Sarcastic Cupcake
May 29th, 2015, 04:43 PM
I'm sorry if this is a little bit rambling, but I can't really get my thoughts in order, so...
First issue: Being friendzoned
I'm lesbian, and I recently came out to a few of my very close friends. This in and of itself is not a problem; however, I told one of them about my falling in love with one of my classmates. While he was very supportive, he also encouraged me to tell her. His advice helped me to gather the courage to tell her, and on the last day of school, I sent her a text saying that. She replied with mixed signals, and I incorrectly interpreted them as saying that she liked me back. She called me "stunning" and told me that she wanted to say the same thing about me. That gave me the false hope that maybe the situation could actually work out in my favor. I asked her to clarify a little bit, and she told me that while she was flattered, she didn't feel the same way about me. I'm a little bit confused and a lot frustrated, mostly at the whole situation. Did I jump to a conclusion that could have been avoided based on the information that I had?
Second issue: Coming out to my parents
The title pretty much says it all. My parents have been very supportive of me (at least my mom has), so there shouldn't be a problem. However, the thought of actually saying the words to her and my dad is terrifying. They're not religious, so that helps, but my dad is very strict and I'm not sure how well he'd take the news. And my mom almost always sides with him in an argument, which is what I think this might come to if I tell them. Do you guys have any suggestions on how to come out to them?
I'd appreciate any advice from you guys on either of those problems; thanks in advance!
First issue: Being friendzoned
I'm lesbian, and I recently came out to a few of my very close friends. This in and of itself is not a problem; however, I told one of them about my falling in love with one of my classmates. While he was very supportive, he also encouraged me to tell her. His advice helped me to gather the courage to tell her, and on the last day of school, I sent her a text saying that. She replied with mixed signals, and I incorrectly interpreted them as saying that she liked me back. She called me "stunning" and told me that she wanted to say the same thing about me. That gave me the false hope that maybe the situation could actually work out in my favor. I asked her to clarify a little bit, and she told me that while she was flattered, she didn't feel the same way about me. I'm a little bit confused and a lot frustrated, mostly at the whole situation. Did I jump to a conclusion that could have been avoided based on the information that I had?
Second issue: Coming out to my parents
The title pretty much says it all. My parents have been very supportive of me (at least my mom has), so there shouldn't be a problem. However, the thought of actually saying the words to her and my dad is terrifying. They're not religious, so that helps, but my dad is very strict and I'm not sure how well he'd take the news. And my mom almost always sides with him in an argument, which is what I think this might come to if I tell them. Do you guys have any suggestions on how to come out to them?
I'd appreciate any advice from you guys on either of those problems; thanks in advance!