No romantic life

[CreativeUsername]

Hi, I'm 15 and basically I've had no romantic life. I've been dealing with anxiety and depression for a few years that have kept me away from school and social situations. Not to mention that when I'm in situations where there's a girl that I like or that likes me, I never know how to act and mess it up. I'm an introvert, and don't really have many friends (just writing this is making me more depressed). If you look at some of my past posts, you can see more examples of this. I'm 5'6", 125lbs, and not the most attractive guy. I also have a bit of belly that I'm really self conscious about. I try to dress well but it doesn't seem to change things.

Basically, I'm just a shy guy who has a horrible romantic history (1 "girlfriend", though it wasn't much, and a lot of rejections). I don't really know if I'm doing anything wrong and what I can do to make myself seem more attractive. I also haven't really had a first kiss or anything beyond that, and I don't really know if I should tell someone that and how. I always seem to miss signs that someone likes me. Like there was a girl in my anxiety group that I didn't realize until she left the group might have been interested. I guess I just want help.

[Uniquemind]

Well first off you can get in shape by diet and exercise changes.

The social part you'll need practice at, and you just need to acknowledge mistakes and awkwardness or appearing awkward to others isn't the end of everything.

Just keep moving on and being chill with life's ups and downs.

If you need professional help see a psychologist.

[Remora]

One thing that really worked for me was paying close attention whenever i had conversations with people. If they don't appear annoyed, they're enjoying their time- they're enjoying you! I hadn't realized this until about a month ago, but i've been much more comfortable with myself ever since.

[skittle]

If they don't appear annoyed, they're enjoying their time- they're enjoying you!

So much this. Be confident, confidence goes a long way. It'll make you feel better about yourself and it will naturally draw people to you.
Also, you're just 15 and have a lot of time for a relationship, even though I can see why you want one. You shouldn't be looking to "have a history" though. Instead, focus on your friendships and finding general happiness, and a relationship might start there. Maybe try putting yourself out there? Joining clubs or sports are a great way to meet people who you'll already have something in common with, and maybe a sport could also help you toward your fitness goals?

Good luck!

[WintersuN]

As much as it's difficult to accept, even for me when I was fifteen, is that you shouldn't be worrying about having romantic relationships. It's a strange middle stage where a lot of conflicting information is coming your way, but from my experience I would say don't worry about it and just focus on having fun, playing sports and learning new things. Pick up an instrument or something. I learnt the hard way that when it comes to relationships and romance it's about patience. Don't get too caught up in the furore of having a relationship when you're fifteen and don't rush into anything.