Crush and friend.. dating eachother?

[Melodic]

So my friend and crush announced they liked eachother at a party a couple weeks ago. My friend didn't know I was into him because I never told her because they were friends and I was afraid she would tell him plus I had a slight feeling she liked him as well. I was right, their friendship blossomed and apparently, they just went on a date tonight according to his facebook status. All week I've been ignoring trying to talk to her, because well she made me upset and she's been blowing me off the last two weeks for the guy anyways which I've been also upset about. I feel like I'm being a shitty friend here, but I'm pretty hurt and I don't know how to handle this. I can't really talk to her about how this upsets me because we aren't close enough in my opinion and I'd probably lose her as a friend. What should I do?

[ImCoolBeans]

I'm sorry things worked out like that, Madie. If you don't want to hurt your friendship with her, maybe it's best to not tell her about your feelings for her boyfriend. I know she's your friend and you should be able to talk to her about things like that, but if you feel that it won't go well then perhaps avoid the situation. In my experience trying to win somebody over after you miss a shot with them usually ends in flames, and unfortunately it might be best to just move on.

[Uniquemind]

Move on.


But also use this as a recon mission just to get a general read on how this guy treats his women.

Most high school relationships don't last anyway.

You may get a shot in the future but there are lots of good guys out there, try not to get fixated on just one.

Regarding the friend blowing you off, that's something you can do something on. Either confront her and acknowledge her special time for her BF, but also say that if you two have plans they should be respected too, and not shrugged off.

Standing up friends isn't cool.

[Melodic]

I'm sorry things worked out like that, Madie. If you don't want to hurt your friendship with her, maybe it's best to not tell her about your feelings for her boyfriend. I know she's your friend and you should be able to talk to her about things like that, but if you feel that it won't go well then perhaps avoid the situation. In my experience trying to win somebody over after you miss a shot with them usually ends in flames, and unfortunately it might be best to just move on.

Move on.


But also use this as a recon mission just to get a general read on how this guy treats his women.

Most high school relationships don't last anyway.

You may get a shot in the future but there are lots of good guys out there, try not to get fixated on just one.

Regarding the friend blowing you off, that's something you can do something on. Either confront her and acknowledge her special time for her BF, but also say that if you two have plans they should be respected too, and not shrugged off.

Standing up friends isn't cool.


Thanks for the advice guys. I was leaning on what you both said, but I didn't know if I was right or not so I figured I would ask for advice.