Sexting

[hannaszabo]

Hi Girls,

have you ever done sexting? I'm just facing a question whether to start it with a friend or not. Is it okay? Have you ever sent photos while doing it? I'm a bit afraid of getting my pic online.

[ClaraWho]

Nope. Personally i want to keep my body private, and once a photo is online, you'll never get it removed...

[Taryn98]

dirty talk over text, yes
sending pics, no

[Beth]

Talking a little dirty through texting maybe but never pictures.

[neledisapersonne]

If I have any doubts like that I wouldn't do it but if it's someone to be trusted why not. Also I don't think it's that hard to get a picture of you, that you don't have permission to be published, off of a site. But then again theres the Jennifer Lawrence thing that happened.:)

[hannaszabo]

I think i will send pics with clothes on, but never nude.

[LITTLEANGEL19]

I Just chatting may be ok, but it depends on how much you can trust. this person not to put your personal stuff on line. But sexy pics would be a big NO NO as you don't know where they would end up and someday they could come back to haunt you sooner or later and even ruin you life. And as Clara said once pics etc are on line they are there for good.
Better to be safe than sorry "Don't do it at all" X

[Elena_]

Just chatting may be ok, but it depends on how much you can thrust this person not to put your personal stuff on line. But sexy pics would be a big NO NO as you don't know where they would end up and someday they could come back to haunt you sooner or later and even ruin you life. And as Clara said once pics etc are on line they are there for good.
Better to be safe than sorry "Don't do it at all" X

You are right !! I did it once (I sent a picture of my butt to a guy I met on the Internet and I felt really bad about it after sending it)

In conclusion, it's your body , do what you want , but don't do anything you will regret :)

[gamergirly1337]

Dirty talk yes but there are too many weirdos out there to be sending your pics

[sweettayla]

Like others have said, dirty talk is fine, but once you're pics are online l think it's pretty much impossible to find out exactly where they've gone and get them deleted.

[Mollypop]

If you're going to do it, make sure nothing in the picture can be tied back to you. Then if it gets spread you can call it a fake.

[lumiadots]

Hi Girls,

have you ever done sexting? I'm just facing a question whether to start it with a friend or not. Is it okay? Have you ever sent photos while doing it? I'm a bit afraid of getting my pic online.

i've sexted before and i think it's fine. dirty talk to your heart's content! but keep pictures to yourself. i make it a point to never, ever send picture sunless i've been dating someone for a long time, and even then i feel a bit squicky doing it. once they get online, there's really no way to get them off, so it's better to be safe than sorry. besides, dirty texting is fun enough on its own! c:

[stoneflowe96]

Chatting can be good, but I never would send pictures

[devon girl]

dirty talk - yep, role playing (sexting) -yep, nudes - once

also u should olny do what u feel ready for and dont let them peir-presher u into something u dont want to do


-merged double post. -Emerald Dream

[Emerald Dream]

I might be in the minority with this, but I don't do either phone sex or sexting (or nude pics) for two reasons -

1. If I am at the point where I would feel comfortable enough to do something like that with you, then I am already actually having sex with you.

2. Just the thought of it makes me laugh. It's just....goofy as hell to me. How people can do this seriously without laughing I really don't understand.

[Uniquemind]

I might be in the minority with this, but I don't do either phone sex or sexting (or nude pics) for two reasons -

1. If I am at the point where I would feel comfortable enough to do something like that with you, then I am already actually having sex with you.

2. Just the thought of it makes me laugh. It's just....goofy as hell to me. How people can do this seriously without laughing I really don't understand.

I'm joining you in this minority.

[neledisapersonne]

I might be in the minority with this, but I don't do either phone sex or sexting (or nude pics) for two reasons -

1. If I am at the point where I would feel comfortable enough to do something like that with you, then I am already actually having sex with you.

2. Just the thought of it makes me laugh. It's just....goofy as hell to me. How people can do this seriously without laughing I really don't understand.

It may not be your cup of tea but I genuinely understand why you feel like that as I understand why the ones who do it, find it a thrill. It's like a person who likes to drink tea with milk saying I don't understand how people can drink tea without milk.

[ClaraWho]

I might be in the minority with this, but I don't do either phone sex or sexting (or nude pics) for two reasons -

1. If I am at the point where I would feel comfortable enough to do something like that with you, then I am already actually having sex with you.

2. Just the thought of it makes me laugh. It's just....goofy as hell to me. How people can do this seriously without laughing I really don't understand.

Hm, I think you're missing the point.

1. This is usually for long distance relationships, were partners are not readily physically available. It can also be fun at work/school/etc.

2. Depends if you are any good at writing and level of empathy. Well written text messages (why is it called 'dirty' talk when it can be so gorgeously romantic?) are analogous to the best love making scenes in romance novels, only personalised. You get lost in a world of intimacy through both partners contributions and it can be highly stimulating. Obviously you just end up wanting the partner physically even more to be present, but there's fun in the craving too.

I can see why this kind of dirty talk could be laughable;
Girl - strips butt naked and bends over
Guy - -smileyemoji- puts it in
Girl - Yay! -movesupanddown- :metal:

But I contest that well written can be both romantic and sensual, however I believe I'm not allowed to give an example? :rolleyes:

[Emerald Dream]

It may not be your cup of tea but I genuinely understand why you feel like that as I understand why the ones who do it, find it a thrill. It's like a person who likes to drink tea with milk saying I don't understand how people can drink tea without milk.

Not really, no. My point was that a person would want to drink tomato juice instead of orange juice. There is no "with," because if I am at the point where I would sext someone....like I said - I'd already actually be having sex with that person.

Hm, I think you're missing the point.

1. This is usually for long distance relationships, were partners are not readily physically available. It can also be fun at work/school/etc.

2. Depends if you are any good at writing and level of empathy. Well written text messages (why is it called 'dirty' talk when it can be so gorgeously romantic?) are analogous to the best love making scenes in romance novels, only personalised. You get lost in a world of intimacy through both partners contributions and it can be highly stimulating. Obviously you just end up wanting the partner physically even more to be present, but there's fun in the craving too.

I can see why this kind of dirty talk could be laughable;
Girl - strips butt naked and bends over
Guy - -smileyemoji- puts it in
Girl - Yay! -movesupanddown- :metal:

But I contest that well written can be both romantic and sensual, however I believe I'm not allowed to give an example? :rolleyes:

To answer your points -

1. I know it's my own personal view, but I don't do LDR. I don't see the point when I can't (realistically) be with someone else. I need the actual physicality in my relationship. Not that I think it's bad for others, either. To each their own, but it's just not for me. Like I said, if I am at the point of sexting, then I should actually be having sex. Just my personal view on sex/relationships.

Besides, I'm willing to bet that the majority of sexting/nude pics that actually goes on with people that are 13-19 -- the ones involved probably know each other offline (school, friends, mutual friends, actual bf/gf). We're thinking online right now because we are online right now. I understand LDR exist, but it's not as common as two people who go to the same school sexting. I know people are probably going to want to argue that point, but in the big picture of things - I think I'm right on that.

The whole work/school thing where you can't see each other until later - mehhh...just go ahead and skip the sexting, because (lead into #2)

2. No matter how you dress up sexting to me, it's still goofy as hell - especially thinking about the writing ability of a lot of people my age and younger. Not that a teen couldn't write a perfectly acceptable romance novel, but I'm willing to bet that the average "Dave WacksALot69" can't. Not to mention the possibility of any textspeak. Nothing is more of a turnoff than reading about "ur puzz." Seriously.

Once again, just my opinion. If people want to do this, then more power to them. Have fun. It's just not my thing.

[ClaraWho]

Not really, no. My point was that a person would want to drink tomato juice instead of orange juice. There is no "with," because if I am at the point where I would sext someone....like I said - I'd already actually be having sex with that person.

But the two aren't mutually exclusive are they? One could both drink orange and tomato juice, even go wild and drink both at the same time (proper weirdo xD).

To answer your points -

1. I know it's my own personal view, but I don't do LDR. I don't see the point when I can't (realistically) be with someone else. I need the actual physicality in my relationship. Not that I think it's bad for others, either. To each their own, but it's just not for me. Like I said, if I am at the point of sexting, then I should actually be having sex. Just my personal view on sex/relationships.

Besides, I'm willing to bet that the majority of sexting/nude pics that actually goes on with people that are 13-19 -- the ones involved probably know each other offline (school, friends, mutual friends, actual bf/gf). We're thinking online right now because we are online right now. I understand LDR exist, but it's not as common as two people who go to the same school sexting. I know people are probably going to want to argue that point, but in the big picture of things - I think I'm right on that.

The whole work/school thing where you can't see each other until later - mehhh...just go ahead and skip the sexting, because (lead into #2)

2. No matter how you dress up sexting to me, it's still goofy as hell - especially thinking about the writing ability of a lot of people my age and younger. Not that a teen couldn't write a perfectly acceptable romance novel, but I'm willing to bet that the average "Dave WacksALot69" can't. Not to mention the possibility of any textspeak. Nothing is more of a turnoff than reading about "ur puzz." Seriously.

Once again, just my opinion. If people want to do this, then more power to them. Have fun. It's just not my thing.

1. Interestingly a recent psychological study found online relationships to be just as 'strong' as offline. I find your very decisive view interesting too, may I inquire further?
What would happen if the person you love, and have a physical relationship with was to move away to another State?
If it was temporary, say for 1-6 months?
Would that mean the end of that relationship, simply because you would lose the physicality?

I would actually posit that it's mainly creepy 40 year old men sending penis pics to schoolgirls that comprise the main members (pardon the pun) of sexting. Closely followed by victims of child abuse who seek to be taken advantage of again. Finally, between those in some form of committed relationship either long distance or otherwise.

Sexting between teens is far less prominent than the media portrays, and a quick look at forum posts here (whilst not a representative sample) would lend credence to this fact. Most girls won't send pics or vids anymore, revenge porn and snapchat hacking changed that years ago. Obviously those in a lesser socioeconomic category will participate more, as they have lower inhibitions and ambitions.

2. Sexting is technically just the sending of erotic pictures, rather than dirty talking. 'Dave WacksALot69' (hilarious name btw xD) probably can't find anyone who can sext back in high quality either. He probably hangs around with girls who role model Katy Price and Jordan, who sext things like 'is u a badman, well get da ting in ma puzz vajaja snap! We iz getn down to bidniz tingaling."

I've already commented on another post about how much of a turn off text speak is xD.

So if one associates with people on the same intellectual side of the spectrum, then the quality will probably be pretty high. A lot of people are too self conscious and vetting though I imagine, as it takes faith the other person isn't just bored :rolleyes: .

And phone sex is the same thing as talking naughtily in the bedroom, only you gotta take care of *ahem* yourself.

Finally, it's all very well saying 'not my thing, more power to them' but on the other hand, you are referring to them as 'goofy'. Whilst I can appreciate it may do nothing for you, I hardly see it as a major kink!

[VictoriaShadows]

I just like to dirty talk over texts. Pics are a no no

[Emerald Dream]

1. Interestingly a recent psychological study found online relationships to be just as 'strong' as offline. I find your very decisive view interesting too, may I inquire further?
What would happen if the person you love, and have a physical relationship with was to move away to another State?
If it was temporary, say for 1-6 months?
Would that mean the end of that relationship, simply because you would lose the physicality?

I would actually posit that it's mainly creepy 40 year old men sending penis pics to schoolgirls that comprise the main members (pardon the pun) of sexting. Closely followed by victims of child abuse who seek to be taken advantage of again. Finally, between those in some form of committed relationship either long distance or otherwise.

Sexting between teens is far less prominent than the media portrays, and a quick look at forum posts here (whilst not a representative sample) would lend credence to this fact. Most girls won't send pics or vids anymore, revenge porn and snapchat hacking changed that years ago. Obviously those in a lesser socioeconomic category will participate more, as they have lower inhibitions and ambitions.

2. Sexting is technically just the sending of erotic pictures, rather than dirty talking. 'Dave WacksALot69' (hilarious name btw xD) probably can't find anyone who can sext back in high quality either. He probably hangs around with girls who role model Katy Price and Jordan, who sext things like 'is u a badman, well get da ting in ma puzz vajaja snap! We iz getn down to bidniz tingaling."

I've already commented on another post about how much of a turn off text speak is xD.

So if one associates with people on the same intellectual side of the spectrum, then the quality will probably be pretty high. A lot of people are too self conscious and vetting though I imagine, as it takes faith the other person isn't just bored :rolleyes: .

And phone sex is the same thing as talking naughtily in the bedroom, only you gotta take care of *ahem* yourself.

Finally, it's all very well saying 'not my thing, more power to them' but on the other hand, you are referring to them as 'goofy'. Whilst I can appreciate it may do nothing for you, I hardly see it as a major kink!

Interesting, but any study about this won't change my personal opinion. The OP seemed to be wanting opinions about sexting, and I gave mine. I fully understand that my opinion may not be a popular one :lol:

Funny that personal relationships regarding myself comes up, because a few years ago my boyfriend and I broke up due to some of these issues. We were finishing our junior year of high school, and we were going in different directions (at the time I thought I would be going away to college the following year, and he had no clue what he wanted to do at that point). I can't personally do a LDR, whether or not phone/cyber/text sex is involved or not. I have too many other things in my life that I need to concentrate on. That's probably where my view on this stems from. Sex, and relationships for that matter, are not my top priority at this point in my life. If it ever came up that my committed partner and I were away from each other for a considerable amount of time (like you said, more than a few months) then I am sure it would be talked about. I'm pretty positive that I wouldn't be sexting, though. I have been without some things for periods of time, so it doesn't concern me too much. If you want to discuss that part of it any further, then you can always PM me. I don't want to totally derail the intent of this thread - it's about sexting, not viewpoints on relationships :) I do realize that I think differently than a lot of people on some things.

As for the actual concept of sexting, yeah - I couldn't do it without laughing. I can't take it seriously. No matter how much I possibly love someone, or there is an emotional attachment - no matter how well it is written, the whole concept to me is just....silly.

I also don't see the problem with me saying "more power to them" but also saying it's goofy, because it is. In my personal opinion. However, I don't want other people to stop what they are doing. If two people want to do that, then that's their prerogative. I won't, however.

[Abbeys]

Interesting, but any study about this won't change my personal opinion. The OP seemed to be wanting opinions about sexting, and I gave mine. I fully understand that my opinion may not be a popular one

Funny that personal relationships regarding myself comes up, because a few years ago my boyfriend and I broke up due to some of these issues. We were finishing our junior year of high school, and we were going in different directions (at the time I thought I would be going away to college the following year, and he had no clue what he wanted to do at that point). I can't personally do a LDR, whether or not phone/cyber/text sex is involved or not. I have too many other things in my life that I need to concentrate on. That's probably where my view on this stems from. Sex, and relationships for that matter, are not my top priority at this point in my life. If it ever came up that my committed partner and I were away from each other for a considerable amount of time (like you said, more than a few months) then I am sure it would be talked about. I'm pretty positive that I wouldn't be sexting, though. I have been without some things for periods of time, so it doesn't concern me too much. If you want to discuss that part of it any further, then you can always PM me. I don't want to totally derail the intent of this thread - it's about sexting, not viewpoints on relationships I do realize that I think differently than a lot of people on some things.

Interesting and reassuring to see a moderator moderating themselves.

:):):)

[Emerald Dream]

Interesting, but any study about this won't change my personal opinion. The OP seemed to be wanting opinions about sexting, and I gave mine. I fully understand that my opinion may not be a popular one

Funny that personal relationships regarding myself comes up, because a few years ago my boyfriend and I broke up due to some of these issues. We were finishing our junior year of high school, and we were going in different directions (at the time I thought I would be going away to college the following year, and he had no clue what he wanted to do at that point). I can't personally do a LDR, whether or not phone/cyber/text sex is involved or not. I have too many other things in my life that I need to concentrate on. That's probably where my view on this stems from. Sex, and relationships for that matter, are not my top priority at this point in my life. If it ever came up that my committed partner and I were away from each other for a considerable amount of time (like you said, more than a few months) then I am sure it would be talked about. I'm pretty positive that I wouldn't be sexting, though. I have been without some things for periods of time, so it doesn't concern me too much. If you want to discuss that part of it any further, then you can always PM me. I don't want to totally derail the intent of this thread - it's about sexting, not viewpoints on relationships I do realize that I think differently than a lot of people on some things.

Interesting and reassuring to see a moderator moderating themselves.

:):):)

While I appreciate the compliment, the point with that was to stay on topic. My VM and PM are always open :)

(I was asked and I answered appropriately, and within context of the topic)

[kailynr]

Hmm. While I enjoy sexting a great deal, I'm not just going to do it with anyone. Also, past a certain point, and I'm going to want something real. I'm not going to go confessing my kinks to a relative stranger. I've had my heart broken and my trust abused far too many times to be as open as I once was.

That said, once I feel comfortable, I really do enjoy talking about and hearing people's delight in discovering so much about sexuality, both mine and theirs. :)

Hopefully the above makes sense!

[ClaraWho]

Interesting, but any study about this won't change my personal opinion. The OP seemed to be wanting opinions about sexting, and I gave mine. I fully understand that my opinion may not be a popular one :lol:

Funny that personal relationships regarding myself comes up, because a few years ago my boyfriend and I broke up due to some of these issues. We were finishing our junior year of high school, and we were going in different directions (at the time I thought I would be going away to college the following year, and he had no clue what he wanted to do at that point). I can't personally do a LDR, whether or not phone/cyber/text sex is involved or not. I have too many other things in my life that I need to concentrate on. That's probably where my view on this stems from. Sex, and relationships for that matter, are not my top priority at this point in my life. If it ever came up that my committed partner and I were away from each other for a considerable amount of time (like you said, more than a few months) then I am sure it would be talked about. I'm pretty positive that I wouldn't be sexting, though. I have been without some things for periods of time, so it doesn't concern me too much. If you want to discuss that part of it any further, then you can always PM me. I don't want to totally derail the intent of this thread - it's about sexting, not viewpoints on relationships :) I do realize that I think differently than a lot of people on some things.

As for the actual concept of sexting, yeah - I couldn't do it without laughing. I can't take it seriously. No matter how much I possibly love someone, or there is an emotional attachment - no matter how well it is written, the whole concept to me is just....silly.

I also don't see the problem with me saying "more power to them" but also saying it's goofy, because it is. In my personal opinion. However, I don't want other people to stop what they are doing. If two people want to do that, then that's their prerogative. I won't, however.

Not trying to change your personal opinion, but if one doesn't posit challenges and questions aren't asked, then this thread would be rather dull! And one would never question why they are held dear in the first place.

So long as you aren't hurting anybody, you are entititled to your viewpoint. I would counter that even in your reply you state a discussion would be required, making privy that you are not so black and white on the LDR issue. Regardless of your opinions popularity, it is your personal choice and nobody is stating otherwise. We clearly have very differing outlooks on the priorities in life, and the ultimate purpose. To be continued perhaps?

See, that is where I struggle to comprehend you! Sure, it may not be your beverage of choice but that doesn't automatically make it 'funny'. Apathy, yes. Hilarity? Can't see it myself :what: .

"*slips my hand into yours, brushing my thumb over the back of your knuckles as I pull you closer* I missed you today."

Obviously not 'you', not trying to flirt with a mod xD.

It's just the recreation of an imaginary scenario, coupled with the link of potential or past intimacy you have shared, and a desire to feel closer than you physically can be.

If you cannot imagine the scene in your head vividly then I totally understand how it would be boring, but that's all it is. A descriptive aid to co-develop an intimate fantasy, as opposed to daydreaming alone.

I understand how it could be perceived as funny if you thought of it as comically badly written porn. (exaggerated example alert)

Boy: Oh yeah, suck it wench
Man pretending to be a girl online: Harder, oh yeah babes. Blow my whistle shizzle ma fizzle.

Perhaps 'sexting' needs broken down into more defined categorisations, but I'll be damned if I could care or be bothered to create them! Think we have enough labels for sexual activities already!

I suppose the issue is with how one words one's opinion, and how it may be perceived as a statement of something one considers a fact. Such as 'it's goofy, because it is'. Without the qualifying statement of 'in my personal opinion'.

P.S. Hope I'm not annoying you with these long replies, sorry! Also, I know no storytelling is allowed, but I hope the obvious ridiculousness of my example doesn't count!

[cutie123]

Chatting is great! I do it a lot but I never send a dirty pic

[Imfeelinglostagain]

I use snapchat when sexting. Works for me well enough

[kentucky girl]

I think sexting is fine and lots of fun with the right person. Not too sure about sending pictures, I have done it but afterwards I am not so sure I should have but so far no bad luck

[Shortie]

Yeah I've sexted before, it's hot and fun =P

[Kimhasquestions]

I'd say if you are comfortable with the person then go ahead, I've done it but I've only ever done it with my boyfriend and he's very private about what we do. Even to this day though I still will not take a picture of my body with my face in it, which is something everyone who is sending pictures of their body should do.

[Jour_Nuit]

i have been texting with a guy from australia...it's okay and hot :)
Sending pictures it's ok if you don't show your face.
so that if it got out people couldn't be sure it was me.

[clairey]

Girls, please be careful. One of my best friends trusted someone she thought would never share and he ended up telling lots of people about the pictures he had. Thankfully he never showed them to anyone but it could have ended much worse.

[jasminberlin]

dirty talk over text, yes
sending pics, no

i did send some photos

[LITTLEANGEL19]

i did send some photos

A bad mistake Jasmin

[Rhony]

I use to send photos of my boobs in a bra but never bare. Simply because it is uncomfortable. (not saying it is right but... a bra is just a bathing suit top that is not waterproof).

[jasminberlin]

A bad mistake Jasmin

i got photos of them too.... so i could get back to them

[LITTLEANGEL19]

i got photos of them too.... so i could get back to them
Two wrongs don't make a right. If your photos get on the Internet they are there for ever, you just need to think what harm it could do you and don't worry about anyone else. Hope all goes well.

[betty2002]

Age is also a major factor. If you are under the age of 18 you can be brought up on distribution of child pornography of someone reports you.

[Elena_]

Age is also a major factor. If you are under the age of 18 you can be brought up on distribution of child pornography of someone reports you.

Yeah it is !!

Have you ever heard about Amanda Todd? She sent pictures of her b*obs to a man , but this guy showed those pictures to her family , classmates ... They bullied her for this and sadly , she killed herself because she couldnt take it anymore.

[Char1999]

I think its OK as long as

a) you are 18 or over
b)the person you are sending it too is 18 or over
c)you don't include your face, so you are not easily identified
d)you understand that once you send it you have absolutely no control over it, its out there for ever!

if you understand these things then I don't see the problem!!

[THJKIGB]

My boyfriend and I have had conversations while texting each other which were sexual in nature, but we never send each other nude pictures or anything. I know he wouldn't show them to anyone, but when he wants to see me nude it has to be in person. :)

[mayyya]

Sexting is something that arouse me the most. Sometimes dirty text, sometimes dirty phone talking, sometimes pictures but without a face (only puss, tits, never face). I like take pictures of me during masturbation too.

[Iam-Marie]

dirty talk over text, yes
sending pics, no

the same with me

[Fraidy Cat]

I personally never would. In sex ed my teacher said it was illegal.

[Laibachd]

Hi Girls,

have you ever done sexting? I'm just facing a question whether to start it with a friend or not. Is it okay? Have you ever sent photos while doing it? I'm a bit afraid of getting my pic online.

I have, it´s pretty fun (:

I have sent pictures, but always with my face not showing.

[JaceySmiles]

I think everyone has pretty much said it, dirty talk is fine, pics are never ok, I don't trust anyone that much

[maggs]

Just some dirty chatting, no pics so far.

[xcherriesncreamx]

I like to sext wayyyyy too much not sure about pics though

[Daniella98]

I have done sexting a lot.
Not many pictures though and without face

[Jordan99]

My BF got all goofy one day at the beach with his friends and sent me a picture of his junk. I thought it was hilarious and I would never post that photo online or anywhere else, but I would never send nudes of myself to anyone. A girl who goes to my church and her boyfriend broke up and to get her back for the break-up, he actually printed the pictures of her and posted them in the community activity center. A lot of people saw them before they were taken down. How horrible and embarrassing!

[Taraloid]

As a teenager with raging hormones, I've felt lust for my girlfriend a lot, and she has too. Because we are young and both want to stay virgins until we are adults, it's our way to sort of suppress the urge to do it. I think it's a healthy way to get out the sexual frustration.
So yes, I've dirty texted her before, and loved it. I only sext her though. And we have a decent vocabulary and don't do text speak and they end up sounding pretty good in my opinion. For me it'd be a huge turn off if she used text speak.
Level of writing plays a huge part in it though!

I wouldn't send pictures because I deem it inappropriate for my age, but I totally trust her with it.

[Kelsey1031]

I've texted dirty thousands of times, I am not comfortable sharing pics of my face with anyone I don't know very well, but would have no problem sending pics of my body. Though I've never actually done that either.

[ClaireM]

I have texted dirty thought and fantasies, but wouldn't send pix.

[Hannah98]

Most I've done is text my BF pictures of myself in panties and a t-shirt and a few pics of me in my tiniest teeny-weeny bikini :)

[nicole97]

I've done some dirty talking, but no pics that would be considered beyond PG-13. For me it's not so much about anything doing with trusting my BF as much as it is the fear of who else could get their hands on his phone or the pictures I would send him.

[AutumnWinds]

Hi Girls,

have you ever done sexting? I'm just facing a question whether to start it with a friend or not. Is it okay? Have you ever sent photos while doing it? I'm a bit afraid of getting my pic online.

that's a very justified fear. i've been lucky but i've heard horror stories from my friends. i even had someone hitting on my on another site once who sent me pics of a girl i used to go to school with claiming they were them. it's a scary world.

[SkyClad33605]

A friend of mine at school last year had this bite her in the butt after she and her boyfriend broke up. He sent those pics out, well he claims his phone was "hacked" but whatever. Everyone saw and it ruined her. I am crazy private with my pics now.

[deepthroat_tacos]

I think i will send pics with clothes on, but never nude.

I think if you trust your man, send him something nice.

I like treating my man

Yeah I've sexted before, it's hot and fun =P

It is!:)

[ClaraWho]

Just thought I should point out that in the UK a 14 year old boy just got a criminal record on file for distribution of child pornography, after he sent a girl he was flirting with an image of his genitals and she showed her friends. The teachers heard the rumour and involved the police.

It really isn't worth the risk!

~ Clara

[jennyem]

No, never. I'd be paranoid that pics of my body are in the hands of another person..Who knows what they'll do if you fall out of touch with them in future

[caseyislame]

I sext all the time. If you think you are mature enough to do it, go for it.

[ClaraWho]

I sext all the time. If you think you are mature enough to do it, go for it.

What has maturity got to do with sexting? :what:

~ Clara

[caseyislame]

What has maturity got to do with sexting? :what:

~ Clara

If you understand the possible repercussions and if you still want to, then who's to stop you? Honestly, the human body is really not as big of a deal as everyone thinks. Half of the world has one set of hardware; half has another. It's not like you or I are any different than other people whether we are 15, 18, 30, or 50. Guys know what we have and we know what guys have.

[ClaraWho]

If you understand the possible repercussions and if you still want to, then who's to stop you? Honestly, the human body is really not as big of a deal as everyone thinks. Half of the world has one set of hardware; half has another. It's not like you or I are any different than other people whether we are 15, 18, 30, or 50. Guys know what we have and we know what guys have.

Yes, sure, you can take that mindset. But in my opinion you are doing yourself a massive disservice by treating your body this way. You can take the view that it doesn't matter who sees you having sex, who you have sex with, who sees you naked and that none of it matters. Animals have sex the same way, there's nothing meaningful or worthwhile about it in that view.

OR you can decide that you are important and special, that your body and sexual ways are unique and 'sacred'. That sharing them is intimate and only for the one you truly love and care about, and vice versa. That you are worth more than just a provision of sexual gratification and cheap, meaningless quick thrills.


It's a personal decision to be reductionist to mechanical processes or something much higher.

~ Clara

[Living For Love]

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[xcherriesncreamx]

Sext yes pic no

[CupcakeLuv101]

Never sent nude pics ever and don't ever want to.

[GryffindorGirl]

I think if you trust your man, send him something nice.

I like treating my man



It is!:)


I don't think I could ever trust someone enough for that.

[shamrockgirl02]

I've sexted, both the dirty text messages and the pictures. I only did the pics a couple times and it never came back to haunt me, but I stopped because I came to my senses about having those pictures out there. Now I'm super paranoid about having any pictures of me online or anything. But the strictly text message dirty talking can ne quite fun and not nearly as dangerous.

[Someone45]

I would NEVER send someone nude or suggestive pics, bad things could happen.
I am all for a little dirty texting, it can be almost as romantic or sexual as having the person you love in the room. ;)

[GryffindorGirl]

I would NEVER send someone nude or suggestive pics, bad things could happen.
I am all for a little dirty texting, it can be almost as romantic or sexual as having the person you love in the room. ;)

yeah, like not even snapchat is safe.

[MarisWonder]

Sexting can be fun, but you have to be safe!

For example: it should be important for you to know that if you are under 18 sexting is illegal (at least in the United States)

However, you should also be weary of the consequences that your pictures end up on the internet. Keep any identifying objects out of the photo. (Tattoos, scars, piercings...YOUR FACE) Do not ever send a dirty photo so someone you do not trust. Even if you do trust them, think this over a lot.

Dirty talking can be fun to do, and make it fun when you guys meet up the next time! Same rules as above apply- do not do this with anyone you do not trust and think your actions over a lot.

[angelina]

Sexting is ok...but sending or recieving dirty pictures...I do not like

[carolinae]

If you're not completely sure then you don't trust that person enough. You probably shouldn't send pictures if you don't trust them.

[Nekya]

More important than trusting the person is that their hot. Like how can you ever allow a ugly boy to have the privilege to see your body?

[CupcakeLuv101]

Hi Girls,

have you ever done sexting? I'm just facing a question whether to start it with a friend or not. Is it okay? Have you ever sent photos while doing it? I'm a bit afraid of getting my pic online.

I feel like I already posted in this forum before but it was a long time ago but I'm not sure if I have lol.

But I would like to say that I never sext I just never do it. Whatever you post something online it is out there ... FOREVER. That is, if you don't want the whole world to see it you probably shouldn't do it.

[LanaPole]

texting is ok i suppose. personally im not really into it

[Shiny Moon]

I'm ok with sexting/dirty talking, but I would never share nudes.

[KSchymets]

i do it all the time with boys. we talk dirty and send pics and sometimes we will have phone sex.

[AutumnWinds]

text based sex talk has a very limited appeal to me. it's fun for a very short while unless there are emotional feelings behind it. if that's the case it can be fun for quite a bit longer. otherwise it's kind of like do something or don't/