Am I being harsh?

[David S]

Well the story goes like this it would have been my dads birthday last week (he passed away 3 years ago) and my mum is seeing a man (he did not know my dad), I have no problem with her seeing him, but on the day of his birthday she decides to spend all day with him before, during and after the meet up of his friends in the afternoon and spends all day away from them and me and just with him. After thinking about it for a week I got the impression that it was just another excuse to spend a day with him. Am I being harsh?

[Vermilion]

No your not being harsh :) does your mum know how you feel ?

[David S]

I didn't tell her, I get on really well with her and don't want to hurt her

[Vermilion]

Be honest with her she'll understand. She'll want what's ever makes you happy

[Stronk Serb]

Sorry about your dad. She'll understand. Especially if you were really close with your dad, at least I got the impression you were.

[ClaraWho]

That's really sad to hear about your father, my sympathies.

In terms of your mother avoiding the gathering, do you not think she could've been doing it for another reason?

She could feel guilty about being with another man and worried how both your father would have judged her, and his old friends.

She may simply be too upset to attend and didn't feel up to it this year?

She may be trying to move on?

Whatever her reason is, not knowing her and giving the benefit of the doubt, I'd say another explanation is far more likely than her wanting to have fun with her boyfriend.

If you do speak to her, maybe phrase the question as ' I missed you being at the gathering with me'. That removes the accusation but opens the door for answers.

Good luck,

~ Clara

[Dying Ember]

That's really sad to hear about your father, my sympathies.

In terms of your mother avoiding the gathering, do you not think she could've been doing it for another reason?

She could feel guilty about being with another man and worried how both your father would have judged her, and his old friends.

She may simply be too upset to attend and didn't feel up to it this year?

She may be trying to move on?

Whatever her reason is, not knowing her and giving the benefit of the doubt, I'd say another explanation is far more likely than her wanting to have fun with her boyfriend.

If you do speak to her, maybe phrase the question as ' I missed you being at the gathering with me'. That removes the accusation but opens the door for answers.

Good luck,

~ Clara

This is really good advise, just maybe bring it up lightly with her and see where the conversation goes :)