Crush on employers daugher, want to ask girl out, don't really know each other

[jon.snow]

Hi guys (inc. girls),

So I work at a restaurant in my town, and I've been there for three months.
The owner has a daughter who works there too, but I'm waiting tables and she's running the reception area. We don't have much time to talk.
She's cute and funny and pretty smart, and while I'm not in love, I have a major crush on her. I've been home schooled so I don't really know many people my age.

Anyway, I want to ask her out but I'm not sure if she would say yes. I'm nearly two years older.

AND we live next door to each other and spend three hours a day together working. I get to chat to her for five or ten minutes every few days, but I was thinking that is we were, y'know, together then we would spend more time as a pair.

I haven't had a proper relationship before and I know she's had at least one. I'm also thinking that she has more friends than I do, and at the school she goes to she would have to tell everyone she had a BF or they'd all start asking her out. We don't have the same social groups so I would be the odd one out if she took me anywhere and vice versa.

Sorry for the rambling.
Help!

[ClaraWho]

Hi guys (inc. girls),

So I work at a restaurant in my town, and I've been there for three months.
The owner has a daughter who works there too, but I'm waiting tables and she's running the reception area. We don't have much time to talk.
She's cute and funny and pretty smart, and while I'm not in love, I have a major crush on her. I've been home schooled so I don't really know many people my age.

Anyway, I want to ask her out but I'm not sure if she would say yes. I'm nearly two years older.

AND we live next door to each other and spend three hours a day together working. I get to chat to her for five or ten minutes every few days, but I was thinking that is we were, y'know, together then we would spend more time as a pair.

I haven't had a proper relationship before and I know she's had at least one. I'm also thinking that she has more friends than I do, and at the school she goes to she would have to tell everyone she had a BF or they'd all start asking her out. We don't have the same social groups so I would be the odd one out if she took me anywhere and vice versa.

Sorry for the rambling.
Help!

She's cute, funny and pretty smart. Sounds like a great person to be friends with. Due to the situation with being home schooled do you have many friends? We feel attracted to people and want to spend more time with them, doesn't necessarily mean you want a romantic relationship, could be a great close friendship though.

Define what you mean by 'major crush' vs 'in love'.

2 years older is nothing. Girls mature faster than guys mentally and tend to go for older boys vs younger less mature ones.

My advice would be to try to instigate a friendship with her and decide if you really want to pursue anything more serious after. If you live next door then do you ever bump into each other? Is there any casual scenario you could create to chance an encounter?

Lol it's amusing how you think she'd HAVE to tell everyone that she had a bf. Why do you think they haven't already all tried and been rejected? Give the girl some credit, and what's the big deal about her telling them about you? Stop being so weird about it O.o.

Well, if you both aren't critically socially awkward you could always try to get along with her friends. That will be the case in any relationship, hey, that will even be the case no matter what sort of relationship you have in the future. Time to grow up!

(Caveit if you have Social Anxiety Disorder then that's different).

Just be yourself, maybe invite her to hang out with your mates in some casual situation (so don't pose the question as a date or treat it like one). But only if your mates are mature and not going to make juvenile comments. Or are all be/gf. Or all guys.

I mean, you know best when it comes to ways to orchestrate having more time to spend together building a friendship. Find out her interests, see what you have in common.

Let us know what happens ultimately (:

~ Clara

[Professional Russian]

From someone who just went through this. It depends on your relationship with your boss. Because I totally fucked up what I had with my bosses daughter but me and him still talk like its nothing. If ypu 2 are close and like each other honestly you should ask him about and he what he says. If you 2 don't know each other well there could be consequences if you fuck up. If ypu really do love her ypu won't care what others say and try for it.