I'm 15, I'm shy and I have a crush on a girl

[andrew1999]

There is a girl I have a crush on in my school. We are the same age but are in none of the same classes. I want to start taking to her but I'm quite shy around people I've never met before, especially girls. I've never talked to her before and I'm not sure how to approach her. I think I'm scared of being rejected by her but I've never felt this way about many girls before. I don't have many female friends and I don't think she has many male friends either.

I've never had a girlfriend so I'm inexperienced with girls as you can probably guess. I'm not unpopular in my school but neither is she. I also don't think I'm ugly or unattractive but again she is definitely attractive.

I know sitting around doing nothing expecting a miracle isn't going to do
anything but I am still unsure on what to do.

I want to message her on Facebook but because we've never spoke before in our lives, if I message her she will probably think I'm weird.

I know once I get talking to her I will be fine with her and I won't be shy around her anymore, so if anyone has any ideas on what I can do to help me to try and get this girls attention, I'd really appreciate it!

[mrjc]

trying on facebook first is a good idea, make contact online before face to face.
then at school just say hi, how are you, stuff like that. build a relationship mate

[WintersuN]

If you've never introduced herself and you don't have any classes, just message her on Facebook with something you have in common. You might like the same music for example, just say something like, "Hi there, I just noticed on your Facebook that you're into ______. I'm a pretty big fan of them myself...etc...etc." Anything really.

[andrew1999]

I've just had exams and they're over. I'm not sure if she's staying on at my school

If you've never introduced herself and you don't have any classes, just message her on Facebook with something you have in common. You might like the same music for example, just say something like, "Hi there, I just noticed on your Facebook that you're into ______. I'm a pretty big fan of them myself...etc...etc." Anything really.

I don't know what we have in common and won't that sound a bit weird if
I go on her Facebook profile?

-merged double post. -Emerald Dream

[mrjc]

facebook the way to go then, hope it works out

[andrew1999]

Thanks man, really appreciate it. The only problem is what do I talk to her about? I don't know anything about her and obviously I want to get to know her but how can I do this without seeming weird?

[Straya]

Thanks man, really appreciate it. The only problem is what do I talk to her about? I don't know anything about her and obviously I want to get to know her but how can I do this without seeming weird?

if youve got classes together maybe say hey in so and so class did you understand this and get a convo going that way

[andrew1999]

We aren't in any of the same classes and like
I say school has finished for me now and idk if she's coming back

[WintersuN]

Why exactly are you interested in this girl if you don't know anything about her? I'm genuinely curious.

[Straya]

yea i agree with wintersun if you havent had any contact with her before what the interest

[mrjc]

she looks hot lol
ask her how her exams went and what she want to do when she older

[andrew1999]

I hadn't noticed her until a month or so ago and I think she's really attractive and ever since I feel weird when I see her but I feel happy too. I don't want FWB or anything like that but to start talking to her to find out more about her would be nice.

[mrjc]

like I said just start with hows it going and build from there

[Straya]

well then just add her on facebook and say hi. you never know whats gonna happen unless you try

[mrjc]

yeah you will regret it If you don't try mate so go for it

[andrew1999]

Thanks everyone for your help. I'm going to try messaging her on Facebook and if it doesn't work then I can say at least I tried������

[mrjc]

good mate, all the best

[Straya]

Thanks everyone for your help. I'm going to try messaging her on Facebook and if it doesn't work then I can say at least I tried������

exactly better to of tried and got a no than sit there wondering if she woulda said yes

[Miss_Lovely]

I have a crush on someone and Im really scared to talk to...hot guys... because im scared i might get rejected or something might not go the way I planned, but honestly, if this girl isnt nice, she isnt worth it. I will be honest, it seems hard to try to get something going if its summer and... she might be moving, and you also dont have classes with her. In my opinion, if a guy started talking to me, (attractive or not) I would feel like... oh.. this is new, and sudden, and somewhat strange, but I would know my manners and to always be kind and polite and to treat everyone right, but it would be weird cus I dont know them.. do you have any friends that are friends with her? If so, maybe tell that friend (IF YOU TRUST THEM) that u sorta like her, and make a plan to go somewhere or do something together, that way, both of you would be together and be somewhat forced to say something to each other lol :P but ehhh yeah, I know exactly how you feel. the facebook thing is a good idea, its not weird to friend request someone, all my facebook friends add whoever, just because we go to the same school, you might wanna add her, if she adds you, say that, you have a friend thats friends with her (IF U DO, cuz if u lie, she might ask who, SO DONT LIE) or you could say, I saw you were friends with some of my mutual friends, and i think ur pretty... a compliment wouldnt be a big deal.... i mean, gotts remember that people add people just because they are hot too a.. so dive into that, and see where it takes ya :) Good luck.

[Miss_Lovely]

Pardon my typos and grammar, I didnt double check.

[andrew1999]

What I meant by she isn't popular is that she isn't friends with all of the other attractive girls in my school and all of the attractive girls at my school are popular. I have no mutual friends with her in real life but I do have her on Facebook. Obviously I don't know what to say to her if I am to message her over facebook

[andrew1999]

Thanks man

[mrman1239]

Actually you should connect with her on facebook