She doesn't love me back...

[panos113]

So lately I'm feeling awful :
1)My best friend is really close to getting a hot girlfriend and he wants me to help him, while I have to show that I'm really happy about him ( I am, but it's hard to express it right now)
2) I have never had a girlfriend, I am fourteen and quite shy, eventhough no one has managed to see that, because I try to suppress my feelings, which makes me even worse.
3) I am tall ( about 1,76 m), but I never played any sports, meaning that I only have friends from school, while by best friend is a swimmer and knows the hottest girls in my city ( Yes, I'm jealous, I admit it)
4) I'm 81 kg ! This lowers my self confidence even more, eventhough I have started a diet and I have lost a few kilos and in Summer, I'm going to start going to the gym.
5) I used to have a crush on a girl for 4 years, but now a new girl ( new classmate) came to my life and she has become THE crush for me. Because of my weight, I feel that I am just not good enough for her, so I never got the chance to ask her out. And guess what she found a boyfriend, who isn't even nice and this makes me even more "angry" with her. I just can't get her out of my mind, eventhough I know that she is kind of slut. To make things worse for a short amount of time we sat together in class ( before that douchebag) and it was ok, we laughed all the time and we had a good time, but once she crossed the line by drawing on my hands ( yea she is kinda silly) and took my markers from her and then she started calling me boring ! So we split and she is now sitting somewhere else.

5) We are in the middle of the final exams and thinking of her isn't really helping. Plus her parents took her phone and I can't even sent her a massage.( Btw after the incident, she acted like nothing had happened and so did I ) Since I have to wait for the exams to finish the only thing I can do is try to lose weight and beat my self up for being who I am. A social in school, but unsocial anywhere else. Meanwhile I don't go out very often, because I live in a city and my parents are overprotective.

So this is basically my life, I am a fourteen year old, who likes tech, is fat, doesn't know how to be around girls, is shy, doesn't exercise, has a crush on a girl out of his league and is for some boring.
( The reason that I started this diet and in a few week the gym is simple : I can't stand being me (in the outside). And for some stupid reason I believe that in four months, when school starts again, she might like me.)
(Concerning my personality as I said before: I am a bit more mature than others, I am shy and in confident about my self. I am a good student, , but never really have to study. )

That's all I believe please help me get this through, I don't know what I should do.
To all mods: feel free to move the topic, but please don't lock it, if needed I will remove a part.

[ClaraWho]

A 14 year old who is 'fat', awkward around girls, shy, doesn't exercise, boring and has a crush on a slutty girl out of his league.

You sound like 1/2 the male early teenage population, stop beating yourself up!

So you haven't got it all figured out yet, big deal! You're only 14, and whilst it may feel all grown up you're a long way off being an adult with real relationships and worries.

Firstly you shouldn't be dating whilst still referring to others as having 'hot girlfriends', it shows a lack of maturity in the way you approach romantic relationships.

Secondly, you are already taking proactive steps to instigate the changes you desire, which is fantastic! Stick to your diet (make sure it is sensible, I'd be happy to help) as this is more important than exercise for losing the weight. Exercise is great because it releases endorphins that make you feel good, but obviously the beginning is the toughest part. Again, I'd be happy to advise. Maybe join 'Tribe sports' website too, don't be intimidated by the pro athletes on there, we all had to start somewhere! And that may not be your goal, but it is a great motivational site.

All this exercise and weight loss is going to make you feel so much more self confident, you'll start attracting admiring looks and feel more energetic and upbeat.

I'm not going to address the whole relationship aspect as quite frankly, you can do better and will move on. You may consider in future lightening up though, I mean that was a massive overreaction to her writing on your hand. Dude. Relax! So long as it isn't disrespectful or too distasteful, some girls just joke around like that. Forget about her and focus on becoming who you want to be first, find yourself, then you'll find a compatible girlfriend.

In terms of being 'boring', focus on what you enjoy, your hobbies and passions. So you like tech? What kind? Gaming? Coding? Engineering new tech? Invest your free time pursuing that and then seek out like minded people either online or in your local area.

Keep us up to date with your progress and check out the motivational stories thread here for others stories, including a guy who was in a very similar position to yours!

Good Luck,

~ Clara

[panos113]

A 14 year old who is 'fat', awkward around girls, shy, doesn't exercise, boring and has a crush on a slutty girl out of his league.

You sound like 1/2 the male early teenage population, stop beating yourself up!

So you haven't got it all figured out yet, big deal! You're only 14, and whilst it may feel all grown up you're a long way off being an adult with real relationships and worries.

Firstly you shouldn't be dating whilst still referring to others as having 'hot girlfriends', it shows a lack of maturity in the way you approach romantic relationships.

Secondly, you are already taking proactive steps to instigate the changes you desire, which is fantastic! Stick to your diet (make sure it is sensible, I'd be happy to help) as this is more important than exercise for losing the weight. Exercise is great because it releases endorphins that make you feel good, but obviously the beginning is the toughest part. Again, I'd be happy to advise. Maybe join 'Tribe sports' website too, don't be intimidated by the pro athletes on there, we all had to start somewhere! And that may not be your goal, but it is a great motivational site.

All this exercise and weight loss is going to make you feel so much more self confident, you'll start attracting admiring looks and feel more energetic and upbeat.

I'm not going to address the whole relationship aspect as quite frankly, you can do better and will move on. You may consider in future lightening up though, I mean that was a massive overreaction to her writing on your hand. Dude. Relax! So long as it isn't disrespectful or too distasteful, some girls just joke around like that. Forget about her and focus on becoming who you want to be first, find yourself, then you'll find a compatible girlfriend.

In terms of being 'boring', focus on what you enjoy, your hobbies and passions. So you like tech? What kind? Gaming? Coding? Engineering new tech? Invest your free time pursuing that and then seek out like minded people either online or in your local area.

Keep us up to date with your progress and check out the motivational stories thread here for others stories, including a guy who was in a very similar position to yours!

Good Luck,

~ Clara
Thank you so much Clara [emoji4]

[ClaraWho]

More than welcome, we all need a helpful push every once in while.

Actually, I'm sorry for dismissing your feelings for her as 'forget about her', I know it's harder than that makes out. But I stand by that you can do better and that the effort to distract your attention away from her will pay off.

Also! I just realised this is your 1st Vteen post! Welcome, welcome newcomer! :)

~ Clara

[panos113]

More than welcome, we all need a helpful push every once in while.

Actually, I'm sorry for dismissing your feelings for her as 'forget about her', I know it's harder than that makes out. But I stand by that you can do better and that the effort to distract your attention away from her will pay off.

Also! I just realised this is your 1st Vteen post! Welcome, welcome newcomer! :)

~ Clara
Thanks! I really like this forum !

[panos113]

I really thought this through and I came to a conclusion: She is the biggest slut in my school. ( Don't want to name reasons, because they are TOO many. ) So I can safely say that I am over that bitch [emoji4] .