My parents confuse me...

[Rebecca.Bingham287]

I've been brought up with my parents telling me that they would support me no matter what. So when I come to them and I tell them that I'm gay, and I know for sure. They refuse to acknowledge it. They say "You haven't met the right man yet" or "Just you wait and you'll find the perfect man" That could all be well and true but to just not acknowledge that I'm gay. I like women, not men. They have always told me that they would support me and now I'm not so sure.

[Gwen]

In my own reasoning I can see why they are reluctant to accept it. Many parents who have children usually wish for grandchildren or for their child to be successful. They probably want their bloodline to continue through grandchildren that they can sit on their lap and tell stories or whatever else. They should come round to accepting once they realise that they can't change who you are. Just stay strong and adamant in your position, good luck with everything :)

[Andyyy95]

I've been brought up with my parents telling me that they would support me no matter what. So when I come to them and I tell them that I'm gay, and I know for sure. They refuse to acknowledge it. They say "You haven't met the right man yet" or "Just you wait and you'll find the perfect man" That could all be well and true but to just not acknowledge that I'm gay. I like women, not men. They have always told me that they would support me and now I'm not so sure.

They should be happy for you / support you if they know it's the decision you've made, and that it makes you happy as a person!

In all fairness though, you're still young... So I can see why they might say such a thing!

But at the end of the day, it's up to you - it's your life, and you should be free to do whatever you want :)

Andy

[mrjc]

give them time and don't change for them, be true to yourself

[Jaffe]

Parents are always confusing. And they are slow to accept things. Just keep being who you are, and let them see it, and let them process it.

[Aajj333]

I've been brought up with my parents telling me that they would support me no matter what. So when I come to them and I tell them that I'm gay, and I know for sure. They refuse to acknowledge it. They say "You haven't met the right man yet" or "Just you wait and you'll find the perfect man" That could all be well and true but to just not acknowledge that I'm gay. I like women, not men. They have always told me that they would support me and now I'm not so sure.

Old people are stupid. If they don't want to accept you, do what ever it is that makes you happy:metal:

[Faolan]

And make sure you don't ever apologize to them for liking women. Acting ashamed only will reaffirm their viewpoint. Stand tall & be assertive

[DoodleSnap]

Facing a child coming out is a very difficult time for some parents, as many of their deeply hidden fears and insecurities come to light, even ones from their childhood. Some parents act in denial, and that is their coping mechanism. All you can really do is be strong, and allow them to take their own journey to maturity. I understand it is very frustrating, as my girlfriend is going through the same situation with her mum, but don't let it get to you. You are strong, so stand tall, and be the better person.
Good luck.

[LoveDat]

I guess you gotta bring home the right womwn then ;)

[Coolguy10890]

I've been brought up with my parents telling me that they would support me no matter what. So when I come to them and I tell them that I'm gay, and I know for sure. They refuse to acknowledge it. They say "You haven't met the right man yet" or "Just you wait and you'll find the perfect man" That could all be well and true but to just not acknowledge that I'm gay. I like women, not men. They have always told me that they would support me and now I'm not so sure.

This is exactly happening to me too except well, I'm a guy and I like guys, not girls. Lol.

[Laibachd]

That´s not nice :/

[Iam-Marie]

I think that's the first reaction of all parents. But it will change your mind determines when they see that you're happy with the woman at your side.

[Cangirl]

Yeah just give them some time to accept it. They might be in shock right now but if they've said that they will support you, then hold them to it :)