Friends but no boyfriend

[jacshamy]

Sometimes I really wish I had a boyfriend. Someone I could be close to and do all the loving things with. I have friends that are guys. And I love my best friend, but like a brother. I have friends but I feel lonely at times. I don't understand why that is. Am I supposed to settle for whoever I can get? I don't even know what I'm supposed to do or act like. I feel like an idiot. Ugh. Ok I'm done ranting.

[Zachary G]

you are never supposed to settle for just anyone, wait for that special one and then just be yourself and go for it. there is no special way you need to act and there isnt anything special you need to do, when someone likes you, they should like you for who you truly are.

[jacshamy]

you are never supposed to settle for just anyone, wait for that special one and then just be yourself and go for it. there is no special way you need to act and there isnt anything special you need to do, when someone likes you, they should like you for who you truly are.

Thanks Zack. I feel like a loser because most of my friends have girlfriends. Like it is because I'm gay so I can't be with someone? Should I be straight and have a girlfriend? I don't think I could make it work tho. I like guys. A LOT. But the only gay guys I know in school I'm not interested in, or they don't even know I exist. I don't really cry about this but sometimes I want to.

[Vermilion]

Thanks Zack. I feel like a loser because most of my friends have girlfriends. Like it is because I'm gay so I can't be with someone? Should I be straight and have a girlfriend? I don't think I could make it work tho. I like guys. A LOT. But the only gay guys I know in school I'm not interested in, or they don't even know I exist. I don't really cry about this but sometimes I want to.

You shouldnt try and be straight it's not what you are, your really good looking with great eyes I didn't know any person that wouldn't want you. You say they don't know you exist, are you out ? And like zack you need to find the right person :) I'm not out as bi expect on here so I don't get anyone showing interest in me.

[jacshamy]

You shouldnt try and be straight it's not what you are, your really good looking with great eyes I didn't know any person that wouldn't want you. You say they don't know you exist, are you out ? And like zack you need to find the right person :) I'm not out as bi expect on here so I don't get anyone showing interest in me.

No I'm not out to too many people.

[Vermilion]

No I'm not out to too many people.

See my point if your out you will get more attention from guys. If you chose to come out you'll find someone in no time :)

[jacshamy]

See my point if your out you will get more attention from guys. If you chose to come out you'll find someone in no time :)

I am so not ready to be really out.

[Vermilion]

I am so not ready to be really out.

And you don't have to be out. :)

[jacshamy]

And you don't have to be out. :)

It's like damned if I do, damned if I don't. :(

[Vermilion]

It's like damned if I do, damned if I don't. :(

I have the same feeling if I'm out i get to meet guys as well as girls but if I'm out I'm going to get a lot of crap from people

[jacshamy]

I have the same feeling if I'm out i get to meet guys as well as girls but if I'm out I'm going to get a lot of crap from people

The biggest thing I'm afraid of is losing my friends. Even more than family believe it or not.

[Vermilion]

The biggest thing I'm afraid of is losing my friends. Even more than family believe it or not.

My family will stick by me but I'm scared of how my friends will take it

[jacshamy]

My family will stick by me but I'm scared of how my friends will take it

It shouldn't matter. I mean that's what everyone says. But when you're living it it does matter.

[Vermilion]

It shouldn't matter. I mean that's what everyone says. But when you're living it it does matter.

Your telling me I've been wanting to tell everyone for since Christmas I thought new year new start thing but still haven't only one female friend knowknows.

[jacshamy]

Your telling me I've been wanting to tell everyone for since Christmas I thought new year new start thing but still haven't only one female friend knowknows.

My brothers and sister know. A couple of my friends know. I asked them to keep it secret so far they did.

[Vermilion]

My brothers and sister know. A couple of my friends know. I asked them to keep it secret so far they did.

only tell people when your ready to and if they can't expect it they aren't worth being friends with

[jacshamy]

only tell people when your ready to and if they can't expect it they aren't worth being friends with

But they were worth being friends with before. That's the hard part.

[Vermilion]

But they were worth being friends with before. That's the hard part.

I know that you mean but you should be able to be the real you around them without it making a difference. When I come out if anyone treats me differently I'm going to have a go at them cos for 8 years they have never had a problem with me

[jacshamy]

I know that you mean but you should be able to be the real you around them without it making a difference. When I come out if anyone treats me differently I'm going to have a go at them cos for 8 years they have never had a problem with me

That's what I'll do too. I just don't want to have to go there. I love my friends a lot.

[Vermilion]

That's what I'll do too. I just don't want to have to go there. I love my friends a lot.

My close friends are family to me so it would kill me to see them react badly to it

[jacshamy]

My close friends are family to me so it would kill me to see them react badly to it

Yup. Same here. So now what do we do?

[Vermilion]

Yup. Same here. So now what do we do?

I guess we get the balls and just tell them, see who are really our friends are and who will stick by us no matter what :) like you said nothing is changing the only difference is they will know something new that won't change the way we've been for all this time

[jacshamy]

I guess we get the balls and just tell them, see who are really our friends are and who will stick by us no matter what :) like you said nothing is changing the only difference is they will know something new that won't change the way we've been for all this time

back to square 1. lol

[Vermilion]

back to square 1. lol

Pretty much :P it's easy to say it but not do it

[jacshamy]

Pretty much :P it's easy to say it but not do it

We suck. lol

[Vermilion]

We suck. lol

I plan on doing it by my 18th in July

[jacshamy]

Come out to everyone?

[Vermilion]

Come out to everyone?

Yeah well family and friends I'm tempted to do it this weekend after talking with you

[jacshamy]

I started with my sister.

[Vermilion]

I started with my sister.

My sister is 12 my older brother is 21 and I have a twin brother. So I guess I'd start with my twin

[jacshamy]

Twin brother? Wow! Is he gay?

[Vermilion]

Twin brother? Wow! Is he gay?

no I'm bi he's straight as far as I know I don't think he is its a gut feeling

[jacshamy]

no I'm bi he's straight as far as I know I don't think he is its a gut feeling

So I'm just going to ask. Are you both identical, as in, identical?

[Vermilion]

So I'm just going to ask. Are you both identical, as in, identical?

Non identical but we look very similar so much most people can't tell the difference if you go on my profile page you can see a pic I'm onights the right my twin on the left

[jacshamy]

Non identical but we look very similar so much most people can't tell the difference if you go on my profile page you can see a pic I'm onights the right my twin on the left

Some good lookin boys there. Yessereebob!

[Vermilion]

Some good lookin boys there. Yessereebob!

thanks your better looking, you tell the difference ?
do you think you could in when we used to wear the same school uniform ?

[Axel_]

The problem is you want a boyfriend but you're afraid to come out. Are your friends anti-gay?

[jacshamy]

The problem is you want a boyfriend but you're afraid to come out. Are your friends anti-gay?

I never heard any say they hate gay people, but they always make "fag" jokes or whatever.