Another girl

[EssentialAspiration]

Me and my girlfriend have been together for a year now. For ages I've secretly liked another girl but also loved my girlfriend. I didn't think this other girl was interested in me at all and I thought we were just friends but we spoke alot and got really close and it turns out she wants me. I could be with her if I wanted to. I could end my year long relationship and jump into something entirely new.
If I'm honest I was surprised when my current girlfriend wanted to be with me I never expected to be in a situation were 2 girls like me. I don't know what to do.
Any advice?

[mxracing21]

are you happy with what you have now? i wouldnt throw away something you know makes you happy for an unsure thing

[ImCoolBeans]

are you happy with what you have now? i wouldnt throw away something you know makes you happy for an unsure thing

I agree. If you are happy and have strong feelings for your girlfriend, do you want to throw that away for a potentially bad relationship? It's up to you, but if you're happy with your current situation then maybe you should stick with your girlfriend.

[Daily]

Just don't be a player.

[ClaraWho]

You cannot love someone and want someone else. True love is exclusive. In my opinion you don't deserve the girl you are with, she deserves the loyalty she has given to you in return. Break up with her and let someone treat her right. Go off to your fling.

The fact you even asked this question is insulting to her.

~ Clara

[Jaffe]

Let's see... You are in a relationship you like, and its mutual. The other girl, you don't know if that would work.... So the real question is, do you want to keep the sure thing, or take a chance on something new? You know your personality.... do you like stability, or like change and risk?

While I do not agree with ClaraWho on love being exclusive, an open relationship or even polyamory would require that all members of the relationship agreed. And since society teaches/accepts that love is exclusive, you're not likely to get both girls to share in the idea. The fact that you wrote the post means you don't think that both girls would want to be in a 3-way relationship, so think about who you are and what you like in life.