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Microcosm
May 18th, 2015, 08:47 PM
I always get depressed when I make a bad decision. It's not like crazy bad, but whenever it's something that most people wouldn't bother worrying about(like a daily mistake that everyone makes), I always feel really bad about it. For instance, I'm a mod now. So, whenever I delete or move a post or thread, sometimes I will get a message telling me that it probably wasn't right to do. It's totally cool and I understand why they're telling me and I'm honestly glad they are, but I can't help but feel this serious pain that's like I did something really wrong. It makes me doubt my abilities as a mod in this case. However, this isn't the only instance by which this happens. It happens in my everyday social encounters, too. I used to have really bad social anxiety, but since then I have gotten much better and, honestly, I think I've solved my social anxiety completely. The problem though, which I believe to be a sort of residue of my old social anxiety, is that whenever I say something wrong in a social situation or conversation that sounds stupid or worthless to say, I might sit on that one thing for the rest of the day or even into the next day. Usually after that time, though, it stops and I just get over it. But still, it sucks to have to sit on those thoughts for more than like an hour at the most. I also say some pretty stupid things, a lot. I have an issue I think where I don't really think much before I speak and I will just blurt out something that sounds reasonable at first but then I realize it absolutely isn't after I say it. These sorts of things are the types on which I get depressed or anxious about. When I say depressed, the depression over these things is a form of passive depression which I have learned to efficiently control. Once I say something stupid like that, I just realize the mistake and just decide to let the depression run its course without getting too worked up over it(in other words, I don't cry about it or get super upset or anything like that).

This was mostly a rant, but if you have advice for me, feel free to leave it down below. Also, if you read through the whole thing, then thanks. It means a lot to know someone is listening to me rant about my problems. That's kind of comforting in its own odd way.

Horatio Nelson
May 18th, 2015, 09:57 PM
Dan, I know exactly what you mean, and how you feel. I myself go through basically the same exact thing. You're not at all alone.

Not to say you are immature, but, things like that tend to go away with experience, and just a general increase in social etiquette. I know it has with me. I was always a blab when I was younger, and said dumb shit all the time. I've learned to keep my mouth shut, and not say anything if I don't have anything constructive to say.

I don't know if that helps at all, but it's what I've learned from my experiences. Most importantly, don't sweat it, nobody is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes, don't be too harsh on yourself. If we never made mistakes, we'd never learn and become better people. :)

Microcosm
May 18th, 2015, 10:13 PM
I don't know if that helps at all, but it's what I've learned from my experiences. Most importantly, don't sweat it, nobody is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes, don't be too harsh on yourself. If we never made mistakes, we'd never learn and become better people. :)

That's a very good point. As we progress and become better, we learn not to make such irrational decisions and think about stuff more before we act. Thanks for responding, Zach. :)