Does he like me? I am getting mixed messages....

[Kitty_Kat]

Theres this guy that I have had a crush on since February. I am generally outgoing around friends and family, but around anyone else, I am really shy, especially boys. I didn't do anything about it for a few months.

In May, I found his account on social media. I added him. A few days later, he added me back. I then spent 2 weeks deciding whether or not I should message him. I finally did 2 weeks after he added me back. I didn't think he would get back to me as he barely goes on that account.

2 weeks after that, he replied. We exchanged messages, and he asked if I had Facebook. I told him I deleted it, but that I had a phone instead. Then no response. A few days later I found him online and I messaged him saying hi. He replied immediately, we talked a bit about school.

Since he saw that I messaged him, he has been acting differently. So far, he has....
-Been online every single day, after a long period of inactivity. He used to never go on that account before I messaged him. But I'm getting mixed messages because he never actually messages me first when we are both online, but does reply to my messages.
-Changed his profile pic. Again, he wasn't very active on that account before I messaged him. His last pics before that were posted last year.
-Got a new haircut. Not sure if that was a coincidence or on purpose.

I'm really confused because although we don't go to the same school and I only see him once a week, he barely speaks to me in person when we do see each other. He looks at me a lot, but never starts a conversation with me. On social media, he is online every day since I messaged him, he never starts the conversations but actively replies when I start them. It seems like he is interested in some ways, but some of the things he does it seems like he's not interested. I am so confused. I don't understand teenage boys at all. Can someone please help?

[mrjc]

he might be shy like you, just give him time and keep trying

[Uniquemind]

Sounds like he's just shy, but interested.

You should message him that you'd like him to actually approach you in real life next time you see each other, and hang out.


There are guys who don't make first moves, for fear of appearing desperate, and a lot of advice guys get from friends and online and magazines is to always wait after getting a message from a girl you're interested in, so as NOT to appear desperate.

The theory is that desperation itself hurts a man's chances with the girl they want.

[WintersuN]

Just be frank and ask about it if you're interested in knowing. There's only one way to find out, and sitting on your hands isn't the best way of finding it.

[jacko123]

In my opinion, he probably likes you but it's hard to know for certain. If so, i feel he is in a similar position to me when i liked someone a while ago. The increased activity yet reluctance to message first and the changing of his profile picture would seem about right. Maybe next time when you are talking question him , but saying "So you fancy any girl?" or the equivalent.

I think the haircut may be a coincidence though hahaha

Hope i helped!