More than a friend?

[drum major]

I have this friend who i want to be more than a friend. I want him to be a brother. I dont like him in a sexual sense but i know that i need a brother to keep me sane otherwise i will not be able to survive the rest of anything. He is there for me a lot but i am a lot to handle and i feel that i am pushing him further and further away. Any advice?

[ClaraWho]

Sort yourself out. No really. What makes you define yourself as 'a lot to handle', what baggage do you feel you are bringing to the relationship?

[Abhorrence]

Honestly, in my experience male friends are difficult. They're often a lot more repressed in their thoughts than females and a lot less open. It's difficult to have such a bond with males imo.

[Ryanq512]

Look I might not be able to give you much advice if any at all but if it helps at all. I was in a similar situation except my best friend was the one who was hard to handle an when I say hard to handle like every person that knows him and finds out how close to we are has come to me and asked how I handle him or gives me crap for being his friend. He is a very wild kid. It was like the same thing as you, he was a friend that I wanted to be more of a brother. What I did is I just let things take it course. Maybe just try letting things happen as they happen. If it works out great if not maybe it wasn't meant to be. Yeah it can be difficult to have a relationship like that with males but it can happen. It did with me. Maybe just try finding something you two can bond over. Me and my friend both were injured around the same time which took us from are sports which I think helped our bond. This might have been no help but it might give you some kind of hope that it can happen and let me just say it is the best damn thing that could happen to anyone.

[DarkHorse4eva]

i'd say tell him how you feel.
i have a few best friends who i call my brothers/sisters, but that's mostly because i feel very close to them, because i see them as my brothers and sisters and, kinda because my genetic brothers are shit, but mostly because i feel as close to those few friends as i does, and it's mutual

[Gerald1700]

Try finding his weak sides, try getting his soft spots
Show him you care about him, call him, invite him over bond with him
Take any opportunity available, give him fun moments that he'll never forget
Don't over exaggerate and scare him cool down but most important keep him closer and be kind and show him that how important he is to you