I'm Gay

[Dalton504]

So, I am a male who is almost 16 years old, and for the past couple of years, I have been struggling with my sexuality. I never had a girlfriend before, and never wanted one. I started to think something was weird when everyone around me started dating girls, but I wasn't. I was in denial that I liked guys, and tried to convince myself otherwise. After about two years of thinking it through, I finally admitted to myself that I am gay. I'm not ready to come out to anyone yet, so I was just wondering, how do you know when you are actually ready to come out? I thought about coming out and it's scary. I know in the long run that I'll be grateful that I did, but even thinking about telling every single person that I know that I'm gay makes me sick to my stomach. My parents always supported gays, so I know for a fact they won't have a problem with it, but I'm not super close to them. Just wanted some advice on anything regarding this. :)

[Vermilion]

So, I am a male who is almost 16 years old, and for the past couple of years, I have been struggling with my sexuality. I never had a girlfriend before, and never wanted one. I started to think something was weird when everyone around me started dating girls, but I wasn't. I was in denial that I liked guys, and tried to convince myself otherwise. After about two years of thinking it through, I finally admitted to myself that I am gay. I'm not ready to come out to anyone yet, so I was just wondering, how do you know when you are actually ready to come out? I thought about coming out and it's scary. I know in the long run that I'll be grateful that I did, but even thinking about telling every single person that I know that I'm gay makes me sick to my stomach. My parents always supported gays, so I know for a fact they won't have a problem with it, but I'm not super close to them. Just wanted some advice on anything regarding this. :)


Hi :) there is no right time to come out. It has to be your choice to come out but you don't have to. I'm bi but think I'm in denial to myself in all honesty. Like you my parent's wouldn't care as they are in support of gay people as they have gay brothers. Like I've said it's your choice to come out and you don't have to but when you do if you want to make sure your happy with it. There will be questions so don't expect non. Best of luck

[Bull]

There is no need to "come out" as in making an announcement . Just live your life as you feel is right for you. If you have guy friends and girl friends they will become aware over time that you are gay. Then you are out. No big deal, no fanfare, just life as normal for you. Best wishes for a happy life.

[northy]

So, I am a male who is almost 16 years old, and for the past couple of years, I have been struggling with my sexuality. I never had a girlfriend before, and never wanted one. I started to think something was weird when everyone around me started dating girls, but I wasn't. I was in denial that I liked guys, and tried to convince myself otherwise. After about two years of thinking it through, I finally admitted to myself that I am gay. I'm not ready to come out to anyone yet, so I was just wondering, how do you know when you are actually ready to come out? I thought about coming out and it's scary. I know in the long run that I'll be grateful that I did, but even thinking about telling every single person that I know that I'm gay makes me sick to my stomach. My parents always supported gays, so I know for a fact they won't have a problem with it, but I'm not super close to them. Just wanted some advice on anything regarding this. :)

This is very similar to me. There is nothing that means you have to come out. I haven't , only on here. If you want to tell people, then do what you want. If they are you true friends then they will support you. Good luck and I'm happy to talk if you ever want to.

[SethfromMI]

There is no need to "come out" as in making an announcement . Just live your life as you feel is right for you. If you have guy friends and girl friends they will become aware over time that you are gay. Then you are out. No big deal, no fanfare, just life as normal for you. Best wishes for a happy life.

this is great advice. it is not like you have to tell the whole world from the mountain top. go on living life. if you feel there are people you want to tell, then tell them. if not, that's ok too

[jacshamy]

So, I am a male who is almost 16 years old, and for the past couple of years, I have been struggling with my sexuality. I never had a girlfriend before, and never wanted one. I started to think something was weird when everyone around me started dating girls, but I wasn't. I was in denial that I liked guys, and tried to convince myself otherwise. After about two years of thinking it through, I finally admitted to myself that I am gay. I'm not ready to come out to anyone yet, so I was just wondering, how do you know when you are actually ready to come out? I thought about coming out and it's scary. I know in the long run that I'll be grateful that I did, but even thinking about telling every single person that I know that I'm gay makes me sick to my stomach. My parents always supported gays, so I know for a fact they won't have a problem with it, but I'm not super close to them. Just wanted some advice on anything regarding this. :)

First of all, I love you man! :) I'm starting to come out too. There's some people I still can't tell. Find a friend or sibling who will be your ally. Never come out when someone is angry. Don't use coming out as revenge. Some people just won't accept it, you have to let them go. It's scary and it really does get better!!! (((((HUG)))))

[Straya]

So, I am a male who is almost 16 years old, and for the past couple of years, I have been struggling with my sexuality. I never had a girlfriend before, and never wanted one. I started to think something was weird when everyone around me started dating girls, but I wasn't. I was in denial that I liked guys, and tried to convince myself otherwise. After about two years of thinking it through, I finally admitted to myself that I am gay. I'm not ready to come out to anyone yet, so I was just wondering, how do you know when you are actually ready to come out? I thought about coming out and it's scary. I know in the long run that I'll be grateful that I did, but even thinking about telling every single person that I know that I'm gay makes me sick to my stomach. My parents always supported gays, so I know for a fact they won't have a problem with it, but I'm not super close to them. Just wanted some advice on anything regarding this. :)

you know your ready to come out when your comfortable with people know. curently the only people who know im bi are close friends and to me there the only people i feel need to know

[Steve Jobs]

You'll become more comfortable with yourself over time. Don't act as though coming out is going to be a revolution you need to prepare for and follow through in one shot.

You don't see people flaunting anything about themselves, be it a belief or religion, that suddenly transforms the entire public's view about them!

You can slowly ease into it in conversation when it's brought up to you, or perhaps do so with a partner if/when you have one. Otherwise, it's really nobody's business what your orientation is.

Do whatever you need to do to come to terms with it yourself, until you are happy with who you are. .That's all that matters :)

[Jaffe]

I kind of agree with most posters here. There is probably no need to "come out", unless you feel your parents should for some reason be the first to know. Just be who you are, and people will figure it out. Or they won't figure it out, and that's okay too.

I never really came out. I dont hide who I am. But I don't advertise it either. Why would I? It's just me, its who I am, and I really don't care if the rest of the world understands or knows. The important people -friends, family- figured it out on their own.

[DoodleSnap]

As everyone else has said; there is no right time to come out, as such. I think that as long as you are proud of and true to yourself, then coming out is often just whenever you get a gut feel that this is when you want it to happen.
For me, I will feel ready to come out to my family when I feel able to look past criticism of my identity as a whole, and to feel 100% comfortable with having sex and discussing it with people. My parents would never take it badly, but I feel some at school would. I think that you shouldn't feel pressured to come out, but just to do it whenever it feels right for you.