Asexual?

[DemolitionLover]

I have been questioning my sexuality for a long time, and I still am.

Lately I've almost lost my interest in sex. Actually I'm coming to realize that it's been like that for awhile. I think. Sure I may think somebody is attractive, or I may even say they're hot, but I have absolutely no desire to do anything with them. For example kiss them, or anything generally sexual....

Gerard Way for example.... Okay I freaking love the guy. He's a wonderful singer and a beautiful person inside and out. Umm... Many girls would want to.... fantasize about him if they love him as much as I do. Well, at least my best friend does. ^^; But I, on the other hand, despite this unconditional love, would be satisfied with just meeting him in person and becoming very good friends. Or something like that. I have no desire to get physically close to him.

Not too long ago I kissed my girlfriend for the first time. I felt... nothing. I really do care about her and love her. But for some reason after that kiss I was just... blank. Or something, I don't know. And after that kiss I have had no interest in anything else physical. In fact I haven't even felt like masturbating. And when I did masturbate I realized that it was water coming out of a showerhead and not a penis or whatever. Do girls usually pretend that it is something else? I don't know that statement was a little odd.

I've been reading things about asexuality and it seems to me that it fits. Now that I recall I have never really wanted anything physical from anybody whether they be female or male, throughout my teen life so far. Not Gerard Way (ha!), not my girlfriend...... But it feels natural. Like I'm not even supposed to have sexual feelings.

Did that make sense? At all? Sorry I've had a rough day. Sometimes my grammar and typing are off on these days... :|

[Serenity]

There's of course the possibility that you're asexual. However you have to acknowledge the possibility that because you're still only 14 your ridiculous pubescent hormones haven't released their surge of attraction to everything on legs yet. There's also the possibility that you simply have a low sex drive, as opposed to none at all, or that you're just not turned on by the things/people you've come across so far in life. Who knows? Wait like a good 5 years before you start trying to label your sexuality. At 14, you shouldn't be worrying about sexuality anyway. Just be a kid. Long story short, yes you might be asexual but don't stress yourself over it.

[chris__robin]

sometimes a loss in sexual motivation is due to depression or stress etc... basically some other underlying issue.

so maybe there is something else bigger in your life bothering you? family life ... moving, new school ... friendship troubles ... depression??? i dont know its a possibility.