This girl makes me ???

[Tony X]

So I've fallen in love with this girl. A little background: we're on the same swim team and we talk.
Whenever we go to the weightroom to lift and stuff, we always end up just chatting to each other. This happened today too. We just talked and basically -hung out-. Then I told her let's just leave and we walked by to the swimming pool together, still talking.

We talk about things that we're both engaged on and are both interested and she shares things about herself to me and so do I.

The reason I'm really confused is because I just sent her a casual snapchat but she doesn't respond. A lot of people say that if a girl ignores you on snapchat, it means she doesn't want you, or doesn't like you, or whatever.

If we spend a lot of time talking and stuff, why would she answer my snapchats?
Should i ask her why doesnt she answer me on snapchat the next time i see her?

Ugh..

[Dortmund]

A quick pointer here is that Snapchat isn't an indication of love or disinterest.

If you talk to her a lot chances are that she likes you, at least as a friend. Snapchat wise people often send Snaps to multiple people at once so unless it was a personalised one that she could tell was sent to her then you shouldn't think anything of it.

With the amount you talk and the stuff you've got in common it sounds like you've got good chemistry. Perhaps sway a conversation towards relationships etc and see where that leads, there's nothing wrong with telling the girl you've got feelings for her.

[RandAnonPers]

As Dortmund said, snapchat doesn't prove if she likes you a lot. The best way to win a girl over is honesty.

[Tony X]

A quick pointer here is that Snapchat isn't an indication of love or disinterest.

If you talk to her a lot chances are that she likes you, at least as a friend. Snapchat wise people often send Snaps to multiple people at once so unless it was a personalised one that she could tell was sent to her then you shouldn't think anything of it.

With the amount you talk and the stuff you've got in common it sounds like you've got good chemistry. Perhaps sway a conversation towards relationships etc and see where that leads, there's nothing wrong with telling the girl you've got feelings for her.

I really like your response. i do realize now that my snapchat wasn't personalized at all. It wasnt "Hey ___name, whats up". I think now thats why she didnt answer.

i just find it weird that after having so much fun this morning I think its weird she wouldnt answer me but now I think why.

Also, how do u think i should tell her i have feelings for her? Is it too soon? We've only been talking for like a week.
(Shes known who I am for months but we never spoke till now)

Also, something weird is that shes 13 and i'm 17. However, she's very mature for her age and she's none like the other 13 yrs olds. Shes quite smart and disciplined so I dont think theres anything wrong with our age.

[Dortmund]

I really like your response. i do realize now that my snapchat wasn't personalized at all. It wasnt "Hey ___name, whats up". I think now thats why she didnt answer.

i just find it weird that after having so much fun this morning I think its weird she wouldnt answer me but now I think why.

Also, how do u think i should tell her i have feelings for her? Is it too soon? We've only been talking for like a week.
(Shes known who I am for months but we never spoke till now)

Also, something weird is that shes 13 and i'm 17. However, she's very mature for her age and she's none like the other 13 yrs olds. Shes quite smart and disciplined so I dont think theres anything wrong with our age.

If you've only talked to her for a week I think it might be a little too soon yet, there's only so much about a person you can find out within a week. For all you know a week down the line you might find something else out or notice something that turns you off. Just allow a little time perhaps before you confess any of these feelings.

Age is quite possibly an issue with her being quite young but if it's cool with the two of you then go for it.

[Tony X]

If you've only talked to her for a week I think it might be a little too soon yet, there's only so much about a person you can find out within a week. For all you know a week down the line you might find something else out or notice something that turns you off. Just allow a little time perhaps before you confess any of these feelings.

Age is quite possibly an issue with her being quite young but if it's cool with the two of you then go for it.

Ok.
I realize that it's very soon too. I just need to find out in time that if shes really interested then I'll go for it. I don't want to tell her that I like her and don't get the same response back.

[Uniquemind]

Ok.
I realize that it's very soon too. I just need to find out in time that if shes really interested then I'll go for it. I don't want to tell her that I like her and don't get the same response back.

Yeah it's too soon and she sounds a little inexperienced (as do you).

I think the best you could do in the situation is just remain as you are being friendly and talking about common interests.

If your friendship still remains close after 3 or 4 months, and naturally you find yourselves being closer physically being playful (pinching, stealing each other's stuff and making them go chase you for it etc.) then it might be time to ask her to catch a movie or something.

The age gap might be a problem especially with her or your parents. If they push back, just talk with her and if she's as mature as you say she is, and if you have maturity you can just remain in each other's orbits and maintain romantic datability til both of you are older.

[Microcosm]

I think this might be a situation in which it's best to just talk to her in person or over the phone. Like, sometimes in cases such as this it's best to really personalize the relationship in order to get close to her.

[Typhlosion]

I hate to be the ass, but the 13-17 year age gap is kinda too large at that age. You're almost a legal adult and the girl's barely a teen. Maybe dropping it would be better for both of you?

[Babs]

I gotta reiterate Alex's point that if she's 13 and you're 17, she's too young for you, dude. If she was 18 and you were 22, that'd be a different story. But she's 13. If you date her, you wouldn't even be able to continue until you're 18 (not legally, anyway) because that's a pretty good way to get you on a list of registered sex offenders.

[Uniquemind]

I gotta reiterate Alex's point that if she's 13 and you're 17, she's too young for you, dude. If she was 18 and you were 22, that'd be a different story. But she's 13. If you date her, you wouldn't even be able to continue until you're 18 (not legally, anyway) because that's a pretty good way to get you on a list of registered sex offenders.

That's only true if you take that relationship and start crossing the line of doing sexual things.


If an age gap remains short and sweet almost like a friendship during the really socially not-acceptable age gap years, then things are fine.

If you really like her for the right reasons, I don't recommend just dropping her.

Finding the right person is hard enough as it is.