For guys only: attraction and puberty.

[Uniquemind]

So it's well known once puberty hits visuals rule guys over initial crushes.

But what happens in terms for guys having a crush on a girl for her personality when puberty hits?

Are you more receptive to figuring out which personalities mesh better with yours or are more attractive to you than other types of personalities?

Or is the receptiveness for personalities post puberty the same as a young boy who is pre-pubescent and might be capable of having a crush on a girl still?

Or is it just visual only?

[Goatzbro]

I think that it really depends on the person. I don't think that we can generalize all guys of a certain age or a certain stage of puberty to "only focus on looks" or "only focus on personality". Each guy has his own life experiences and temparment, so guy A may focus on looks, while guy B may have a more balanced appraisal of a woman (or other gender). At the end of the day though, most people will still value looks in some way. We as sexually reproducing organisms will seek out mates with biologically or socially valuable traits (i.e beauty).

Personally, I am a fairly sexual person so looks are definitely important. However, genuine emotional attachment always trumps sexual attraction for me. I usually never pursue a girl or guy whom I think is good linking. I only ever pursue the ones that I actually have a connection with.

[SethfromMI]

I think a lot of times the look may be the first thing I notice. I mean, I won't like, I want to be with someone I find attractive. but they can be the most attractive person ever, if they have a bad personality, I will not spend much time on them

[tbake98]

For me, honestly, I notice looks first. I think that's what the initial cause of the "crush" is. But, as stated above, I think that changes quickly after finding out what type of personality she has. If it's great, keep going; if it's bad, then I'm not going to pursue you much more...

[Skyes]

Personally, I think looks are considered the notification of attraction. We're naturally sexual beings who have evolved to pursue those who we find attractive. Everyone has their own taste and sense of what they consider attractive so one will always stand out to one among others. In the end you're either sensible enough to compare your personalities and interests to engage in a relationship or you're selfish and care only for their looks for your benefit.

[Jaffe]

Wow, that's kind of a deep subject. It's different, I think, for every person, depending on their personality and their hormonal levels, and even on their social standing.

For me, when I hit puberty, I started to notice guys, and it was about 100% looks. But I was attracted to girls on a more emotional level. Looks didnt matter as much as being able to actually complete a sentence without using the word "like" 12 times. Geeky girls tended to be attractive to me. But hot guys were attractive.

So, really.... I'm still totally confused, and don't know the answer to yoru question.

[Seahawks15]

Looks are the first thing for me that I notice,but I have high morals.So,if I find out this girl doesn't do her work or gets in battles or does drugs,I'm turned off and done.I like attractive and smart girls.

[WintersuN]

Of course the visual component plays a part, that's just a rule of biology, especially between humans. But it's all about figuring out the personality, what makes them tick, what they like and dislike - When it comes to personality it's not about the what but about the who, as their personality makes them who they are. If you're looking for a relationship that's the most important aspect.

[rioo]

For myself, I attracted to opposite gender since I was 6 years old boy. Maybe that because I already see television show that showing couple intimate. So I think visual attraction is depend on what we see everyday.

[mcloete]

I think fro me a bit of both but visual is important

[YouTube]

There are these twins at my school and they are both really hot. The thing is, I can not decide which one I like more, as they are both very attractive. So, I plan to get to know them more so I can get more than just a visual feel for how much I really like them. (I don't know if that made any sense) But I will admit looks play a big part, but a great personality goes a long way.

[PlinyTheElder]

I've noticed that even if someone might not seem attractive the first time you meet/see them, getting to know them and their mind can make it appear more so. And i'd say that even prepubescent boys will form crushes based on appearance, that's what mainstream media is conveying to impressionable youths

[Greysanatomyislife]

For me a persons personality is biggest thing I look at. The person can be the hottest person I have ever seen, but if they turn outto be a bitch the I out the door with them. Sorry, but im not sorry.:cool:

[patsfan925]

Personality is key when establishing a LASTING relationship. If your only goal is sex then i assume looks are the only thing that matter. However if you really want to establish a real relationship that can last for a long period of time, your personalities must mesh. Personally, if I'm going to invest my time in establishing a relationship I make sure its someone i could talk to for an extended period of time and really get along with.

[joel-d]

I've noticed that even if someone might not seem attractive the first time you meet/see them, getting to know them and their mind can make it appear more so.

I definitely agree with this. There are the obviously hot people who you notice right away. But some of the people I have ended up liking best are ones who I didn't notice just from looks initially, but then as I got to know them more, they became really attractive to me as I got to know their personalities and minds. And they truly do become really attractive to you even if you didn't initially notice them.

[Sports Boy]

Looks and body are the first things you notice and determine the initial attractiveness. But like most everyone else has said, what's on the inside of them matters the most to me.