Preasured to loose my virginity.

[danny87786]

Hey guys. As many people at my school who are not virgins at my school are and becuase of that I feel very preasured to do something about it. I also read things on here to and seeing people a few years younger than me already lost it it acutally hurts me. I don't know why I never had sex or almost had I mean I try to be attractive, outgoining an all those things. Sometimes I even feel depressed and alone. I understand okay that people can lie about it but when you have girls that are on birthcontrol at school I don't think their lying. I need advice asap!!!! Btw i'm turning 17 in 3 months

[SethfromMI]

well I guess the question is what do you want? are you looking to engage in those activities? that I do not think we can really give advice about, but I can say when you find the right girl it will work out for you.

or are you just shy about not having done it yet? everyone does it at different ages? yes I did it younger at 14. some people wait until they are married (which, in reality, is probably the way it should be even though that ship has sailed for me). you do not have to be shy about not having had sex though. it does not make you a freak, weird, or anything like that, even if you are in the minority.

it is definitely not something you should feel pressured into doing. never feel pressured into having sex

[danny87786]

I'm not really shy, it depends on how I'm feeling I mean I acutally feel shy sexting a girl not a guy but showing my penis in front of a girl like in person I mean and not a guy. Its weird I know I tried both and that the furdest I went sexually. I guess I do feel shy but thats normal all the non-virgins at my school had that feeling

[SethfromMI]

I'm not really shy, it depends on how I'm feeling I mean I acutally feel shy sexting a girl not a guy but showing my penis in front of a girl like in person I mean and not a guy. Its weird I know I tried both and that the furdest I went sexually. I guess I do feel shy but thats normal all the non-virgins at my school had that feeling


a lot of guys, whether straight, whatever don't really care if another guy sees them nude. I know we shower nude at my school after gym and stuff so you get used to it.

some people are just shy when it comes to sexual stuff. being seeing nude by a guy, if you are not into guys, is not sexual. if you are into girls, being see nude is a sexual thing which is why you are shy in those situations.

[TheLotus]

Only do something if you feel you should. Don't be pressured or forced into doing something that others say they are doing.

[danny87786]

haha wow we don't have that open people at school!! some guys even use a stall to change their shirts. I go to school with thr biggest rpude that ever saw the light of day. What do you mean exactly at the last part becuase I think you just helped me resolve a long stuggle I had with myself.

[SethfromMI]

haha wow we don't have that open people at school!! some guys even use a stall to change their shirts. I go to school with thr biggest rpude that ever saw the light of day. What do you mean exactly at the last part becuase I think you just helped me resolve a long stuggle I had with myself.

well I think some people are just more shy about being in sexual situations. so even if they want to have sex, it might still be a situation which causes them anxiety. take being naked. when you are naked around another guy you don't have any problems. you are not attracted to guys (by what I'm hearing) and you don't see it as a sexual situation. but being naked around a girl, that is usually in a situation more sexual and even though you are attracted to her and even want something to happen, it can still create some anxiety or whatever for you. it actually is common with a lot of people

[danny87786]

aww that makes more sense of my situation.

[SethfromMI]

aww that makes more sense of my situation.

the more you are in those situations, the more comfortable you may be.then again, some are just shy of those situations for most/their life. It is something though which may work to your advantage. It gives you more time to find that special someone. once you find her, there is a good chance you may not be shy with her.

[NewZealand]

Hey guys. As many people at my school who are not virgins at my school are and becuase of that I feel very preasured to do something about it. I also read things on here to and seeing people a few years younger than me already lost it it acutally hurts me. I don't know why I never had sex or almost had I mean I try to be attractive, outgoining an all those things. Sometimes I even feel depressed and alone. I understand okay that people can lie about it but when you have girls that are on birthcontrol at school I don't think their lying. I need advice asap!!!! Btw i'm turning 17 in 3 months

dont get upset about it dude itl happen, ive knowen gus to loose it allot later than you :) as for the birth control thing, girls go on it for more reasons than just to stop getting pregnant, it can stop acne, or if they have bad cramps ect.

[Bluebyrd]

Don't feel like you need to jist because others have.

[Vermilion]

Hey guys. As many people at my school who are not virgins at my school are and becuase of that I feel very preasured to do something about it. I also read things on here to and seeing people a few years younger than me already lost it it acutally hurts me. I don't know why I never had sex or almost had I mean I try to be attractive, outgoining an all those things. Sometimes I even feel depressed and alone. I understand okay that people can lie about it but when you have girls that are on birthcontrol at school I don't think their lying. I need advice asap!!!! Btw i'm turning 17 in 3 months

I'm 18 Next month and still a virgin do I want to loose it yes and I upset yes and no

[Uranus]

Whatever you do, DO NOT lose your virginity because of others pressuring you into it. You only have it once, don't lose it until you're ready and want to. Don't lose it just to "Fit in" with the crowd. Or anything else that would not be your own choice. When you are ready, is the only time you should do so.

[Jaffe]

I don't think anyone here on VT is pressuring anyone else. Most people here are pretty open about being a virgin or not being. And really, none of us care either way. We try to value people as people, not for what they have done or not done.

People in real life might be different. But ignore them! Really, be who you are, whatever that is.

Not all of us have sex for love and relationships. A lot of us do it just to figure it out, to experiment, to find out who and what we are. But some people don't need to have sex to figure that out. We all figure it out different ways. So.... Don't do it unless its for YOU. Not for pressure. Not to be like other people. Not to be different than other people. Only if its what YOU want. There is no other good reason to have it.

[Dalton504]

I am almost 16 and I'm a virgin also. Lots of people around me have lost it as well, but don't let that pressure you into losing your virginity. You can only lose your virginity once, why not lose it to someone who you actually care about; don't lose it to someone who you barely know and won't ever talk again after having sex.

[DriveAlive]

Don't feel pressured. I feel pressured as a football player to have a girlfriend and to have sex, but I am gay. I find that if you remember that plenty of people wait until later (I know thats a lot easier said than done) you might not feel so pressured. Also, just remember that you have college to look forward to.

[Cloud_Strife]

Hey guys. As many people at my school who are not virgins at my school are and becuase of that I feel very preasured to do something about it. I also read things on here to and seeing people a few years younger than me already lost it it acutally hurts me. I don't know why I never had sex or almost had I mean I try to be attractive, outgoining an all those things. Sometimes I even feel depressed and alone. I understand okay that people can lie about it but when you have girls that are on birthcontrol at school I don't think their lying. I need advice asap!!!! Btw i'm turning 17 in 3 months

It's your choice mate. Don't feel pressured to do things which you aren't comfortable with, nor ready for. If you look at the statistics, quite a few high school students lie about their level of sexual activity. No doubt, there would be some who would be sexually active who would be telling the truth, but not all of them.

Just because others have experienced some things, doesn't make it a necessity for you to as well. Just because some people drink alcohol, smoke, use drugs, steal, etc. doesn't make it something which you must practice. Make a deliberate choice based upon what your own principles and values are. Take care mate.

[CuriousConner]

Don't be pressured into anything in life... especially sex. Don't do anything with someone until you're ready

[LoveDat]

its just important that you feel comfortable with the person who is gonna be the one and that you are sure that this someone is special to you.. It doesnt have to be your future wife!
as long as you havent found that person there is no reasons to feel bad about being a virgin..
in the end youll probably have way better sex than the people that just took the first willing girl they saw because you actually care for that partner!
And if the other persn feels the same your body looks will be only secendary ;)
hope thi helps you!

[fast8]

Don't do it to you are ready and fine that one person you love and trust no need to do it because others say they are doing it just be you

[Anomaly]

Don't let anyone rush you into anything, live life at your own pace! Theres no rush, and girls respect a guy who is patient!