nobody wants to be around me

[IrvingWolfe]

I seem to have the hardest time keeping friends. I can make friends when I meet new people, but they rarely want to stay around. either they don't share my interests and think I'm a stupid nerd, they end up being really shallow and don't want to be seen associating with me because of my appearance or sexuality, or I screw up and do something to drive them away. I feel like I don't have anyone who I can trust, or be myself around. it seems like I always have to wear a mask of some kind

[Uniquemind]

Okay so that's going to happen in life sometimes.

But what you can do is fix whatever you're doing that's driving people away from you.


When people say "be yourself" around people it doesn't mean that others must tolerate you if "being yourself" implies you force others to tolerate mean or judgmental behavior.

Either way you've told us the problem your dealing with now ask what you want advice wise.

[NeuroTiger]

These are the ups and downs in life.
Why do you think that they don't like your appearance?

[seamo34]

I seem to have the hardest time keeping friends. I can make friends when I meet new people, but they rarely want to stay around. either they don't share my interests and think I'm a stupid nerd, they end up being really shallow and don't want to be seen associating with me because of my appearance or sexuality, or I screw up and do something to drive them away. I feel like I don't have anyone who I can trust, or be myself around. it seems like I always have to wear a mask of some kind

i find the same thing at times life can be crewl keep strong!

[Contra]

Hello Shawn!
A lot of times, it's not that people don't find you interesting, but your self-esteem may not be the highest, so you tend to think that. Maybe you even see things where they don't exist and take some of people's actions wrongly.
There is a lot of people in this world, I bet that someone identifies with you. You just need to keep meeting people and getting to know them.
About that mask... well, this sounds a bit bad, but in the beginning you do "have to" wear a sort of mask. Actually, that's not right. You just don't show yourself fully in the beginning, do you get what I'm saying? Then, when you build up enough confidence and reliance, you can act completely as yourself.
You mustn't expect to have such a strong relationship right from the start! Here's a fun trick I use: if I say "I gotta go pee" instead of "I have to go to the bathroom", it means I'm comfortable around said person. However, the best way is to see if the moments of silence you share are not awkward. Just keep looking for that and be yourself!