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PsychoticReality
June 4th, 2015, 06:36 PM
Okay, so I haven't really ever opened up about this and I didn't think I would ever give myself the chance to but after everything I've been through this year I've decided I need to get it off my chest. It's now been 1028 days, and your third year of being dead is creeping up so quickly.

I still to this day, break down over everything. I beat myself up over the idea that if I had any form of internet connection I would have been able to save you- I love you so much.

This is something I wrote in December of 2013, a few days after my birthday:
Hey, it’s been a year and a half now and I think it’s safe to say I haven’t repaired the person you broke. People tend to call me promiscuous, wild and an alcoholic but if they knew the reasoning behind it all I don’t know what I’d do; would they love you, hate you, see you the way I do?

August 12th 2012, that was the day you broke me into so many fucking pieces because you decided it was too hard to live, you decided that I would be better off without you. Seriously, the day you killed yourself I fell into a pit of anguish, we hadn’t spoken for a few days because I was on a fucking holiday. I pushed you out of my mind for so long, I haven’t let anyone in the way I let you in and that’s because the thought of loving someone so much only to have them disappear hurt.

It doesn’t get better, people say it does but it doesn’t. I remember, we used to laugh at the stupidest of things and despite me having a bad day you could keep my spirits up and make me smile. You, you were the best thing in my life and I don’t know what I’m feeling anymore. I tried to forget, convince myself it didn’t matter that I’d lost you but it did, it does; losing you made me into the person I am today.

Sometimes I just break down and talk to you, I message you in hopes of a reply but I know there’s no chance of one because despite my hardest efforts you’re gone. I can’t move on because I don’t want to, I don’t want to forget you because essentially if I accept you’re dead then I have to understand I’ve lost you forever…

And I can’t do that.

To anyone out there thinking of taking their lives, I am begging you, please don't. You do not understand how many people's lives you will alter, you are loved, you are special, you are needed. It's nearly three years and I still haven't gone a day without thinking about her, it's not worth it. I have been in the same predicament, where I have thought of nothing but ending the pain and after multiple attempts I realised what it does to not only my family but those around me. If you are ever feeling low, private message me, I am here for you. WE are here for you! <3

This is for you Marissa, I won't lose anyone else the way I lost you. I wish you could hear what I'm singing at your memorial this year: Cascada and Robin Stjernberg - You

Bmble_B
June 4th, 2015, 06:37 PM
This is very beautiful and heartfelt, thank you so much for sharing David. I'm sure you've brightened up at least one person's day because of this :)
And I'm sorry for your loss.

Microcosm
June 4th, 2015, 10:29 PM
This is really beautiful...

I'm glad you shared this. I'm sure it'll effect people once they read it. I'm really sorry about what happened to Marissa, but I'm glad you found the courage to open up about it and get some advice.

Getting over these things can be very difficult as they are absolutely life-altering experiences. I want you to know that it isn't your fault what happened to her. It's no one's fault.

Best of luck, David, and welcome to VT.

PsychoticReality
June 5th, 2015, 10:15 AM
Thank you both for your support! :) It's great to know there are others on here who are sympathetic, I haven't really been able to open up to anyone. Thanks once again, glad to be here! :)