I Need Your Advice

[antb]

Hi! So here's the thing. I'm not sure what the hell I am, I know I'm not straight, but I'm not sure if I'm bi, or gay, or whatever. But now it's really getting to me. I've been thinking about it on and off for a few years now, but what really makes me sad is that I can't tell anyone and I need to keep it for myself. It sucks. And then the other problem is that were I to come out I have no idea what would happen next. My parents wouldn't mind and neither would most of my family (my grandpa would not be ok with it). The problem isn't the big things that would change, but the small ones. One prime example would be the locking room, it would just make for an incredibly awkward situation. And on top of all that I'm changing schools next year, so coming out would just set me up to have an awful experience. I don't know what to do. I want to tell someone but no one at the same time. I hope you guys understand! :)

[Vermilion]

I understand, can you not just tell your and close a friends ? You don't have to be out but I understand wanting people to know.

[seamo34]

Hi! So here's the thing. I'm not sure what the hell I am, I know I'm not straight, but I'm not sure if I'm bi, or gay, or whatever. But now it's really getting to me. I've been thinking about it on and off for a few years now, but what really makes me sad is that I can't tell anyone and I need to keep it for myself. It sucks. And then the other problem is that were I to come out I have no idea what would happen next. My parents wouldn't mind and neither would most of my family (my grandpa would not be ok with it). The problem isn't the big things that would change, but the small ones. One prime example would be the locking room, it would just make for an incredibly awkward situation. And on top of all that I'm changing schools next year, so coming out would just set me up to have an awful experience. I don't know what to do. I want to tell someone but no one at the same time. I hope you guys understand! :)

hey man i kow what ur saying but give yourself time to think no one is putting pressure on ypu to come out as something take ur time :P

[AceofSpades97]

I would say you need to take your time idk your age but I asume you are pretty young so you have time to make up your mind just have patience it will come and you will get to know who you are attracted to soon enough. Just wait till you know for sure

[Zachary G]

i think everyone has the right idea, take your time and really put some thought into who you really are before you come out to anyone. first you have to find yourself, accept yourself before you can move on to telling anyone. take your time, theres no rush. find yourself.

[mrjc]

yeah make sure before telling the world

[DoodleSnap]

I understand that you are in a difficult position, but don't rush to label yourself. Let yourself find out with experience and time what it is you like, and be honest to yourself and broaden your perspective. Just be comfortable with whoever you are attracted to, and don't let a label confine you. Also remember that there is no rush or obligation to come out. You could come out to just your family, or just your close friends, or whatever. It is 100% your choice. Puberty is a difficult time for everyone in regards to sexuality, so don't freak out, you're doing fine.
I hope all goes well.

[beenthere]

Hey Dude, You saying that you don't know what the hell you are tells me exactly what I need to know. Your way over thinking your situation, but it's kind of normal to do that, I did that too. The truth is there is a lot more people than you think in your same situation, and completely freaking out about it.. Don't worry about the lables for a while, your still figuring things out, and jusst when you think you got it all figured out, it still can change. Still it helps a lot if you can just find one person to share your thoughts with, (maybe your grandpa or a friend) but don't lable yourself. I though I had it all figured out when I was 14, but I got a serious curve ball a couple years after that. Keep your options open while you are still in school. Accept yourself as you are, but don't shut out the things you haven't experienced yet. Don't worry so much about what you are. relationships form, so go out and form relationships and see where it goes, worry about the rest later when it becomes necessary.