forgiveness ?

[Vermilion]

How many times can you forgive a family member ?. So I've put up with my dad drinking for 8 year's (that's as far back as I can remember it's been going on longer). I could put up with it if it was every Friday/Saturday night, but it's not it's Christmas, death's and stress from work. So its not everyday but when he does he's completely out off it for about a week or 2. To the point he can't stand and he's throwing up blood. So he end's up in hospital for a couple of days then comes home and saids he's sorry and that it won't happen again. But it's always bull shit. So last week he went down to see my uncle his brother who has cancer only only has a couple of days left
A week at the max. he stays down there for nearly a week calling every day saying this and that saying he's not drinking. Then my uncles nabour calls to say he's been drinking all week and that he's been band from the hospist for he's behaviour. He promised me when I went to get help with my depression that he wouldn't drink. Well that's just another broken promise and lie to me and my family. He got home today and no one is speak to him. I want to say how are ? How's my uncle ?. But I've been lied to so many times to my face by him. I told myself I won't forgive him when I found out, but he's my dad no he's not perfect but he puts a roof over my head and supporsupports me when it's needed.
So my question is should I forgive him ? I can't forget what he's put me though but he's my dad.
What's your opiopinions ?
Many thanks Tom

[Babs]

If it's getting in the way of your family, then I don't blame you for being angry. I don't think you should feel obligated to forgive him just because he is your father. You gotta draw the line somewhere.
I wouldn't forgive him if I were you. There are family members of mine I will never forgive.
But it's not about my opinion on the situation. It's about you and your safety. Trust your gut. If you feel you should forgive him, then forgive him. If you feel you shouldn't, then don't.

[benj2]

well he is your dad and u love him at the end of the dad as long as he don't hit you