Arousal

[bluelove93]

Is there ways I can tell if my friend is aroused when she's with me. I am also a girl.

[neledisapersonne]

Think like you were in her shoes. If you'd do the things that she does when she's around, then yes she is... Why do you think she is aroused around you?

[LITTLEANGEL19]

Her nipples may be erect like sticking out, I know mine and other girls do.

[bluelove93]

Think like you were in her shoes. If you'd do the things that she does when she's around, then yes she is... Why do you think she is aroused around you?

No I get aroused around her but I can't tell if she is too

[bluelove93]

Her nipples may be erect like sticking out, I know mine and other girls do.

How can you tell if she's wearing a padded bra

[LITTLEANGEL19]

How can you tell if she's wearing a padded bra

It can be difficult if she is wearing a padded bra, it is just something that I seen happening to me and others I know. It's not a sure thing, anyways good luck I hope you find out soon.
Btw are you sure she likes girls?
:) XX

[bluelove93]

It can be difficult if she is wearing a padded bra, it is just something that I seen happening to me and others I know. It's not a sure thing, anyways good luck I hope you find out soon.

Btw are you sure she likes girls?

:) XX


No I do not for she is married and she a little bit older than me but it seems like but I'm not sure but I have my suspicions about her

[neledisapersonne]

I suppose she'd be trying to spend more private time with you and she'd be much more touchy. If you can tell us what gives you those suspicions, we maybe can tell you if that's just wishful thinking or she seems she's really aroused by you.

[gamergirly1337]

Just ask her. If she wasn't before , asking her might turn her on.

[bluelove93]

Just ask her. If she wasn't before , asking her might turn her on.


I don't want to scare her away if it's true.

[bluelove93]

I suppose she'd be trying to spend more private time with you and she'd be much more touchy. If you can tell us what gives you those suspicions, we maybe can tell you if that's just wishful thinking or she seems she's really aroused by you.


We're all most just us but we're in public. But a week ago she wanted my help in cleaning her closet and it was just us two. She seems like she wants more but doesn't. Because when we go to the movie and if something scary comes on the screen she'll hold on my arm tight. It also feels like she tires to hold my hand but I move a little away

[ClaraWho]

Okay let's just take a less creepy step back for a moment.

Do you want a romantic relationship with her? Do you want a sexual relationship with her?

Thing is with us girls is that we can be affectionate and comfortable with touching when we are close to someone. Hugging, sprawling over on the bed lol could be completely platonic. Or she could be interested.

First decide what you want, until then you won't know how to proceed.

~ Clara

[bluelove93]

Okay let's just take a less creepy step back for a moment.

Do you want a romantic relationship with her? Do you want a sexual relationship with her?

Thing is with us girls is that we can be affectionate and comfortable with touching when we are close to someone. Hugging, sprawling over on the bed lol could be completely platonic. Or she could be interested.

First decide what you want, until then you won't know how to proceed.

~ Clara
I would like both but I know she wouldn't want it to be sexual. But I do wish

[ClaraWho]

How do you know? You started this thread because you couldn't figure it out, what makes you sure now?

Become more affectionate back, let her take your hand if she wants to, create situations that have potential to become more non-sexually intimate, but give her an escape route in case she gets overwhelmed.

Instead of being awkward about it, just play along with whatever she does. So if she takes your hand into hers, shuffle up closer and rest your head on her shoulder.

Don't force it though, but trust your gut. If your gut tells you to stroke her hair back behind her ear, or compliment how gorgeous she is looking, then just roll with it.

You always have the fallback position of just saying it's your way of showing affection to a best friend, someone you care a lot about, if she questions it. But be careful, if you keep playing down that you are attracted to her don't expect her to wait forever.

On the other hand, the two of you may become physically closer before she decides she doesn't want anything more. But if you don't try, you've only got everything to lose.

Good luck, and please keep me informed :P

~ Clara

[neledisapersonne]

We are generally do not agree with Clara about subjects but I think she is right. You can give her subtle hints about your affection and measure her reactions. I personally am not very sure if you should do it or not but that would be the best way to do it ...

[devon girl]

How do you know? You started this thread because you couldn't figure it out, what makes you sure now?

Become more affectionate back, let her take your hand if she wants to, create situations that have potential to become more non-sexually intimate, but give her an escape route in case she gets overwhelmed.

Instead of being awkward about it, just play along with whatever she does. So if she takes your hand into hers, shuffle up closer and rest your head on her shoulder.

Don't force it though, but trust your gut. If your gut tells you to stroke her hair back behind her ear, or compliment how gorgeous she is looking, then just roll with it.

You always have the fallback position of just saying it's your way of showing affection to a best friend, someone you care a lot about, if she questions it. But be careful, if you keep playing down that you are attracted to her don't expect her to wait forever.

On the other hand, the two of you may become physically closer before she decides she doesn't want anything more. But if you don't try, you've only got everything to lose.

Good luck, and please keep me informed :P

~ Clara

I agree with this, but i dont think u should play it off if she asks u about it, for she might think ur not into it (assuming she does want a relationship) so just go slow, and see what happens,
good luck with u

[LucieP]

You need to be real careful here or you risk losing a friend. Im bi myself and sorry to say have ruined a couple of good friendships, plus potential friendships, by being too agressive, plus once word gets around your other friends might start treating you weirdly.

Right now Im in a sort of 'in between' phase of my life, not looking for relationships just, um, the fun stuff!!:whoops: Its actually been easier for me with girls as tons of girls are curious about the sexual aspect of being with another girl without wanting a full on committed relationship. Im just saying that because if its more the physical side youre interested in you might not want to risk it with this particular person.

Good luck, its a tough position to be in!

[bluelove93]

You need to be real careful here or you risk losing a friend. Im bi myself and sorry to say have ruined a couple of good friendships, plus potential friendships, by being too agressive, plus once word gets around your other friends might start treating you weirdly.

Right now Im in a sort of 'in between' phase of my life, not looking for relationships just, um, the fun stuff!!:whoops: Its actually been easier for me with girls as tons of girls are curious about the sexual aspect of being with another girl without wanting a full on committed relationship. Im just saying that because if its more the physical side youre interested in you might not want to risk it with this particular person.

Good luck, its a tough position to be in!
Thank you