as being gay, straight, bi, etc. , you are a sexual being thats what you are. if you want to know for sure for your own knowing, then I would suggest you put yourself out there and experiment.

[Jaffe]

It's just so confusing I need advice just what am I? Okay so if I'm not straight then what would you say I am? I am just so confused!

The best thing you could do would be to stop searching for a label. Then just follow your feelings and needs and see what happens.

[paletanner]

The best thing you could do would be to stop searching for a label. Then just follow your feelings and needs and see what happens.

yeah that!

[DoodleSnap]

The best thing you could do would be to stop searching for a label. Then just follow your feelings and needs and see what happens.
This is very good advice.

Sexuality is a somewhat confusing and fluid part of one's-self, and difficulty understanding it is common, especially during puberty.
Anyhow, I would suggest (like the person above me) that you worry less about what label you adopt, and just allow yourself to find out what you like, and be comfortable being attracted to who you are attracted to. Be patient, and allow yourself to grow with experience and time. Sometimes you may find yourself wanting a relationship with one gender more than another, or maybe you have more sexual attraction for one gender, whatever it is, it is fine.
In my opinion, I think that bisexual would be a good label to describe your current preferences, as it is relatively open.
I hope all goes well.

[Teen curious]

Thank you everyone for all your brilliant replies! :) I know what you mean I have got to stop over thinking it, it's just hard because I'm 19 and I thought I'd be completely sure about my feelings and sexuality by now

[DoodleSnap]

Thank you everyone for all your brilliant replies! :) I know what you mean I have got to stop over thinking it, it's just hard because I'm 19 and I thought I'd be completely sure about my feelings and sexuality by now
I understand: everyone struggles to be patient sometimes. But being comfortable in your own impermanence and change can be a very liberating thing. Give it time, and good luck.

[Dalton504]

It's very confusing, and it's alright to be confused. The most important thing is not to rush to try to label yourself. Give it time, its a long process trying to figure out your sexuality. You might be bi or gay, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that, but you could very well be straight too. Don't overthink it, just give it time.

[Teen curious]

I'm trying not to overthink and take your advice and not rush putting a label on myself...well at least try to not overthink and not put a label on myself. It's just been a whirlwind for three years, I thought it was all because of puberty and hormones but maybe it isn't I don't know, but it's great to know I can talk on here openly! I have no one else to talk to

[Laibachd]

I think you are bisexual :3

[Andyyy95]

I wouldn't use porn as a 'measure' of whether you're gay or not; it's really down to yourself and how you feel around a particular gender/person.
At first sight after reading this, I think you're bisexual, but then again you could just be curious because of hormones etc...

Give it time :)

[Teen curious]

hey guys thanks again for all the advice, I am trying to give it time its just difficult you know aha, the fact that this has been going on for so long now its like (head exploding) but i'm trying to give it time to see if its just hormones or not I don't know just wish I had people to talk to like you awesome lot!

[Xandle]

This helped me a lot lot lot: Decide on your definition of gay or bi. For me, in my personal definition, you can't be gay unless you have emotional feelings for men as well as physical. For example, you might have an emotional and physical attraction to women, but only physical towards men. To me, that would make it very difficult to have a relationship with a guy, so you may choose to label yourself as straight.
There's nothing wrong with searching for a label, but just make sure that you've defined that label on your own terms.

[Blazefire]

dont be afraid you should know your feelings they are not lying.

[Cangirl]

Don't label yourself but if you want try something and see how you like it and then you might know more after doing something. Bi is beautiful :)

[Teen curious]

I want to try it, for three years I've slowly wanted to try with a guy more and more its just i'm nervous and scared and just don't know how to go about it and all that aha

[ImTrickster]

dont woory i was like the same if your still in puberty your hormones will take whatever you want at the time so when your older you will know, dont worry about it it is perfectly normal to do things like that.

[Teen curious]

Today I found myself in a situation in the showers where I was staring at this guys ass...I've not done it before but it was there and naked and it was like bubble butt it was a perfect ass! I felt myself getting turned on by it and it took such willpower to not get hard aha...its confused me even more

[Vermilion]

Today I found myself in a situation in the showers where I was staring at this guys ass...I've not done it before but it was there and naked and it was like bubble butt it was a perfect ass! I felt myself getting turned on by it and it took such willpower to not get hard aha...its confused me even more


There isn't anything wrong with that.

[pacho3383]

Yea there is nothing wrong with u i think that ur a bi because i were been i that situation and now i am bi. I am very happy because i accepted and my friends accepted what am i.

[Teen curious]

thanks for the replys guys aha....well i've kept thinking about that guys butt, and even looked up bubble butt on tumblr. still confusing for me

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[giles2603]

You sound like your most likely bi. I was in the exact same situation a few years ago. I always though I was straight but after getting friend zoned so much by girls and spending most my time with boys, it changed. In high school I'd always be looking at other boys in the changing rooms or just looking out for cute boys around school. I'd always watch gay porn which I accidently watched once and loved it ever since. In college I did construction so girls just disappeared. I just get on so much better with guys, they know what a guy wants so they can give you what you want.

Girls sexually is a no 100%. Guys sexually is a yes 1000%.
Its just the relationship part. I always imagined finding a girl, having kids and getting married. But it's not so easy as that in my head. The easiest way to put it that someone told me is, you choose your own adventure. It might start of sexually with a guy but over time you'll both show your real feelings ect. And that thought of not wanting / liking a relationship with the same sex might change.

Don't over think it like others have said. If you think you might like sex with a guy then experience. If you think your attracted to a guy and you develop feelings for him, then give it a shot! You don't need to label yourself. You can be straight and curious and maybe one day you'll finally have clear thoughts on your sexuality :)

[Teen curious]

You sound like your most likely bi. I was in the exact same situation a few years ago. I always though I was straight but after getting friend zoned so much by girls and spending most my time with boys, it changed. In high school I'd always be looking at other boys in the changing rooms or just looking out for cute boys around school. I'd always watch gay porn which I accidently watched once and loved it ever since. In college I did construction so girls just disappeared. I just get on so much better with guys, they know what a guy wants so they can give you what you want.

Girls sexually is a no 100%. Guys sexually is a yes 1000%.
Its just the relationship part. I always imagined finding a girl, having kids and getting married. But it's not so easy as that in my head. The easiest way to put it that someone told me is, you choose your own adventure. It might start of sexually with a guy but over time you'll both show your real feelings ect. And that thought of not wanting / liking a relationship with the same sex might change.

Don't over think it like others have said. If you think you might like sex with a guy then experience. If you think your attracted to a guy and you develop feelings for him, then give it a shot! You don't need to label yourself. You can be straight and curious and maybe one day you'll finally have clear thoughts on your sexuality :)

One of the best replays ever thank you so much! :)



EDIT: Hey guys just an update, I decided to meet up with a guy to try things tonight I am really nervous aha

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[Abhorrence]

Hey guys just an update, I decided to meet up with a guy to try things tonight I am really nervous aha

Make sure you're extremely careful. I hope you know this person and isn't just a stranger, there is too much danger to just go blind into a situation like this.

[Teen curious]

I've been very careful, it's a friend I once knew at school and we recently got back in contact and I mentioned how I was feeling (he's gay) and he said he was willing to help me experiment to find out for sure :)

[Teen curious]

So guys I met my friend and we made out for a while got naked gave handjobs and blowjobs and kinda just lay naked on top of each other grinding for a long while....it was more intimate and hot than I could ever have imagined and awakened feelings in me that I didn't expect...I'm confused as anything now though

[giles2603]

Good to here your not trying to forget the thoughts and feelings and be someone your not - this doesn't work and I know it!

You will be confused for a long time, it's all new and isn't a simple 'choice'.. You'll find out eventually!

It's always good to talk to people about how you feel and maybe this friend of yours is a good person to talk to. He's been there and I'm sure he'll be happy to listen to you :)

[Teen curious]

Yeah he's been a big help to not only talk to and try things with, he says he's there for me and knows what it feels like to be confused

[AutumnWinds]

Hii guys, I'm new on here, sorry about the long message in advance!

Okay so when I was about 16/17 I developed these sexual urges for a guy I knew at school! Now I had considered myself to be totally straight and these feelings came out of nowhere! Anyway these urges made me curious as I started imagining him doing things with me sexual things, I even started to look up gay porn and I was shocked to find that I instantly got hard to it! Now this guy was gay so I couldn't hold it in much longer and I started talking to him hinting that I was curious, anyway he explained what happens in gay sex and we had a dirty chat that got me very hard! Again to my surprise! We even shared pics of our you know what's!

We did that once and then he didn't speak to me again, and I kept messaging him because I was confused (still am) about what my urges and all of this meant. He has been pretty rude and eventually I stopped trying to talk to him. But even now when I get super horny I think about him and imagine the sex with him...I'm 19 now and I think I am straight but I've been curious for so long now I am unsure. I keep looking at gay porn, more than any other these days and I love looking at a guys butt that's smooth and like a bubble butt...

Sorry for how long it is but I needed to get it off my chest :) thank you for reading :)

You think you're straight but meh, I wouldn't say you are.


i wouldn't worry much about defining what you are. you're you and whatever you label yourself doesn't change that.

if you enjoy guys and you're curious have you looked into experimenting any more? it might help you understand yourself a bit more.

[Daniella98]

The best thing you could do would be to stop searching for a label. Then just follow your feelings and needs and see what happens.

I agree with this

[Zerg]

Just be yourself, and learn as you go on with life

[PaleBoy]

Yeah he's been a big help to not only talk to and try things with, he says he's there for me and knows what it feels like to be confused
That´s great, i wish i had met someone like that! Let us know how it continues! But i think you are bi!

[Teen curious]

heyy guys its been a while, well me and my friend ended up exploring a lot of stuff together and i mean a lot, and it all felt pretty great

[egrea9]

I believe you are straight but now you are very Gay Curious. Because of the confusing end to the encounter you had with him, you had not fully satisfied your curiosity and probably need to experiment a little more, not just porn but with other guys like I did and then you'll be confident enough to admit to yourself once you've run the experimental course, of whether you are gay or straight or both but ultimately, labels are confusing so just go for what makes you happy, If you feel like shagging a guy, do that and vise versa. Best of luck,

Edward

[Teen curious]

but if i want to do more experimenting with him or another guy does that mean something?

[warbit]

To be quite honest. It doesn't matter:
At the end of the day, the labels we give ourselves like 'straight' or 'gay' are out of date. If you go back in time about 10 years, you were one or the other. Nowerdays, it doesn't matter. There isn't a big bold line that separates one from the other. In short don't give yourself a label, just be you :)
Hope this helps

[Teen curious]

thanks i know we shouldn't label things i just want to be sure of who i am

[Teen curious]

i mean what i did with my friend was a lot of fun i really enjoyed it

[hekohnice]

I feel the same way dude, but I don't know. I don't worry about it, just be comfortable, labels don't matter, they only add confusion and make you think you have to be a certain way to like certain things