showing intimacy in front of your kids?

[lumiadots]

now i don't mean making out or any heavy shit and stuff like that.

i mean, do you think it's ok for spouses to be cute around each other every so often, give hugs and little kisses, and just stuff like that in front of their kids? i've been told it gives off a bad impression, but personally i think it kind of instills a good mentality in the kids and, in the future, will help them know how to treat boyfriends/girlfriends and know how they should be treated themselves. what do you think?

[Jaffe]

My parents have never been afraid to hug and kiss and generally show affection and love in front of us. I think it's a good thing. We know they love each other, and love spending time together even though we get in the way of them doing that. Obviously I dont want to know what else they do... but I like the fact that they arent afraid of who they are.

Plus, it assures me that we are all still together and staying that way. Seeing my parents that way means they probably aren't breaking up.

[ClaraWho]

I agree with your own thoughts on this, although my own parents are cold as ice to each other and us siblings, and I'm still super affectionate in my relationship and so is he.

I think NOT showing those cute signs of intimacy is testament to an unhealthy relationship, those are the sort of parents who are only together for practical reasons and the passion died years ago.

Teenagers may go 'ewww gross' during their own awkward stages, but then they grow out of that. I'd be happy and proud to see such displays of affection between parents. So long as it stays appropriate EW!

~ Clara

[skittle]

I was never exposed to that kind of relationship growing up as my parents have been separated for the longest time and I live with my dad, who's also never been intimate with anyone where I might see it.

I think that it's absolutely okay for spouses to be affectionate in front of their children. It's a reassurance to the children that their parents are in a happy, loving relationship, and also might make them more comfortable as they start their own relationships, after having seen how they work firsthand. I know that in my case, not having that experience probably contributed to how I used to be nervous and uncomfortable with the idea of intimacy. That changed with experience, but since I grew up in a household where we also never spoke about that kind of thing, I really had to figure things out on my own at first.

[SethfromMI]

of course it is ok

[Abhorrence]

I'd have no idea, I grew up around arguments and hatred in parental relationships. I'd assume that a loving, healthy relationship would be better than that.

[Felicia_]

It's totally ok, it's good for the kids to know their parents are still in love and not just together because that's what parents should have to do

My parents are often like that but not too far.
I've seen them doing a few times by accident, I'm happy they still are intimate but some things i don't need to see!!

[Uniquemind]

now i don't mean making out or any heavy shit and stuff like that.

i mean, do you think it's ok for spouses to be cute around each other every so often, give hugs and little kisses, and just stuff like that in front of their kids? i've been told it gives off a bad impression, but personally i think it kind of instills a good mentality in the kids and, in the future, will help them know how to treat boyfriends/girlfriends and know how they should be treated themselves. what do you think?

I agree with your point of view on it.

But I also remember as a very little kid (still in high chair at the time) seeing quick pecks between my mom and dad.

For me I never got that "ew" factor, I thought the emotions for them were warmth and fuzziness and security. Not unlike when I would be cuddled or kissed on the cheek by myself as a kid.

It definitely helped lay a foundation of what I look for in romantic partners.

[Melodic]

I don't say it's bad. Personally, I'd feel uncomfortable doing that myself, just because my parents never did that around me when they were together.

[Uranus]

I don't see anything wrong with the parents showing a little affection in front of their kids at all. I mean, it's just simple affection and nothing that a child shouldn't see. Now if it was making out, or something more intimate, I could see a issue, but honestly if it was me, I wouldn't give a fuck giving my girl a kiss in front of my kids. I mean, it's only a small kiss

[Desuetude]

I never had to deal with that with my parents because they divorced when I was 7. With both their partners though, they're very affectionate. Holding hands at the least, kissing and cuddling etc.

It makes me cringe like hell but I guess solubconsiously the good behaviour will be imitated by kids. That's usually what happens, parents are one of/if not the most influential role model to their children so their behaviour is very often observed and reproduced by their kids when they grow up. I mean, showing no PDA isn't bad, it makes some people uncomfortable and that's fair enough. It's only when the kids are observing bad behaviour between partners that parents need to change their actions.

[CuteGuy889]

My mom was always trim even after 3 kids and she used to be a small time model...Recntly she gave up her work out routine and relaxed her strict diet to drive us to classes etc.....Her bum is getting a bit curvy and she is beginning to get a bit of a tummy....My dad would playfully pat her and make cute remarks of her changes....She'd blush and mumble somthing.....I think this type of expressing of care is ok in front of kids..

[Bull]

I love seeing my parents and grandparents hold hands, kiss, and hug. I think it makes me and my brother feel secure.

[Samanthaa]

My dad too pokes at the belly or rear of my mom cos she's been getting a bit rounded lately...May be her new job keeping her at the desk longer....She is super shapely and was skinny....and my role model.....I think intimacy like this is cute..

[Iam-Marie]

I think that's the most normal thing in the world

[pjones]

my parents hold hands watching TV, walking through a store, everywhere. we are a huggy kissy family and i like it. i kiss my parents and brother every day.

[LilEmma]

How could hugs and kisses be a problem???

[Daniella98]

I think its great when parents show love. Flirt, hug and kiss.
It can't be a problem for any kids. It mustn't

[StoppingTom]

I don't see how it can be construed as a problem. It's nice seeing that my parents still have that kind of bond.

[DoodleSnap]

My parents have never been afraid to hug and kiss and generally show affection and love in front of us. I think it's a good thing. We know they love each other, and love spending time together even though we get in the way of them doing that. Obviously I dont want to know what else they do... but I like the fact that they arent afraid of who they are.

Plus, it assures me that we are all still together and staying that way. Seeing my parents that way means they probably aren't breaking up.
^^^Exactly this.
I see absolutely no issue with it.
Trying to hide affection and love from children is unhealthy, IMO, and showing affection is a nice way of reinforcing the stability of the relationship to the kids. I think it's really nice C: