Hiding your sexuality

[northy]

I recently found I was gay and I live in a homophobic household, so don't wish to come out until I've left home. (Please don't judge me for this)
Due to this, I'm having to stay hidden elsewhere in case it is accidentally mentioned to my parents by someone, so as of yet I haven't told anybody and don't intend to.

I was wondering if anybody on here was/is in a similar situation and what sort of tips they would give for hiding your sexuality. What sort of things do you do? I've pretended to be straight on more than one occasion to fit in (e.g agreeing with my friends when they say a girl is hot) and am finding it really uncomfortable.

[Microcosm]

You could try telling your parents. You never know, maybe they'll understand.

[WanderingHeart]

I'm in the same situation as you, actually. Honestly I just say I'm not attracted to the opposite gender. I just say I'm asexual so they leave me alone. Yeah, it's uncomfortable. But it's better than your family finding out, right? Once you leave home you'll be able to come out - and they can't do anything about it.

[Sasha M]

I'm trans, and I'm not telling my family untill I move out. It's not because of a homophobic or transphobic household (there very accepting), its because I'm too god damn pussy to say it to there face and will do it via text message conversation. (Because ultimate swag points.)

[WanderingHeart]

I'm trans, and I'm not telling my family untill I move out. It's not because of a homophobic or transphobic household (there very accepting), its because I'm too god damn pussy to say it to there face and will do it via text message conversation. (Because ultimate swag points.)

Its okay, people propose to each other on text these days. Point is its just best to wait until moving out.

[mrjc]

its hard to hide and you would be better off telling people your true self

[Jaffe]

I wish I could give you some advice, but I can't. I've never been in that situation, and the idea is just so... abstract ... to me, that parents can't accept their kids no matter what.

So I am no help to you, but just letting you know that we support you here, no matter what. We can't change your parents, we can't understand the details of your situation, but we can listen to you when you need to vent.

[Babs]

I don't hide my sexual orientation, except from my extended family.
My dad is pretty homophobic, but I don't care if he knows. He won't do anything. Other than my grandma/cousins, my family is pretty cool with LGBT people.

[northy]

its hard to hide and you would be better off telling people your true self

Is that so? I think I would be better off if I wasn't rejected by my family and extended family and then out of home. I'm at least going to wait until I've done my A levels so that if I do get thrown out, I can get a job somewhere.

[mrjc]

sorry, you know the right time so my mistake

[jacshamy]

I recently found I was gay and I live in a homophobic household, so don't wish to come out until I've left home. (Please don't judge me for this)
Due to this, I'm having to stay hidden elsewhere in case it is accidentally mentioned to my parents by someone, so as of yet I haven't told anybody and don't intend to.

I was wondering if anybody on here was/is in a similar situation and what sort of tips they would give for hiding your sexuality. What sort of things do you do? I've pretended to be straight on more than one occasion to fit in (e.g agreeing with my friends when they say a girl is hot) and am finding it really uncomfortable.

This coming out youtube video by Colton Witt is helping me. (https://youtu.be/0GzLYuNHtmQ) Maybe it will help you. Don't come out when somebody is mad. Don't come out as "revenge" on someone. Find an ally to help you. (Plus Colton is really cute. :P)

[Bull]

Is that so? I think I would be better off if I wasn't rejected by my family and extended family and then out of home. I'm at least going to wait until I've done my A levels so that if I do get thrown out, I can get a job somewhere.

I think you are making a smart decision. I wish you luck and good fortune.

[northy]

This coming out youtube video by Colton Witt is helping me. (https://youtu.be/0GzLYuNHtmQ) Maybe it will help you. Don't come out when somebody is mad. Don't come out as "revenge" on someone. Find an ally to help you. (Plus Colton is really cute. :P)
Thanks, but I'm not planning on coming out. My family and friends are violate homophobes and I would get thrown out. I found it really tough to come out on here even though the situation on here is completely different. Nice to see that it helped you though (oh and yeah he is cute :) )

I think you are making a smart decision. I wish you luck and good fortune.

Thank you.