how to ask a girl out

[asrlem]

There is a girl at school that i've been talking to and really like. I want to ask her out but dont know how. Also shes cool and has high expectations. What should i do?

[Benelli]

Just ask her! If you take too long, if she is interested she will eventually give up on waiting for you to say anything (most girls won't say anything either when they like somebody.) and will turn her attention to somebody else.Give it a shot, just don't do it over a text or over social media if you know her in person. If you don't know her personally, just be careful.

[Microcosm]

Ask her to go to a movie with you or something, then make like really subtle moves like holding hands and such. Let her know you're interested, but don't say it. That can make things awkward sometimes.

[Kirina]

Openly show interest in a lot of girls, but not her. This creates jealousy (people likes to be wanted). This will be extra effective, due to her popularity (she's cool and have high expectations). She won't understand how you can be interested in all these girls, especially the girls that she is better than.

Now she will test you. She will give you attention to find out if your actually interested in her, but were just hiding it. Play hard to get. At this point she thinks your not interested, but she wants to change that and try hard to impress you. Let her attempts fail a few times, eventually she's going to go really far and your going to pretend that that's what caught your interest.

You might think that when she gets you interested, she won't be interested anymore. But it be more like a "finally senpai noticed me:wub:" kind of thing. You become "senpai" in the hard to get phase.
Well this is just guessing, I think it makes sense.

[Uniquemind]

Openly show interest in a lot of girls, but not her. This creates jealousy (people likes to be wanted). This will be extra effective, due to her popularity (she's cool and have high expectations). She won't understand how you can be interested in all these girls, especially the girls that she is better than.

Now she will test you. She will give you attention to find out if your actually interested in her, but were just hiding it. Play hard to get. At this point she thinks your not interested, but she wants to change that and try hard to impress you. Let her attempts fail a few times, eventually she's going to go really far and your going to pretend that that's what caught your interest.

You might think that when she gets you interested, she won't be interested anymore. But it be more like a "finally senpai noticed me:wub:" kind of thing. You become "senpai" in the hard to get phase.
Well this is just guessing, I think it makes sense.


Fair warning this piece of advice can backfire or be non-effective.


This piece of advice relies on a specific chain of events that doesn't always happen but can sometimes work.

When it does work it can create a lot of drama in communication with any of the other girls you flirt with and end up dumping once you get the girl you want.

Be warned this is a "high risk power game".

[Kirina]

This piece of advice relies on a specific chain of events that doesn't always happen but can sometimes work.

When it does work it can create a lot of drama in communication with any of the other girls you flirt with and end up dumping once you get the girl you want.
I didn't intend for him to get together with any of the other girls and dump them after, just show interest and get some of them to show interest in him as well. You said it yourself. :P Sometimes seeing someone else desire X makes the others around them mentally perceive X as more desirable for themselves because someone else expressed interest.This way he can get her attention by using others. Instead of going to her right away, fail hard and now she thinks of him as all of the other "losers" that asks her out.
If she does have high expectations and he slip up, that's how she is going to think. It's a cunning(?) method tho.

[Uniquemind]

I didn't intend for him to get together with any of the other girls and dump them after, just show interest and get some of them to show interest in him as well. You said it yourself. :P This way he can get her attention by using others. Instead of going to her right away, fail hard and now she thinks of him as all of the other "losers" that asks her out.
If she does have high expectations and he slip up, that's how she is going to think. It's a cunning(?) method tho.

I'm not saying it doesn't work, I'm also saying it can fail because if the context is off, the strategy is skew.


But it works on those that play games like that.

There is a chance that in order for this to work he does have to go far to date another girl and then try to get with her.

Otherwise it'll just be seen as him having friends who are girls.

He also needs to be less nervous.

[jssixna]

Be yourself and ask her out. Give her the option where she would like to go first. Be aggressive yet be a gentleman.

[mrjc]

just be yourself and ask her

[Pat the Bunny]

Show interest in other girls and stuff

Don't do this. Don't play mindgames. Even if it does work, it's still unethical.

[WintersuN]

Simply walk up to her ask if she would like to spend some time together on the weekend. Seriously, it's that simple.

[Pareta3mou]

Just walk up to her and tell her that you want to go out with her. Thats it, it's so simple. Girls like that you know, men with lots of confidence.
But don't wait for too long or otherwise you will end up being friendzoned.

[Cronor]

has high expectations

If she has got high expectations, I don't really recommend going after her. If she requires that you are as good as her, that's okay, but if she is looking for the right person but doesn't want to be the right person, then it's not okay.

Anyways, Just be yourself, approach her if you catch her alone (asking a girl out infront of her friends is not recommended), say "Hai", introduce yourself. Show some care, ask her about herself, but don't be too weird :P
Hey, what's the worst that could happen? You've got nothing to lose; If she likes you too, you just got yourself a girl, and if she doesn't - you keep your single status that you've had before asking her out.

Good luck!