Not sure what to do

[Tesserax]

So there's a girl who I recently made friends with. And we share a lot in common , and we grew close really quickly. We started talking to each other about our problems, though mostly her, and I listened even though she didn't really listen to me. But in the end I was happy that she was simply talking to me, until recently.

For some reason she stopped replying to my messages recently, and it sort of got me down, seeing the "Seen" ticks showing up every time. After about 10 messages or so I mustered up the courage to confront her about it. She couldn't give me a straight answer. Since then I've sort of avoided talking to her, and I don't know if that's the right thing to do. I've just sort of tried to ignore her, because it felt like that's what she wanted me to do. It just seemed like she didn't want to talk to me anymore.

But that's why I'm here, I'm not sure if I'm doing the right thing. I need you guys to help me out on this one, as I'm sort of clueless and confused right now.

Also, an additional fact that might help, shortly after we met I completely fell for her, and I couldn't stop thinking about her. But it wasn't just a lusty, or petty "liking" somebody, it felt far more than that. I felt like I had met my soul-mate, and I just wanted her to be happy, whether it was with me or not. And I guess that's why I'm avoiding her, because it feels like she doesn't want to talk to me, to hear my problems, and she doesn't want me in her life. She knows about this, but doesn't know how much I actually care.

Anyway, I've sort of moved on now, but I need to strike the hammer to the nail. I can't just go on living like this, I need to know if I've done the right thing, or if there's more that I need to do. Once I know that I think I can finally move on.

Anyway, thanks for reading my long post guys. To all 9Gaggers reading, here's a potato on a table:

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PEACE!!!

[Microcosm]

Perhaps she noticed your liking of her and is not ready for any dedicated relationship.

If you really want to rekindle the friendship at least, then it's probably best to see her in person somehow. That can help. If she doesn't want to see you in person or denies you, then it might be best to try to move on. However, if she's willing to hang out with you, then you could try to build up the friendship more for a bit then try asking her to be your girlfriend.

[ClaraWho]

Hm, either you told her too much or you got too close.

What theme are her problems?

What was the last conversation you had before she stopped replying?

What did she actually say when you confronted her (not just the vague description of 'couldn't give a straight answer').

~ Clara

[Straya]

So there's a girl who I recently made friends with. And we share a lot in common , and we grew close really quickly. We started talking to each other about our problems, though mostly her, and I listened even though she didn't really listen to me. But in the end I was happy that she was simply talking to me, until recently.

For some reason she stopped replying to my messages recently, and it sort of got me down, seeing the "Seen" ticks showing up every time. After about 10 messages or so I mustered up the courage to confront her about it. She couldn't give me a straight answer. Since then I've sort of avoided talking to her, and I don't know if that's the right thing to do. I've just sort of tried to ignore her, because it felt like that's what she wanted me to do. It just seemed like she didn't want to talk to me anymore.

But that's why I'm here, I'm not sure if I'm doing the right thing. I need you guys to help me out on this one, as I'm sort of clueless and confused right now.

Also, an additional fact that might help, shortly after we met I completely fell for her, and I couldn't stop thinking about her. But it wasn't just a lusty, or petty "liking" somebody, it felt far more than that. I felt like I had met my soul-mate, and I just wanted her to be happy, whether it was with me or not. And I guess that's why I'm avoiding her, because it feels like she doesn't want to talk to me, to hear my problems, and she doesn't want me in her life. She knows about this, but doesn't know how much I actually care.

Anyway, I've sort of moved on now, but I need to strike the hammer to the nail. I can't just go on living like this, I need to know if I've done the right thing, or if there's more that I need to do. Once I know that I think I can finally move on.

Anyway, thanks for reading my long post guys. To all 9Gaggers reading, here's a potato on a table:

.__
(. .)
TTT

PEACE!!!

you did the right thing if she hasnt responded to 10 messages and dint have a reason to when you spoke to her in person then youve done all you can to keep the friendship going so walking away was the right thing to do. a friendship needs both people to be interested and she obviously isnt anymore