How seriously do you take dating and why?

[Uniquemind]

Just as the title of the thread says, how seriously do you take dating and why?


What does "dating" mean to you?



To me it means if you're "dating" nobody is exclusive yet and cheating is not possible at this stage.


If you are "dating a bf/gf" then that means a discussion took place that made you two and item and cheating is possible depending if you agreed to be in an open relationship or a closed one.



Thoughts?


I'm discovering that a lot of my peers do not see dating this way.

They instantly see "dating" to mean exclusivity between 1 boy and 1 girl.

But I'm finding that older teens and young adults see "dating" the way I defined it above.

[Emerald Dream]

To me there is a difference between "dating" and "in a relationship."

I am currently dating someone, and have been for about a year and a half. Either one (or both) of us is free to stop at any point. We have not actually committed to a relationship. I do admit that I have not been seeing anyone else, though. I guess that would fall under "dating exclusively" - I don't know? I guess it's pretty specific.

[Uniquemind]

To me there is a difference between "dating" and "in a relationship."

I am currently dating someone, and have been for about a year and a half. Either one (or both) of us is free to stop at any point. We have not actually committed to a relationship. I do admit that I have not been seeing anyone else, though. I guess that would fall under "dating exclusively" - I don't know? I guess it's pretty specific.

See it's vague!

I'm starting to realize the origin of drama between couples stems (which may result in the breakup of the couple later down the road) from at what point both individual(s) understand that their relationship's rules keep both parties from seeing other people regardless if sexual activity took place with others(aka: this defines what cheating is, and also affects the definition of trust in the entire relationship).


I'm finding the younger the couple is, or innocent in mind if not by young chronological age, the more automatically both assume dating=exclusivity.


I hope this thread stays open for the long haul and I am requesting this thread be an indefinitely open for discussion and debate.
EmeraldDream you should pose this question to your partner and get back to report their point of view on my question too. I'd really appreciate it since it seems some of my threads don't really get looked at.


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I also want to say this. I take dating very seriously, although not exclusively in the beginning because I know what I'm looking for in a partner, and what I'm looking for is set at a very high bar. That scares people off sometimes because I'm really intense about the relationship.


But I do not like short-term flings with no hope of a long-serious relationship.

I am also comfortable being single as well so, if I don't find what I'm looking for I've made peace with that.

[Uniquemind]

Is there a reason I'm not getting any responses to this question?

[SayIT]

Just as the title of the thread says, how seriously do you take dating and why?
What does "dating" mean to you?

To me it means if you're "dating" nobody is exclusive yet and cheating is not possible at this stage.


If you are "dating a bf/gf" then that means a discussion took place that made you two and item and cheating is possible depending if you agreed to be in an open relationship or a closed one.
Thoughts?
I'm discovering that a lot of my peers do not see dating this way.

They instantly see "dating" to mean exclusivity between 1 boy and 1 girl.
But I'm finding that older teens and young adults see "dating" the way I defined it above.

This is serious questions that I have from many years but I was selfish person before studying was only thing I did, everything was secondary. I didn't find any good partner and I attend university. I didn't see anyone in class that could match for me suddenly one of girls from my class came out to light and asked something from me related to courses I realized that she is walking in same patch like me. I just see her like business partner nothing more and I invite her to clandestine study group that I manage, I tried my best to cover up this contact from other people in class... suddenly the corporation that I work for them asked me to go back so I request to move out to nearest university, I informed her that I have to move out, At first time She said she want to come with me too but if she come with me she will lose her family and she must live with her grandparents, but she want to be by myside.

I took it as confession, From the start I didn't have any intention to look at her like life partner so I told her; I didn't find the right person so If she can be ready for that I want to wait and I want you to be by my side, so I asked her out, she wasn't ready for marriage neither I, She said She want to fall in love with heart not mind but she didn't reject me, I told her that I close my heart and blind my eyes because, you are only person in my heart so I will wait for you until you give me answer.

She has many guy friends and I know them very well but her guy friends doesn't know me.
We are talking over phones and we see each other only in university now.

My case is something that you never encountered, Well I feel committed to her if turns out good I will be grateful but if she turn away and go with another guy I just invest on good friend. Like you I dont have problem to be alone I have been alone.

[Contra]

I think that dating is a stage where you're just getting to know each other, without any kind of ties to bind you, so yes, technically I don't think that cheating is a viable term in those conditions.
However, when I'm dating someone, it's because I have interest in said person, so I never think about seeing someone else in the meantime, you see? It would make me feel wrong.