How do I get her to start?

[DonJ]

I have a new GF..3 weeks now and we can talk to each other about anything.

She has had a rough life..bounced back and forth from her mom and dad and they were never married. They've said some awful stuff to her and it doesn't even seem like they want her around.

But anyway..so we were talking about sexual stuff and she said she's never had any feelings for being horny at all! She has never had an orgasm

I dont want to touch her in any way other than kissing cuz i really like her. But I'd like to at least get her to enjoy herself alone a little. That might make her days better and make her happier. any ideas how I can do that?

[MarsReid]

No offense but you are sounding really aggressive which is kinda disrespectful(i may have perceived it wrong so dont get mad at me), women are goddess's they do our dishes, give birth, and look out for us therefor we should worship them, just wait for her... (but...) :) um... kissing and blowing on her neck... usually gets girls horny(works when i do it) umm... strawberries?? they are considered an aphrodisiac(sexual stimulant) transylvanian kissing is pretty hot... be enticing thats all i can say... suggest places or even just bring it up as a conversation or something i dunno, live your life

[ClaraWho]

Okay, so this is why most girls find most men unappealing and creepy ^. That last comment. Eugh.

Seriously? Just leave her be, you're only 3 weeks into the relationship so unless you've got some horrible fatal affliction, what is the rush?

Maybe she would enjoy more alone time doing that with herself, but maybe she just ISN'T INTERESTED. Everyone has differing levels of eroticism and sex drive, perhaps she just hasn't found the right stimuli either. That's not an invitation, that's a 'move on'.

Also if she is, as you claim, in a vulnerable state; you'd be taking advantage of her by using your close bond to push her to be more sexual. I don't know how old you are, but there's a reason dating is best left till you are older!

[Zachary G]

Okay, so this is why most girls find most men unappealing and creepy ^. That last comment. Eugh.

Seriously? Just leave her be, you're only 3 weeks into the relationship so unless you've got some horrible fatal affliction, what is the rush?

Maybe she would enjoy more alone time doing that with herself, but maybe she just ISN'T INTERESTED. Everyone has differing levels of eroticism and sex drive, perhaps she just hasn't found the right stimuli either. That's not an invitation, that's a 'move on'.

Also if she is, as you claim, in a vulnerable state; you'd be taking advantage of her by using your close bond to push her to be more sexual. I don't know how old you are, but there's a reason dating is best left till you are older!

I agree ^^ very well put.

[Andyyy95]

I have a new GF..3 weeks now and we can talk to each other about anything.

She has had a rough life..bounced back and forth from her mom and dad and they were never married. They've said some awful stuff to her and it doesn't even seem like they want her around.

But anyway..so we were talking about sexual stuff and she said she's never had any feelings for being horny at all! She has never had an orgasm

I dont want to touch her in any way other than kissing cuz i really like her. But I'd like to at least get her to enjoy herself alone a little. That might make her days better and make her happier. any ideas how I can do that?


Just take things really slowly man, she seems like she's had a really tough life / quite vulnerable.
I'm sure that once she's comfortable/ready, she'll figure it out for herself.

As like one of the previous posters wrote already, what is the rush?

[DonJ]

Omg.. U got it all wrong! I don't want her to do anything with me... I just think she should experiment by herself. We talked about it a little but I really didn't know what to say without sounding creepy .

[Pat the Bunny]

Omg.. U got it all wrong! I don't want her to do anything with me... I just think she should experiment by herself. We talked about it a little but I really didn't know what to say without sounding creepy .

I get what you're saying, but some people just don't have that urge. It's normal. So yeah, don't force her into anything.

[Babs]

This is not appropriate. :locked: