How can you see he misses me?

[ZzeWatermelon]

My sister saw my old time crush yesterday (And we text but we're two friends, but I really like him, separated by distance), and since she and I look alike, she said he was staring at her and that he probably thought it was me, and you could see that he missed me via the expression of his face. She won't explain what that expression was like, and how she could tell, she just answered: Instincts.
Can someone explain?

[Uniquemind]

Sounds like you need to start a long distance relationship then.

[ZzeWatermelon]

You think? But then I'm not sure he likes me back, and I'm not sure I wanna start a long distance relationship. I've been through one and it was painful, it's hard to maintain. But this guy is about two years older than my ex, and more mature, it should be fine? And also he just had a breakup with his ex, and he's still all over her.

[ClaraWho]

Leave it. You don't want to be his rebound from his ex. Also, you cannot rely on the mystical powers of your sister to determine if he likes you or not. Give it time and if you're still interested, start talking to him more via phone calls. Ya know, actually speaking...

~ Clara

[Uniquemind]

Leave it. You don't want to be his rebound from his ex. Also, you cannot rely on the mystical powers of your sister to determine if he likes you or not. Give it time and if you're still interested, start talking to him more via phone calls. Ya know, actually speaking...

~ Clara

I disagree with Clara here just because I know some couples you have come out of a relationship got together (either they were ex's, or they after all this time had a mutual unexplored crush-sexual tension but never tried a relationship before) and were just fine.

However Clara's point is valid that you should not be with him if he's still bemoaning his ex.

Also if you think you're bad at ong-distance relationships you really have to try hard and that has to go both ways. Otherwise you need to not act on it.

But one can learn how to be good with long distance relationship with patience and discipline over emotions ruling you. You have to want to seize the opportunity.

But to be fair I think I'm projecting qualities about myself on you. I always grab opportunity because I regret it more if I don't, rather than me messing something up and having it fail.

Me failing at something lets me know I have rational reason for why it failed but not trying gives me nothing.