Mom asking odd questions

[Body odah Man]

Recently my mom has been asking me really awkward questions like whether I masturbate and stuff. Whenever I get asked I lie, but then she thinks I'm totally messed up and should see a doctor, etc. etc. What do I do? The truth would be super awkard but don't want her to take me to a dcotr. Help anyone?

[ImCoolBeans]

If you're not comfortable talking about that then tell her you aren't comfortable with it. I think some parents will ask their kids that when they start puberty, as a part of "the talk", but it seems a little much to keep asking you. I don't know how I would react if my mom ever asked me that.

[Body odah Man]

I have told her multiple times. No luck.

[Contra]

Masturbation is a pretty normal thing. I mean, everybody does it. So perhaps if you answer her just this one time, it would leave you off the hook for life!
However, if you're not comfortable at all with saying it, then the only solution is to put your foot down and say bluntly that you don't want to talk about it.

[Leon03]

Poor man :(
She should not be asking you this kind of private things. Maybe you could answer with an own question like "How often do you have sex with dad a week?"
This might show her that she had crossed borders with you.
Good luck!

[Bull]

Poor man :(
She should not be asking you this kind of private things. Maybe you could answer with an own question like "How often do you have sex with dad a week?"
This might show her that she had crossed borders with you.
Good luck!

Yeah, I like this idea. Respond with questions such as: "Did you masturbate as a teen?" "Do you still masturbate?"

[Body odah Man]

Yeah, I like this idea. Respond with questions such as: "Did you masturbate as a teen?" "Do you still masturbate?"
I suspect the answer would be nauseating.

Poor man :(
She should not be asking you this kind of private things. Maybe you could answer with an own question like "How often do you have sex with dad a week?"
This might show her that she had crossed borders with you.
Good luck!

Might work :)

[Body odah Man]

Any advice? We leave for Portugal on the 27th and apparently mom's planning to continue asking these questions...and lots of them. All help is GREATLY GREATLY GREATLY appreciated

[Vermilion]

Any advice? We leave for Portugal on the 27th and apparently mom's planning to continue asking these questions...and lots of them. All help is GREATLY GREATLY GREATLY appreciated

Have you asked her why she wants to know

[Body odah Man]

Have you asked her why she wants to know

TBH, no. Should I, you think?

[Hudor]

TBH, no. Should I, you think?

Yes. I think you should.
I have a feeling this is about the misconception that masturbation is a sin and something dirty. Your mom might be thinking along those lines though I can't be sure.

[Leon03]

Have you started any actions to oppose her, yet?
If not you should do right away!
It seems she is obsessed to get to know details about your sex life. Why the hell a mom would want to know :confused:.
This 'motherly' behavior sounds super creepy to me and you have all rights to stand up and stop this. Whatever it takes.
You might seek help from an adult male relative or friend you trust if you don't dare to stop her alone.

[Uranus]

Have you ever talked to your father or uncle about this and tell them that your mom is being excessive with these questions? Maybe they can help

[phuckphace]

"son do you fap?"
"no, Doctor"

post results

[ClaraWho]

Extremely disturbing! Ick!

Just reply 'sorry, but what I get up to in my love life is off limits, I don't feel comfortable discussing this subject, regardless of whether I am active or not. Please stop asking me.'

Follow the instructions on the label, and repeat as require.

- Clara

[Body odah Man]

Yes. I think you should.
I have a feeling this is about the misconception that masturbation is a sin and something dirty. Your mom might be thinking along those lines though I can't be sure.
My mom has actually reccommended me to do it a number of times. It's gross.

Extremely disturbing! Ick!

Just reply 'sorry, but what I get up to in my love life is off limits, I don't feel comfortable discussing this subject, regardless of whether I am active or not. Please stop asking me.'

Follow the instructions on the label, and repeat as require.

- Clara

Will definitely try that, Thanks

Have you started any actions to oppose her, yet?
If not you should do right away!
It seems she is obsessed to get to know details about your sex life. Why the hell a mom would want to know :confused:.
This 'motherly' behavior sounds super creepy to me and you have all rights to stand up and stop this. Whatever it takes.
You might seek help from an adult male relative or friend you trust if you don't dare to stop her alone.

This post is to ask you guys for actions; I don't know any, I've told her I want to discuss these things with dad, not her, but doesn't work really :(
And they are very uncomfortable questions

[Hudor]

My mom has actually reccommended me to do it a number of times. It's gross.


Okay that sounds weird. Definitely ask her why she wants to know. Probably that will stall her from making uncomfortable enquiries again and even if it doesn't at least you will know why she is doing this and can act accordingly.

[Body odah Man]

Okay that sounds weird. Definitely ask her why she wants to know. Probably that will stall her from making uncomfortable enquiries again and even if it doesn't at least you will know why she is doing this and can act accordingly.

Good point. I'll try that.

[rijames99]

Since she's asked you about it, she must assume you do and is trying to open the door to talking to you about it and probably telling you it's just fine and normal.

Why don't you just tell her you do and see where it goes?

[Body odah Man]

Since she's asked you about it, she must assume you do and is trying to open the door to talking to you about it and probably telling you it's just fine and normal.

Why don't you just tell her you do and see where it goes?

Because
a. I'm trying to stop
b. It embarrasses me greatly just to talk about these things, let alone admit them.
That is why I don't own up to mom.

[ClaraWho]

Could it possibly be related to your post stating you are addicted to it? And the body odour?

[Body odah Man]

Could it possibly be related to your post stating you are addicted to it? And the body odour?

Mom asks me nothing about hygiene just about masturbation.(well she asks if I put on deodorant but those questions don't constitute as awkward) And she doesn't know I'm addicted to it (I hope) or that I do it (God willing). She's just worried there's something wrong with me teen wise.

[ClaraWho]

Mom asks me nothing about hygiene just about masturbation.(well she asks if I put on deodorant but those questions don't constitute as awkward) And she doesn't know I'm addicted to it (I hope) or that I do it (God willing). She's just worried there's something wrong with me teen wise.

Or she does know you're addicted to it, which would completely explained her constantly asking questions....

I think that's the answer. Anyway, has she asked again and have you used any of our advice?

~ Clara

[Body odah Man]

Or she does know you're addicted to it, which would completely explained her constantly asking questions....

I think that's the answer. Anyway, has she asked again and have you used any of our advice?

~ Clara

I don't think she does cuz she's been urging me to try it and I never do it while she's around to see/hear.

No she hasn't asked yet, but she probably will in Portugal (we leave tomorrow). I'll try it then :)

[ClaraWho]

I don't think she does cuz she's been urging me to try it and I never do it while she's around to see/hear.

No she hasn't asked yet, but she probably will in Portugal (we leave tomorrow). I'll try it then :)

Eww. That is the last thing ANYBODY needs :what:. Ain't nobody got time fo' dat!

Enjoy Portugal anyway!

~ Clara

[Body odah Man]

Eww. That is the last thing ANYBODY needs :what:. Ain't nobody got time fo' dat!

Enjoy Portugal anyway!

~ Clara

Yeah, it's really really really messed up..
And yeah Portugal will be fun

[CuteGuy889]

Cos my mom used to undress me whn I fall asleep she always had a chance to see my privates (she used to take my undies also off if they were dirty)......I was 14 and she got concerned that I've not grown pubes and my privates are small...also I was very thin and she told me abt this tried to take me to a doc...I brushed it off.

Fortunately I started to get filled out quickly and the "lack of development" was soon forgotten....But this kind of talk damaged my confidence.

[ClaraWho]

Cos my mom used to undress me whn I fall asleep she always had a chance to see my privates (she used to take my undies also off if they were dirty)......I was 14 and she got concerned that I've not grown pubes and my privates are small...also I was very thin and she told me abt this tried to take me to a doc...I brushed it off.

Fortunately I started to get filled out quickly and the "lack of development" was soon forgotten....But this kind of talk damaged my confidence.

WHAT?! :eek::eek::eek:

Your mum undressed you when you were asleep and inspected your body? :/ I'd have social services on the phone faster than I could blink awake!

Maybe to you that is completely normal, but to me that sounds deeply disturbing! Parents shouldn't be doing anything remotely like that after the age of 10 unless the child has special needs.

My skin is crawling...

~ disturbed Clara :confused:

[CuteGuy889]

WHAT?! :eek::eek::eek:

Your mum undressed you when you were asleep and inspected your body? :/ I'd have social services on the phone faster than I could blink awake!

Maybe to you that is completely normal, but to me that sounds deeply disturbing! Parents shouldn't be doing anything remotely like that after the age of 10 unless the child has special needs.

My skin is crawling...

~ disturbed Clara :confused:

After a long day at school and then with freinds I come home and lie on bed...I fall asleep in a minute...I usually pull my pants and tee off b4 but sometimes I forget. Then my mom takes them off cos sleeping in jeans is uncomfortable...Few tyms cos my undies were sweaty & dirty (cos we jump in pool in undies smtimes) she took them off.....She does these out of love and nothing wiered..She is my mom.!!!!

[Body odah Man]

WHAT?! :eek::eek::eek:

Your mum undressed you when you were asleep and inspected your body? :/ I'd have social services on the phone faster than I could blink awake!

Maybe to you that is completely normal, but to me that sounds deeply disturbing! Parents shouldn't be doing anything remotely like that after the age of 10 unless the child has special needs.

My skin is crawling...

~ disturbed Clara :confused:

Same. That is just eughh. Just eugh.

[ClaraWho]

Same. That is just eughh. Just eugh.

... Moving on rapidly! Lol... Any updates for us?

~ Clara

[Body odah Man]

... Moving on rapidly! Lol... Any updates for us?

~ Clara

Yes. Thank you for moving on.
I just returned from a trip to Portugal. Mom asked me once more about things I didn't want to answer but I just said it was none of her business. Few days later I fell sick and mom stopped asking :) So I managed to survive :)

[Jaffe]

In this case, the truth's probably the best thing. The blunt truth. And it will probably catch her completely off guard and get her to shut up. Or, it might start an ongoing dialog that is healthy and helpful.

[SethfromMI]

Have you ever talked to your father or uncle about this and tell them that your mom is being excessive with these questions? Maybe they can help

this, it would be even nicer if they could then talk to your mom

[Zachary G]

if you arent comfortable talking to your mom about things then you could always turn the question around and ask her the same thing and see how she likes it. But I would let her know that you are not comfortable with her line of questioning and that you would rather not discuss such things with her at this point and time.

[BlueFoot]

Because
a. I'm trying to stop
b. It embarrasses me greatly just to talk about these things, let alone admit them.
That is why I don't own up to mom.

That's exactly what I thought before I stopped a long ass time ago.

1. I did stop.
2. It's embarrassing to talk about.
3. I don't want to admit it.

[Body odah Man]

That's exactly what I thought before I stopped a long ass time ago.

1. I did stop.
2. It's embarrassing to talk about.
3. I don't want to admit it.

Nice! I'm glad you managed to stop; it's VERY VERY hard