Conflicting feelings

[JusticeandMercy]

I really want to kiss/cuddle/hug/etc someone but the idea of having a relationship kind of weirds me out and when I had a girlfriend I always felt really uncomfortable doing anything beyond a short hug or holding hands.
But like I said I still really want physical affection, even though once I actually get it I flip out.
Any solutions to this? Do other people feel this way?

[Miserabilia]

If you get/have really close friends you can be physicaly affectionate with them as long as their comfortable with it.

[Elysium]

I don't have any solutions, but I do feel the same way, as my friends will attest to. I gather that when you have actual and strong feelings for someone, those inhibitions kind of falter. I don't know that for sure, though.

[Vocabulous]

I have a similar situation going on, so at least you're not alone

[ClaraWho]

Define how relationships 'weird you out'? That's a very unspecific phrase.

~ Clara

[JusticeandMercy]

Define how relationships 'weird you out'? That's a very unspecific phrase.

~ ClaraI just get really uncomfortable at the idea of being in a relationship? I mean they seem kind of cute for other people but when I think of myself in one it's not the most pleasant thought. (I guess I'm aromantic. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯)

[ClaraWho]

I just get really uncomfortable at the idea of being in a relationship? I mean they seem kind of cute for other people but when I think of myself in one it's not the most pleasant thought. (I guess I'm aromantic. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯)

Please appreciate that isn't actually a real answer, but I appreciate you may not wish to discuss this online. We have ourselves an impasse!

If you genuinely feel that is your real answer, then we can fast forward several questions. Answer your own question; why do you get uncomfortable at the thought of being in a relationship? What intrinsic part makes you uncomfortable? You have hundreds of 'relationships', what about a committed loving relationship makes you feel uncomfortable? Why might it make you feel uncomfortable? What is your parents relationship like? Is there any signficant trauma from your past that could make you fear intimate relationships?

Each time you reach an answer, check it is a logical place to conclude. If it is still too broad (such as all your rather vague answers so far) then question it. Why? Why do I think that? What makes me think that?

After that we can truly facilitate you in finding your solution.

~ Clara

P.S. I know this sounds harsh, but you sound like you need a shove in the rught direction.

[JusticeandMercy]

Please appreciate that isn't actually a real answer, but I appreciate you may not wish to discuss this online. We have ourselves an impasse!

If you genuinely feel that is your real answer, then we can fast forward several questions. Answer your own question; why do you get uncomfortable at the thought of being in a relationship? What intrinsic part makes you uncomfortable? You have hundreds of 'relationships', what about a committed loving relationship makes you feel uncomfortable? Why might it make you feel uncomfortable? What is your parents relationship like? Is there any signficant trauma from your past that could make you fear intimate relationships?

Each time you reach an answer, check it is a logical place to conclude. If it is still too broad (such as all your rather vague answers so far) then question it. Why? Why do I think that? What makes me think that?

After that we can truly facilitate you in finding your solution.

~ Clara

P.S. I know this sounds harsh, but you sound like you need a shove in the rught direction.I don't mean to sound rude but I have literally no clue what you're saying to me.

[ClaraWho]

I don't mean to sound rude but I have literally no clue what you're saying to me.

Well that confuses me as I thought I made my point quite clear....

Um, so you say 'it makes me uncomfortable'.

That isn't a real answer to the specifics of the question.

For example, it is the same as;

Question;

Where does milk come from?

Your answer;

The Earth

---

Technically correct, but utterly useless in determining a cause.

Now if you reread what I have written prior does it make sense?

*crosses fingers*

~ Clara

[JusticeandMercy]

If you get/have really close friends you can be physicaly affectionate with them as long as their comfortable with it.Yeah, that's what I've been doing. I just feel like they're going to get tired of me acting like that?

Well that confuses me as I thought I made my point quite clear....

Um, so you say 'it makes me uncomfortable'.

That isn't a real answer to the specifics of the question.

For example, it is the same as;

Question;

Where does milk come from?

Your answer;

The Earth

---

Technically correct, but utterly useless in determining a cause.

Now if you reread what I have written prior does it make sense?

*crosses fingers*

~ ClaraI don't know what it is about a romantic relationship specifically that makes me uncomfortable, sorry.

[ClaraWho]

Then unfortunately I cannot begin to help.

Help us to help you.

Until you actually explore the 'why' it'll be near impossible to find a solution.

~ Clara