Scared

[northy]

So I realised that I was gay a couple of months ago and I've got to the stage where I'm thinking about coming out to some people.
The problem is that my parents and family are really homophobic and at the very least, they would never see me as their son again. More likely that I would be thrown out and never talked to again. My dad always makes some comment along the lines of 'devils assfuckers' if gay people are ever portrayed on tv.
I've been thinking about coming to some close friends, but I'm worried that I might let it slip to my family by accident.

[Zachary G]

If you are in a house that is not supportive of you, then I wouldnt be in such a rush to come out just yet. You might have to wait until you are able to support yourself or have a safe place to goto when you do it, especially if you know that your parents would cut you off/ disown you because of who you are. Its really a major life step to make and sometimes it comes with consequences and sometimes it does not. The decision is ultimately yours because only you know your family and friends better than anyone here, so take some more time to think things out and then make your move. Good luck and you have friends here that support you all the way.

[SethfromMI]

If you are in a house that is not supportive of you, then I wouldnt be in such a rush to come out just yet. You might have to wait until you are able to support yourself or have a safe place to goto when you do it, especially if you know that your parents would cut you off/ disown you because of who you are. Its really a major life step to make and sometimes it comes with consequences and sometimes it does not. The decision is ultimately yours because only you know your family and friends better than anyone here, so take some more time to think things out and then make your move. Good luck and you have friends here that support you all the way.

this. no reason to put yourself in a situation where you might be in danger or lose your home, even if it means you got to keep a part of you hidden for the time being

[pjones]

i hope you can wait until you have a group of supportive people around you. if your family is that bad, not coming out may be your best option right now. i wish it was different but the world isn't accepting enough right now.

good luck!

[DoodleSnap]

If you are in a house that is not supportive of you, then I wouldnt be in such a rush to come out just yet. You might have to wait until you are able to support yourself or have a safe place to goto when you do it, especially if you know that your parents would cut you off/ disown you because of who you are. Its really a major life step to make and sometimes it comes with consequences and sometimes it does not. The decision is ultimately yours because only you know your family and friends better than anyone here, so take some more time to think things out and then make your move. Good luck and you have friends here that support you all the way.
This is important ^^^. Well done on being mature enough to understand your own sexuality, and accept it; as that is a big step!
Right now, considering the circumstances that you are in, I think it is best that you wait until you are self reliant and independent until you share your identity. If you have some very trusted friends to speak to, or a school guidance teacher, then you could speak to them about it, and maybe explain the situation at home. Most importantly, don't do anything out of your comfort zone, and put your safety first. Good luck.

[mrjc]

yeah keep it a secret for now, make your life easier

[Jaffe]

I agree with zackzack and the other posters here. I've never been in that situation, but it just makes sense to surround yourself with support first, then come out. You don't jump off the high dive unless you've checked to make sure there's plenty of water in the pool.