i want to be a boy ...

[Elena_]

Hey , sup? :)
Well , the point is that sometimes I dont like being a girl , i dont want to be as superficial as all my girl friends , I dont like that much going shopping ... I hate the way society stereotypes women , I dont want to be either a mom or a housewife . I think being a boy is quite easier...
Sometimes I would like not to have a vagina (no periods , no pregnancy...)
Is this normal?

PS: Im attracted to boys

[Jaffe]

Its 2015. There is nothing that is not normal. You could get random boners instead of periods.

Are you trans? Or just tired of who you are?

[Elena_]

Its 2015. There is nothing that is not normal. You could get random boners instead of periods.

Are you trans? Or just tired of who you are?

Awww i dont know !! I have never been a girly girl , and I prefer hanging out with boys ...
And I think Im tired of myself too , but i dont really now.
This is really confusing lol

[mrjc]

we feel a lot of things as a teen so you might change your mind later

[Elena_]

we feel a lot of things as a teen so you might change your mind later

Yeah i guess so ... But that happened when i was younger too ... So ... Well , i dont know what I am...
Have you ever felt like this?

[mrjc]

na im happy as a boy, have you told your parents how you feel?

[northy]

You might be trans or it could just be those pesky hormones that we all know and love.

[Babs]

Not wanting to go shopping or be a housewife doesn't necessarily make you trans. It just means you don't want to fit female stereotypes.
You COULD be trans, but what you described doesn't really make you trans.

[Elena_]

joshcarter nope , they are a little bit conservative , i guess they wouldnt like it. And it must be quite awkward northy and Aristocrats Maybe you guys are right , i dont know lol how can i know if im trans or not?

[Sarcastic Cupcake]

I don't think that you're trans. I feel the way you do a lot of the time (all my friends are boys, I never wear makeup, and I don't like shopping at all), but that's just normal. On the spectrum of feminine and masculine, you're closer to the masculine side. However, since you never described feeling like you were born in the wrong body (pretty much the definition of transgender), I'm going to go with the thought that you're just a tomboy as opposed to a stereotypical girl.

[Uniquemind]

Hey , sup? :)
Well , the point is that sometimes I dont like being a girl , i dont want to be as superficial as all my girl friends , I dont like that much going shopping ... I hate the way society stereotypes women , I dont want to be either a mom or a housewife . I think being a boy is quite easier...
Sometimes I would like not to have a vagina (no periods , no pregnancy...)
Is this normal?

PS: Im attracted to boys

The grass is always greener on the other side.

It's normal to have those thoughts and feelings.

While it was certainly true in ancient days, and in foreign countries still in the dark ages.


But in modern times I think this is outdated.

Grass is not greener on the other side.

[Tyson S]

If you were to become a boy do you think you would become gay? Would you like that?

[SethfromMI]

I love being a guy haha

I think you just think it might be easier to be a boy sometimes than being a girl, but the question is would you ever actually consider changing gender

[Elena_]

The grass is always greener on the other side.

It's normal to have those thoughts and feelings.

While it was certainly true in ancient days, and in foreign countries still in the dark ages.


But in modern times I think this is outdated.

Grass is not greener on the other side.

I don't think that you're trans. I feel the way you do a lot of the time (all my friends are boys, I never wear makeup, and I don't like shopping at all), but that's just normal. On the spectrum of feminine and masculine, you're closer to the masculine side. However, since you never described feeling like you were born in the wrong body (pretty much the definition of transgender), I'm going to go with the thought that you're just a tomboy as opposed to a stereotypical girl.


If you were to become a boy do you think you would become gay? Would you like that?

I love being a guy haha

I think you just think it might be easier to be a boy sometimes than being a girl, but the question is would you ever actually consider changing gender

Thanks for all your answers (again haha) !!
I have been thinking about it and I cant see myself as a boy, although that must be cool hehe
So I guess Im not transexual , sometimes i dont like being a girl , but I guess being a boy isnt as easy as I thought lol

[Tyson S]

Well being a boy is easy but I imagine that if you were to go ahead with it that you may not want a dangling penis :P. I wanted to be a girl at one stage but then decided it wasn't for me. Don't worry your not alone.

Good luck ��

[Microcosm]

Personally, I've always thought it's best to try and accept who you are. As has been already stated above, you might change your mind later on. Your thoughts about who you are typically change very frequently as you grow older. It'd be your best bet to try and accept yourself and your gender.

[Elena_]

Well being a boy is easy but I imagine that if you were to go ahead with it that you may not want a dangling penis :P. I wanted to be a girl at one stage but then decided it wasn't for me. Don't worry your not alone.

Good luck ��

True !! I cant imagine myself in a boy's body, althought i like the way boys think and act haha

Personally, I've always thought it's best to try and accept who you are. As has been already stated above, you might change your mind later on. Your thoughts about who you are typically change very frequently as you grow older. It'd be your best bet to try and accept yourself and your gender.

Yeah you are right !! But it isnt always easy : society is always stereotyping , and i cant stand that

[Body odah Man]

True !! I cant imagine myself in a boy's body, althought i like the way boys think and act haha



Yeah you are right !! But it isnt always easy : society is always stereotyping , and i cant stand that

Yeah, the stereotypes of society are harsh, but what is harsher is the worry that we fail and have damned ourselves in the gaze of God...
But yeah, judging from what you've said and claimed I don't think you're trans, just unable to be what society wants women to be. I think you should just be yourself and try to accept who you are.

If you aren't sure you're trans ask yourself these questions:
do you feel uncomfortable in your body?
Does your body feel 'wrong' to you?
Do you dream about having a guy's body?
Do you feel like you are in the wrong body?

If the answer to many of those questions is yes then you're probably trans. If it's no, then you're just struggling to be 'the woman'

[Desuetude]

Trans isn't just transmen and transwomen, its a spectrum and there are genders like genderfluid (you switch between feeling 'male' and 'female') and non-binary (you feel neither male nor female). So don't think that just because you don't see yourself as male completely that you're not trans, but also don't think that because you don't fit the stereotypical 'girly girl' mould that you are. There's a difference between tomboy and trans.

Only you can know what you are and how you feel. Think about it over a couple of months. Wear guys clothes, say 'I'm male', 'I'm female' in the mirror and see which one feels right. About the "no periods, no pregnancy" thing, this could be a sign of being trans. Do you feel uncomfortable and dysphoric about having a vagina or is it just a nuisance and you can't be bothered? If its the latter then i can tell you most girls are in that situation of it just bring effort but that definitely doesn't necessarily mean youre trans.

Even if you don't have a clue what your gender is, that's okay too. You don't have to put a label on yourself even though that feels like the most stable option, forcing a label just gives you more unnecessary expectations to live up to. Just be you and be comfortable with who you are.

[Elena_]

Yeah, the stereotypes of society are harsh, but what is harsher is the worry that we fail and have damned ourselves in the gaze of God...
But yeah, judging from what you've said and claimed I don't think you're trans, just unable to be what society wants women to be. I think you should just be yourself and try to accept who you are.

If you aren't sure you're trans ask yourself these questions:
do you feel uncomfortable in your body?
Does your body feel 'wrong' to you?
Do you dream about having a guy's body?
Do you feel like you are in the wrong body?

If the answer to many of those questions is yes then you're probably trans. If it's no, then you're just struggling to be 'the woman'

Trans isn't just transmen and transwomen, its a spectrum and there are genders like genderfluid (you switch between feeling 'male' and 'female') and non-binary (you feel neither male nor female). So don't think that just because you don't see yourself as male completely that you're not trans, but also don't think that because you don't fit the stereotypical 'girly girl' mould that you are. There's a difference between tomboy and trans.

Only you can know what you are and how you feel. Think about it over a couple of months. Wear guys clothes, say 'I'm male', 'I'm female' in the mirror and see which one feels right. About the "no periods, no pregnancy" thing, this could be a sign of being trans. Do you feel uncomfortable and dysphoric about having a vagina or is it just a nuisance and you can't be bothered? If its the latter then i can tell you most girls are in that situation of it just bring effort but that definitely doesn't necessarily mean youre trans.

Even if you don't have a clue what your gender is, that's okay too. You don't have to put a label on yourself even though that feels like the most stable option, forcing a label just gives you more unnecessary expectations to live up to. Just be you and be comfortable with who you are.

Awww thanks for your replies !!
And sometimes I want to be a boy so bad , but not always. Maybe thats due to my hormones , i dont know. It depends on the moment ...although i dont want to take pills or had a surgery now

[Body odah Man]

Awww thanks for your replies !!
And sometimes I want to be a boy so bad , but not always. Maybe thats due to my hormones , i dont know. It depends on the moment ...although i dont want to take pills or had a surgery now

Yeah hormones are annoying. They turned me from a sweet, innocent boy to a guy who, as they say, 'bonum et malum sciens'. Plus comes combined with body odor and scented baths to get rid of said odor (scented flowery baths+ guy equals why me ) and other female and male complaints and you get why puberty sucks.

I'm glad that I was of some help (as I assume) and I'm also glad you're starting to understand what you want and who you are; that's always a useful thing to know. I hope things work out for you and if you need any advice I'll be glad to help if I can