Help Asking Out

[mcsteamy]

Hey so last Saturday I went to the mall and while I was there, I went to a Vans store. I asked this guy (who is around the same age as I am) to help me, and in all honestly, he seemed to be gay too (I'm bi). He was really cute and he seemed to be flirting with me. I left and I've been thinking about him ever since. Tomorrow I have to go back to the mall to return some stuff, including the shoes I bought. I hope that I see him there because I kinda want to ask him out, or at least just get his number, but I just don't know how. What should I do? This is my first time I've had an actual crush on a guy and I'm completely lost here.

[Sabercat]

I think you should just go for it. Easier said than done. I know. But the nervousness of asking someone out has held me back from asking the girl of my dreams out. Don't lay it happen to you. Go during lunch and see if you two can have lunch together.

[Straya]

Hey so last Saturday I went to the mall and while I was there, I went to a Vans store. I asked this guy (who is around the same age as I am) to help me, and in all honestly, he seemed to be gay too (I'm bi). He was really cute and he seemed to be flirting with me. I left and I've been thinking about him ever since. Tomorrow I have to go back to the mall to return some stuff, including the shoes I bought. I hope that I see him there because I kinda want to ask him out, or at least just get his number, but I just don't know how. What should I do? This is my first time I've had an actual crush on a guy and I'm completely lost here.

just straight up ask him for his number

[Elysium]

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[mcsteamy]

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Ahh thank you! Wasn't quite sure where to put it. I'm not on here frequently so I put it in the only place I knew of :)

[Elysium]

Ahh thank you! Wasn't quite sure where to put it. I'm not on here frequently so I put it in the only place I knew of :)
No harm done :P

Anyhow, in response to your actual question... I'm not a guy, nor am I particularly interested in guys, so you might want to take what I say with a grain of salt. But it seems to me that the best thing to do really is to just be out with it. This isn't a guy you know or see regularly and it'd be easy to never see him again if you don't want to, so what's there to lose in just asking him? Maybe you'll be a little embarrassed or disappointed if he says no, but so what? Who's he to you? It's not like you're about to lose a friendship or start rumors or anything.

[ImCoolBeans]

I agree with what the others have said. It might be difficult to get yourself to do it, but just go for it and ask him. The worst thing that can happen is he says no and you never have to see him again. I would much rather be the guy who tried and failed than the guy who always wished and hoped but never actually got to see what would happen. If you think he was flirting with you he probably was. Give it a shot and best of luck :)

[pjones]

hope you see him. be brave and ask for his number and see if he wants to hang out sometime. good luck

[Snydergate]

That's awesome bro, I think you should just go for it. If he seemd to like you and all that then there should be no issue. Ask him out and have a great time with it!

[mcsteamy]

Thanks for the advice guys! Unfortunately, he wasn't there when I went again the other day, so I'm just going to go again on Saturday when he should be there on his shift like last week. Still on the fence about what I'm gonna do though.

[Snydergate]

Thanks for the advice guys! Unfortunately, he wasn't there when I went again the other day, so I'm just going to go again on Saturday when he should be there on his shift like last week. Still on the fence about what I'm gonna do though.

Just go for it bro, it'll work out

[SethfromMI]

Hey so last Saturday I went to the mall and while I was there, I went to a Vans store. I asked this guy (who is around the same age as I am) to help me, and in all honestly, he seemed to be gay too (I'm bi). He was really cute and he seemed to be flirting with me. I left and I've been thinking about him ever since. Tomorrow I have to go back to the mall to return some stuff, including the shoes I bought. I hope that I see him there because I kinda want to ask him out, or at least just get his number, but I just don't know how. What should I do? This is my first time I've had an actual crush on a guy and I'm completely lost here.

go for it. if you really don't know him anyways, no real harm if he says no :).

if I wasn't already dating and you asked me, I'd def go out at least once with you. got nothing to lose man, best of luck :)

[Greysanatomyislife]

Your cute im sure he will say yes if you just ask him, and if he says no then no harm done yall dont really know each other anyways

[DoodleSnap]

As everyone has said, I would say that you should drop some hints and ask him if he wants to go out sometime!
Believe me, letting go and throwing yourself into a situation without over analysing (which I do a lot of!) is a great way to build confidence and have fun.
Just straight up (excuse the pun) see how he reacts to your proposition and take it from there!
Good luck.

[Steve Jobs]

Best of luck!

I never harnessed the balls to do such a thing in my single life, but I'd have been extremely flattered if anyone approached me in such a way, whether I wanted them or not!

[Adventure boy]

Hey so last Saturday I went to the mall and while I was there, I went to a Vans store. I asked this guy (who is around the same age as I am) to help me, and in all honestly, he seemed to be gay too (I'm bi). He was really cute and he seemed to be flirting with me. I left and I've been thinking about him ever since. Tomorrow I have to go back to the mall to return some stuff, including the shoes I bought. I hope that I see him there because I kinda want to ask him out, or at least just get his number, but I just don't know how. What should I do? This is my first time I've had an actual crush on a guy and I'm completely lost here.

You can ask if you want to hang sometime get pizza or something

[Plane And Simple]

Agreed with what's being said. Just go all out and ask him if he wants to go our for pizza/coffee/lunch really. Worst thing happening is you having to change store, so you have a lot to win and nothing to loose.

[SethfromMI]

Hey so last Saturday I went to the mall and while I was there, I went to a Vans store. I asked this guy (who is around the same age as I am) to help me, and in all honestly, he seemed to be gay too (I'm bi). He was really cute and he seemed to be flirting with me. I left and I've been thinking about him ever since. Tomorrow I have to go back to the mall to return some stuff, including the shoes I bought. I hope that I see him there because I kinda want to ask him out, or at least just get his number, but I just don't know how. What should I do? This is my first time I've had an actual crush on a guy and I'm completely lost here.

so did you end up asking him out?

[mcsteamy]

so did you end up asking him out?

Funny thing is that I've went back to the store TWICE to do it, but he was never there. Gonna keep going back till I find him though!

[SethfromMI]

Funny thing is that I've went back to the store TWICE to do it, but he was never there. Gonna keep going back till I find him though!

bummer, but good for you persistence man! :D I wish you the best of luck :)

[Cronor]

I really want to see the outcome of this..
Please tell us if you find him, this sounds so heartwarming :)