Best-friends?

[haibekah]

Okay so, a long time ago, before i met my current best friend i dated this guy. Ironically she had dated him before me. We met through him. After i dated him, her and i got really close, like we are now. All of a sudden, theyre seeing eachother, messing around and everything.

She promised me that she wasn't going to do that. She said that she didn't want to go through the hurt again. Now, she's messing around with him, getting involved. Everything. It's really bugging me. I can't tell her how i feel a) because i don't really know how i feel and b) because it would make her upset, and i don't to ruin this for her (if it does work out).

I thought it was her idea to mess around with him, but she just told me that it was his. That really hurt because when him and i dated he wouldn't even touch me. I had to ASK for kisses and such.

Don't get me wrong , I don't like the guy or anything , I'm not jealous. I just don't like what she's doing. Especially since she promised me that she wouldn't. It's just not something a best friend should do.

I don't know if I should tell her, and if i did, i have no clue what i'd say.

What should i do?
D:

[Gumleaf]

this is a tough one because i can understand how you feel betrayed but i can also understand how old feelings can come back just like that. my thoughts on this is that if she felt so strongly about not getting back with him, and now has, that says to me that she has found something else in him that she really likes and honestly believes that it won't end in pain again.

if it was me in your situation, i would want to weigh up whether its worth risking your friendship to get involved, or bite your tongue and be as supportive as you can. getting involved here i would think would be high risk because if she didn't see things your way she would play the jealously card or worse things that could end your friendship.

in the end the decision is yours, but for what its worth, if it was me i would just try and be really supportive of them and keep my best friend. hope this helps and good luck.

[haibekah]

That actually sound like a good idea.

Thanks!