I'm ready to stop being an introvert..

[thatdudec]

Hey so I'm 18. My whole life I've been the person in my family who talks the most, makes everybody laugh, and always has something to say. However, this is not this case with people I don't know well and trust. When I don't know people I go into a shell and almost say nothing. I am in a fraternity, not worth naming, in college. This tendency to say nothing has continued through college. I'm sick of it. Though I know girls well and can speak to them easily, having grown up around two sisters and a brother, I lack the ability to approach and even text/call them. It's not much different with guys but that isn't an issue because it's easy to talk to dudes. There was a point where I even thought I was gay because I wouldn't talk to or even approach girls. I know I'm not gay, not saying there is anything wrong with that, because It's more that I respect girls than am afraid of them. Growing up around my twin sister and older sister, I learned a lot about girls and how they function. I have an older brother but was never close with him because of an age difference. However this respect still prevents me from talking to girls because I honestly have a feminine side much like that of a girl. All of that said I'm getting to my main point... How do I approach girls in a bar or at any function just to start a conversation? If I know a girl and know she wants to "talk" to me, then how do I text her to start this off or even something besides texting... idk? I'm not afraid of the process. I'm just afraid of the beginning. I've dealt with this issue for a long time and am new to this website. I'd like help and support. Anyone's point of view is welcome. I just feel like girls would provide better insight. Thanks -Dudec

[Trickythetiger]

Hiya! I know what it's like to be an introvert as I am also one when it comes to talking to people in public and things like that.

I'm not much of a talker but when I get into it, all you have to do to strike up a conversation is say a hello. O: Ask how they're doing or what's up? Ask people what they like to do, favourite colour, movie, animal, things like that.

You just got to approach them and continue from there. After you get to know each other, they may be the ones to start approaching you. :^)

[Jaffe]

How do you just stop? Isnt that like a personality trait? Can you change that?

[Trickythetiger]

How do you just stop? Isnt that like a personality trait? Can you change that?
It's a personality trait, but you can still put effort into being out there. ):0 I even have a hard time just walking up to someone or helping someone out, but in my mind I say, "Do it".
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[northy]

There is nothing wrong with being an introvert. I for one, enjoy being one.
Try doing a Myers Briggs test (mbti) and tell us your result. If the first letter of your type is an I then you are an introvert and there's not much you can do to change it. There address options though I wouldn't recommend that you try to change your personality.