Avoiding stuff

[villager64]

So I've been with this person for 5ish months, and lately they have been attempting to get..intimate. We will be hanging out together, start kissing, and then they try to go to second base..I try maneuver them away, mostly because I don't feel...up to size...is there anyway I could over come this, or keep this situation from happening without being direct?

[Lost in the Echo]

Really the only way to put a stop to this is to explain to this person that you're not ready for all this yet.

[DoodleSnap]

I'm sorry, but I don't know what second base means. However, I understand that you aren't comfortable with the intimacy becoming of a more sexual nature. You said that you are afraid of being direct? Why is this? Try to ask yourself what it is about speaking to this person directly is. Communication is one of the most important foundations of any relationship, so I would urge you to speak to them. We have a strange culture here in English speaking countries of being afraid to speak our mind, and instead we bottle up our feelings - the 'Stiff-Upper-Lip'. I think it is important that we speak to those we are in a relationship with, especially so when that relationship is romantic. Speak to them, and try to make it clear, in a balanced way, how nervous you are about sexual intimacy, and how to approach the issue, together, in the future. Love doesn't work with only one party, so work together and make the issue open. Bottling up feelings makes it worse, trust me. Good luck!

[villager64]

I'm sorry, but I don't know what second base means. However, I understand that you aren't comfortable with the intimacy becoming of a more sexual nature. You said that you are afraid of being direct? Why is this? Try to ask yourself what it is about speaking to this person directly is. Communication is one of the most important foundations of any relationship, so I would urge you to speak to them. We have a strange culture here in English speaking countries of being afraid to speak our mind, and instead we bottle up our feelings - the 'Stiff-Upper-Lip'. I think it is important that we speak to those we are in a relationship with, especially so when that relationship is romantic. Speak to them, and try to make it clear, in a balanced way, how nervous you are about sexual intimacy, and how to approach the issue, together, in the future. Love doesn't work with only one party, so work together and make the issue open. Bottling up feelings makes it worse, trust me. Good luck!

2nd base is pretty much petting/fondling of certain "places"

And I kind of want to not be direct, because direct is pretty much saying "hey dont touch me there because im embarrassed because of how small i am"

[Lost in the Echo]

2nd base is pretty much petting/fondling of certain "places"

And I kind of want to not be direct, because direct is pretty much saying "hey dont touch me there because im embarrassed because of how small i am"

Well this person will eventually find out anyway, right?
As mentioned, communication is very important.

Would telling this person something along the lines of "I'm just not comfortable going 2nd base yet" be sufficient enough?

Honestly, there's really no way to handle this problem without being direct.

[Contra]

I've been in that situation and really, the only thing to do is to say bluntly that you're not ready. If that person doesn't respect that, well... it gets complicated, because you shouldn't be with someone who doesn't respect your wishes.
If you feel uncomfortable because of your size, then you should really give it time, because eventually stuff like that will no longer matter (not that it really matters).

[DoodleSnap]

2nd base is pretty much petting/fondling of certain "places"

And I kind of want to not be direct, because direct is pretty much saying "hey dont touch me there because im embarrassed because of how small i am"
You shouldn't have to feel embarrassed around someone that you love. Honesty and openness are inherently synonymous with the concept of love itself. They are going to have to find out at some point, so don't bottle up your feelings, be honest. To be quite honest, it would be very shallow to break up with someone because you think that they aren't "big enough". If they truly love you, then they would be able to see past something as minor as that.