Confidence issues talking to girls

[BlueDream]

Ok so, I've always had confidence issues when it comes to talking to girls. I find it hard to be flirty with girls and I have never really had any luck, resulting in me never having a girlfriend before. I would love to build upon my confidence and make it easier for myself to talk to girls in a flirty way or a way that will get there attention and I was hoping someone could give me some advice. Thanks guys! :D

[Microcosm]

I'll take a shot at this.

For me, I pretty much had to just stop caring about it so much in order to gain some confidence. Personally, I just kind of let go and, rather than trying to impress them all the time, I just started being myself. It really helps to focus more on acting normal than trying to impress people. That was a mistake I've made so many times.

[Breadzilla]

I agree with what was said above, personally I saw a video that helped me regarding it. I could talk to people but it would always just end up with both awkwardly looking around and not saying anything, because neither could think of something to say.

The video explained how you have this mental barrier, where every time you're about to say something, it goes through your brain and processes like "Is this a good thing to say?" and some times it will keep you from saying it. If you learn how to ignore that train of thought it will get you a long way. I've been with people way out of my league purely because I realized that as long as you don't stop yourself every time you're trying to say something, you can literally talk about anything.

Good luck out there! :)

[fighterpilot360]

i have the same problems except i cant gather enough courage to talk to the girls so im kinda skrewed

[ValentinClarke]

I had the problem, but I just became friends with them. You just have to manipulate them in a certain way, and use your body language to influence their mind patterns. I don't know how to get further than friends though

[Breadzilla]

I had the problem, but I just became friends with them. You just have to manipulate them in a certain way, and use your body language to influence their mind patterns. I don't know how to get further than friends though

Manipulation doesn't seem like a particularly nice approach. :P
However, regarding the not knowing how to get further than friends, drop signs that you'd like to be more than friends if you're into them.

What seems to work the best for me is to be somewhat dirty, only a tad bit though. Show confidence, don't let your confidence drop despite what they may say, a couple of years ago I had just gotten trying to date someone, we had a kiss, and let me tell you this, I wasn't born a good kisser. :P She said something about it being a bit too much saliva, which usually would have discouraged me at least, however I just went for a new attempt and it worked better. If I had just left it there and dropped my confidence then it would've just ended awkwardly and me regretting not trying.

Tl;dr: Sometimes you just have to jump into it.