How do I stop being jealous of my brothers relationship

[Thatoldtruck]

I'm 17 and my brother is 20. He's already moved out and lives a couple of hours away. At the beginning of this year when I was going through some bad relationship problems my brother gave me this girls number who he only knew through a mutual friend and had met a few times. He told me to ask what she thinks about what happened with my relationship and maybe even try to talk her into a date. So we talked for a while and I've always had this tendency to figure people out easily which amazed her and apparently and I quote I'm the first person that's ever understood her. We talked for a while and seemed to hit it off even though we'd never met but when it got to more personal questions she said she doesn't want to give out that much to someone she's never met which is understandable so I backed off. Then my bro set us up to meet in a few weeks next time I came to visit him. When I came up to visit him a couple of weeks later they apparently had started dating. I just said ok and let it go because he had been going through girls like socks lately so I figured it wouldn't last. Well now I've gotten to know her and she really cares about me and is practically my sister. We hang out and talk a lot and from the looks of it her and my brother are going to be engaged soon. She's truly like family to me and I'm very happy for both of them but in the back of my mind I can't help but feel a little jealousy because it seems I've had the worst run with girls lately and I can't help but feel it could of been me. I know I can't change it and she's even told me if she hadn't gotten with my brother first we'd prob be together because me and my bro are extremely similar in taste and lifestyle. The fact that she's absolutely gorgeous and fits in with all my friends and family doesn't help my mood either. I've emotionally helped her through some hard times and she has done the same for me but I just can't seem to let go of this jealousy and even some depression even though I know the situation was out of my control. I otherwise have a good life. I'm already graduated from high school and going to a trade school, I have a passion for trucks and classic cars which has been my hobby and what I'm going to school for, I'm clean and sober, I'm doing well financially and have a comfortable lifestyle with a great family. I used to be very overweight until I was about 14 and I've since grown almost 6 inches and lost 40 pounds and I find myself at the gym a good bit because I still need to lose more weight but I'm getting there. I've had depression before and beat it but this time feels different. I have so much to be thankful for and happy about but I still feel empty. I've even gone as far as telling her this and she actually took it very well and was very graceful and helpful but I have this feeling like I'm waiting for something that will never come or what was supposed to come is in front of me every time I go around my brother but I know I will never have it and its slowly tearing me apart. What can I do?

[True_Spiderman]

I'm 17 and my brother is 20. He's already moved out and lives a couple of hours away. At the beginning of this year when I was going through some bad relationship problems my brother gave me this girls number who he only knew through a mutual friend and had met a few times. He told me to ask what she thinks about what happened with my relationship and maybe even try to talk her into a date. So we talked for a while and I've always had this tendency to figure people out easily which amazed her and apparently and I quote I'm the first person that's ever understood her. We talked for a while and seemed to hit it off even though we'd never met but when it got to more personal questions she said she doesn't want to give out that much to someone she's never met which is understandable so I backed off. Then my bro set us up to meet in a few weeks next time I came to visit him. When I came up to visit him a couple of weeks later they apparently had started dating. I just said ok and let it go because he had been going through girls like socks lately so I figured it wouldn't last. Well now I've gotten to know her and she really cares about me and is practically my sister. We hang out and talk a lot and from the looks of it her and my brother are going to be engaged soon. She's truly like family to me and I'm very happy for both of them but in the back of my mind I can't help but feel a little jealousy because it seems I've had the worst run with girls lately and I can't help but feel it could of been me. I know I can't change it and she's even told me if she hadn't gotten with my brother first we'd prob be together because me and my bro are extremely similar in taste and lifestyle. The fact that she's absolutely gorgeous and fits in with all my friends and family doesn't help my mood either. I've emotionally helped her through some hard times and she has done the same for me but I just can't seem to let go of this jealousy and even some depression even though I know the situation was out of my control. I otherwise have a good life. I'm already graduated from high school and going to a trade school, I have a passion for trucks and classic cars which has been my hobby and what I'm going to school for, I'm clean and sober, I'm doing well financially and have a comfortable lifestyle with a great family. I used to be very overweight until I was about 14 and I've since grown almost 6 inches and lost 40 pounds and I find myself at the gym a good bit because I still need to lose more weight but I'm getting there. I've had depression before and beat it but this time feels different. I have so much to be thankful for and happy about but I still feel empty. I've even gone as far as telling her this and she actually took it very well and was very graceful and helpful but I have this feeling like I'm waiting for something that will never come or what was supposed to come is in front of me every time I go around my brother but I know I will never have it and its slowly tearing me apart. What can I do?



Dang that's tough man I can't really help you with that one bit just try to find someone else
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[Hey_123]

Just imagine/plan what your future life as an adult will be instead of focusing on your brother's life and relationship.