Too old? Or just not right?

[ValentinClarke]

Okay, So I really like this guy, and I think he likes me judging by the way he is around me, like he always tries to make eye contact with me, even across a field, and he always leans really into me. But I don't even know if he's gay/bi, and it really annoys me. He's in year 11 and I'm in year 9, and he's leaving real soon, for study leave, I think, then he's gone from this school forever, but he could actually see me about once a week. He's just turned 16 and I'm about a 14 and a half. I really like him. I don't know what to do though. I like him, and want to go out with him, but idk...

[Vermilion]

From a legal part it's wrong / to old. But I don't see a problem with it, I think it's sweet. All you can do is speak with him and see how he reacts.

[Uniquemind]

That's a very common two year age gap, and most laws have a close in age clause.

[Zachary G]

write him a little note asking him if he likes you, yes or no --

[masterofdisaster1997]

From a legal part it's wrong / to old. But I don't see a problem with it, I think it's sweet. All you can do is speak with him and see how he reacts.

Please remember that depending on where you live the age gap rules are different. What could be legal in one place could be illegal in another place. Also, the way people view the age gap is different all over the world. I have a friend from spain who was 13 and dated a 22 year old dude and it was accepeted. If your from America that may be frowned upon even if its legal.

Bottom line, do what you feel is afe follow your heart but dont get in trouble. Sometimes if you dont take a chance you wont get a reward or find the answer your looking for. :)

[Abhorrence]

I'm in year 11 and a person in my year is dating a year 7 so like 16 and 12. And it is hella wrong, it's like going out with a child. Quite a few year 11s go out with year 9s though, it's not really a problem but just not something I would ever do.

[Splat]

I think the real reason people think the 2 year age gap is so wrong is because you're young and although it doesn't matter too much to me, it is a bit weird. Yet, it's pretty common for people in their mid 20s + to have age gaps because it's not such a gigantic gap because they're older (if you see what I mean) and you have a wider range of people to choose from (when you give or take a few years). I do think an age gap higher than 5 years is pushing the line but hey, that could just be me.

I think if you really do like him and he really does like you, you ought to just remain friends until you're at least 16/17. Either of you may find you've changed your mind about being interested in each other, but it still means you can stay in contact as friends. That way, if you do end up finding different people, you can go to each other for advice :)

[Melodic]

I've seen a lot of 16 and 14 year olds date. It's not a problem to me.

[ashdyn]

My usual rule of thumb is 2 years up or down. You're fine lol

[City Kid]

In my opinion a 16-year-old dating a 14-year-old isn't wrong at all.
Law-wise I can just speak for where I live, but here it'd even be legal for you to date anyone up to 21 years old. Not saying that that'd be a good idea though of course, but you get the idea.