Has your sexuality changed? ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[TurboDieselBandit]

This is mainly a question for the older members here, however everyone is certainly welcome to contribute. As you've grown up through grade school and into college, has your sexuality changed? Has anyone gone from gay/bi to straight or the opposite. Why do you think it changed if it did? Do you think your sexuality will remain the same as you grow older?


As for me, I've always known I liked guys equally or a tad more than girls since the fifth grade if not earlier. Sure I went back and forth through grade school between curious, bi-curious and bi but that was mostly related to my reluctance to accept my bisexuality. I'm still working on that and still feel like the real me is hidden from others, however I do think I'll still be bi 5 years from now and maybe also in 10.

[Magus]

Yep, it remains, I am still a Bisexual, who is attracted to towards female gender identity of the spectrum but both sexes. I had this sexual attraction since I was a kid.

[Abyssal Echo]

Nope, it hasn't changed. I doubt seriously that it will.

[Gwen]

I changed a lot from being straight but during my teens I questioned it a lot. I am Catholic so I was always was someone who thought being straight was the only way but I think both genders have their own positives. I've never dated a guy and I might not for my whole life but I still believe both genders can be attractive. I'm not sure when exactly my thoughts changed but it lead to me being a lot more understanding about people who are homosexual. I guess I like people more for their personality and who they are rather than what they have for genitals.

[Magenta]

I don't think it "changes" exactly. We're raised in a society where the belief is that being straight is the norm. We are taught from a young age that we're meant to be attracted to the opposite sex so we grow up just assuming we're straight until we're old enough to experience actual attraction. Some people know they're gay already. Some think they're straight and experimenting. Some come out as bisexual, etc.

So yes, I believe it remains and remember, sexuality is a spectrum and your preferences can change but your sexuality likely won't. For example, I largely identify as gay now because I'm more attracted to women than men. Am I actually bisexual? Yes, I do find men attractive and have been in happy relationships with a couple. And some days it shows more than others. What I choose to label myself as really has little reflection on my actual sexuality. It is what it is, always has been, likely always will be.

[Jaffe]

Interesting thread, interesting idea and responses.

I'm only 15, just barely figured it out for the first time... lol. I hope it doesn't change, though. I'm happy with who and what I am.

[Microcosm]

I went through this phase once in which I thought I was bisexual for a few months, but I realized I was most likely doing it for attention. I don't label myself anymore, but if I had to, I'd probably just go with straight.

I had this kid tell me "being straight is too mainstream." He was serious about it, too. That made me facepalm for obvious reasons.

[Miserabilia]

For me it hasn't really changed, just the way I view it. I've always been a bit all over the place, I wouldn't really want to label myself as anything yet.

[DoodleSnap]

I don't think that my sexuality has, or will change, but merely my perception and understanding of it. I have always felt this way about both genders, but only now in a context of acceptance do I realise that that is a form of attraction. Our perceptions account for a lot.

However, being a still-maturing-15-year-old, I am probably not justified to speak on the manner, but that is my $0.02, anyway.

[Antagonist]

I went from straight, to bisexual, to gay within the time span of six months when I was 12/13. Quickly found out what I really wanted and I've been that way ever since. c:

[Dalton504]

I don't think your sexuality necessarily changes while you grow up. I think that as you get older, you get to know yourself better.

We are taught growing up that you are supposed to like the opposite sex. If you grow up and find that you are attracted to the same sex, you become confused. When I found out that I wasn't attracted to women, I became in denial and tried to make myself be attracted girls. I wanted to be straight, but I didn't realize that I was gay my whole life at the time. We grow up thinking that we are straight, but when some individuals find out that they aren't, they just think that their sexuality has changed; they don't realize that they have been gay/bi/etc. for their whole life.

[Sarcastic Cupcake]

We are taught growing up that you are supposed to like the opposite sex. If you grow up and find that you are attracted to the same sex, you become confused. When I found out that I wasn't attracted to women, I became in denial and tried to make myself be attracted girls. I wanted to be straight, but I didn't realize that I was gay my whole life at the time. We grow up thinking that we are straight, but when some individuals find out that they aren't, they just think that their sexuality has changed; they don't realize that they have been gay/bi/etc. for their whole life.

This is sort of what happened to me. I wasn't born into a strict, religious family, but somehow, I subconsciously absorbed the message that being men were attracted to women and nothing else. In sixth grade, I thought I had a crush on a boy, but it was really just trying be "normal". Slowly, as I learned about different sexualities, I realized that I wasn't who I was pretending to be and eventually came out as lesbian.

[Babs]

It's never really changed per se. There were times where I thought I was gay or straight or bi and flipped between those, but I wouldn't say it's actually changed.

[Abhorrence]

It's never really changed per se. There were times where I thought I was gay or straight or bi and flipped between those, but I wouldn't say it's actually changed.

Yeah, I think most people's identities change because it is really easy to either mistake or identify more with another label.

[beenthere]

I agree with most the people here that say it doesn't change, however I would say it can evolve. I made up my mind at age 14 that I was gay, but a couple years later I was in a sexual relationship with a girl. I had been sexually active with guys from the age of 11. my sexuality didn't change, but now it includes women. So don't expect you feelings to change towards a sex, but understand that they can expand.

[Melodic]

I haven't really mentioned this to anybody, but the last couple months I've started to become Bi-Curious. Well at least more understanding of it. I've always been curious, just now I am offically sort of.

[Laibachd]

I went from straight, to curious, to full-on bisexual ^^

[Fiction]

So yes, I believe it remains and remember, sexuality is a spectrum and your preferences can change but your sexuality likely won't. For example, I largely identify as gay now because I'm more attracted to women than men. Am I actually bisexual? Yes, I do find men attractive and have been in happy relationships with a couple. And some days it shows more than others. What I choose to label myself as really has little reflection on my actual sexuality. It is what it is, always has been, likely always will be.

This is basically what I was going to say and I couldn't put it any better so I just quoted! I suppose my sexuality would be bisexual. At one point I was convinced I was a lesbian (talking about 9 years ago....). But I identify as straight because beyond a sexual attraction to girls I know I want relationships and to ultimately be with a man. So although my sexuality hasn't changed, I went from panicking I was a lesbian aged 11 because I had a crush on a girl, to knowing actually I'm probably bisexual but choosing to identify as straight, because I highly doubt I will ever have a relationship with a girl.

[Cognizant]

Throughout my time on VT/GT (since 2011), my sexual orientation label transgression has went like this:

straight --> bicurious --> bisexual (and came out as this in 2013) --> pansexual --> ???? --> gay with no attraction to women --> bisexual, but homoromantic, and now I consider myself gay but "curious".
In essence, I would experiment with a girl, but I couldn't see myself committing to a female like I have in prior relationships with guys.

[Stronger]

Its changed over the course of high school basically. I went from straight, to bi-curious, to bi and eventually gay but don't choose to label myself. My once attraction to women has long faded away and now I'm couldn't be any happier with my boyfriend.

[Laibachd]

to knowing actually I'm probably bisexual but choosing to identify as straight, because I highly doubt I will ever have a relationship with a girl.

How so? There are heterosexual people that die virgins, but that deosn't change their being heterosexual. Why would you identify as straight just because you can't see anything happen with a girl in the near future? I can't understand :/

[Iam-Marie]

I had changed from straight to lesbian. I am curious to bi.
at some point it is determined to change again

[Fiction]

How so? There are heterosexual people that die virgins, but that deosn't change their being heterosexual. Why would you identify as straight just because you can't see anything happen with a girl in the near future? I can't understand :/

Because I know I prefer men, I know I only have a slight sexual attraction to girls. I have experimented when I was much younger and I have been in a committed long-term relationship with a guy for the last 4 years. Maybe things will change one day but right now there's just no point "coming out" when I'm pretty open about how I feel anyway. My sexuality pdoesn't defime me, why do I need a bit song and dance about "coming out", when chances are I'll never be with a girl anyway?

Basically I'm comfortable with my sexuality without the real need to define it, and I am not bisexual, neither am I completely straight but somewhere in between. For the time being "straight" is the best fitting label for how I feel. It's others that insist on labelling my sexuality not me.

[Unlucky]

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[Andyyy95]

I considered myself curious whilst growing up through college / high-school, but now I'm almost certain to be straight.

[Laibachd]

Because I know I prefer men, I know I only have a slight sexual attraction to girls. I have experimented when I was much younger and I have been in a committed long-term relationship with a guy for the last 4 years. Maybe things will change one day but right now there's just no point "coming out" when I'm pretty open about how I feel anyway. My sexuality pdoesn't defime me, why do I need a bit song and dance about "coming out", when chances are I'll never be with a girl anyway?


What? Identifying as something doesn't mean you NEED to come out :/

[Fiction]

What? Identifying as something doesn't mean you NEED to come out :/

I don't really think this thread is for a discussion... And I think you're totally misunderstanding what I'm saying. So I'm just going to leave it.

[ImCoolBeans]

In my time on VT I've gone from being totally straight (or so I said), to curious, to bi, to gay, to whatever I am now. I think I'm just a sexual person, who is predominantly attracted to guys, but if the right girl comes around then it's possible I could be attracted to her too. I just say I'm gay because it's pretty much true and it's an easy label -- I don't care about the label that much.

I've been attracted to males much more than females for as long as I can remember. Even when I was a little kid I was always interested in boys over girls.

[Kirina]

A gay friend of mine, there is one male celebrity that she is attracted to. If you are gay, you shouldn't be attracted to any of the opposite gender at all. There is a spectrum and if you identify as 99.9% gay/straight, than you are bisexual.

Recently there has been a lot of girls questioning their sexuality because of Ruby Rose.
I think there is a potential that any gay could be attracted to one of the opposite gender, and that any straight could be attracted to one of the same gender. Thus everyone is potentially bisexual, or everyone is bisexual but it just hasn't been realized yet.

OT: straight > bi

[Faolan]

From straight to bi to gay/bi to gay... so basically just coming to terms w myself haha. Do still have the odd female crush though

[Rayquaza]

LMAO YES. Roll back this forum 2 years ago. I was a complete douche, telling everyone and convincing myself I was straight. It was like I didn't want to hear from anyone else that I could be anything other than straight. Now look at me, I have like only 2% interest in females now. And it seems to be decreasing everyday. I still hold resentment for using the word gay to this day seeing as I have always wanted to prove people wrong my entire life, and I still feel bitter when identifying as something I had been bullied about for so long, but I think I'm getting over that now tbh. The real turning point was about a year and a half ago when I realised something wasn't right. And now we end up here. What a ride!

[SethfromMI]

I mean I admitted I was bi when I was 12 so I guess it kind of has, but I think I will always be bi

[everlong]

I used to think I'm bisexual, but now I know I'm straight. I wouldn't necessarily call that a change, more of a realization.

[Blazefire]

i think its easy to define your sexuality.its not to define your relationship preference .its more about what is the most exciting physical beauty,features turn you on to enjoy your orgasm totally .

if you spend most of the time fantasazing about females ...than you crave female beauty more.if its mixed during a longer period than bisexual . if only about male beauty and form you prefer it like 100%.


For me I can get excited by handsome guys but I cant really orgasm or even masturbate about them.
Most of the time i have fantasies about girls they catch my attention easily.
If one day i would meet a shemale I will definately laugh because some of them has very beautiful face but their lower parts are not for me .


I think I am straight.

[theUnprofessional]

I haven't really mentioned this to anybody, but the last couple months I've started to become Bi-Curious. Well at least more understanding of it. I've always been curious, just now I am offically sort of.

Wow, the same thing is happening to me...
If we are using the Kinsey Scale to illustrate the basic display of the changes I'm going through, I started out only at 0 when I was a little younger (13-14) then as I went on I began to be curious about a guy in my school but still found I was still damn well attracted to girls (so I lied between 1-2 on the scale). Now, I'd say I fluctuate from 0-3 depending on how I feel some days - that is probably due to my life being a little of a mess right now and me being indecisive on where I want to really go in life. From what I can gather, I think that is a somewhat determining factor in people's preferences and sexuality.

[Hudor]

I don't think it has. What keeps changing is my perception of it. I've gone from thinking I'm straight and gays are weird monsters to bi to completely gay. On most days recently I feel sure I'm gay and that's wonderful for me but I have days when I don't want to do anything with guys or anyone for that matter. I don't think I understand it completely even now and only when I'm sure I do, could I identify whether it has changed.

[TurboDieselBandit]

Thanks for everyone's response! It was pretty interesting reading about everyone's experiences and opinions. :)