Problems with friends

[Jazze]

After graduating from high school, I just felt really lonely. It's been hard for me since none of my HS friends are in the school I went to for college. I have made some friends. But I feel as if I can't bring myself or don't know how, to be closer to them. Sure,I eat with them,group with them in activities,help out each other in schoolwork and hang out with them during breaks. But outside school, I just don't hang out with anyone for fun. I feel lonely because I want to spend time with them that doesn't concern school but it seems as if I can't go to them for that. I don't know how to tell them what I'm feeling because we're not that close. I feel pathetic sometimes when I don't go out with friends like other people. I know that there must be something wrong with my relationships with my friends because I can't reach out to them.

I guess I'am a quiet type of person. I'm just not really the type that instantly connects with other people and share to them what happened to my day or how I feel. I don't know how to change this and what to do with myself.

It gets worse when I compare myself to my sisters who have tons of friends and always seem to have a party or an event to rush off to. Now that it's summer and school's out where I live, I'm more lonely since I don't see anyone and it seems to me that no one remembers me. I feel so so lonely and I get depressed. I'm sure it's not depression yet and I don't want to reach that point. I do have a good relationship with my family and I'm really thankful for that, but I just want more. Please do help and give me advice if you have one.

p.s. Sorry for the long post :whoops:

[Mzor203]

Don't worry, I know how you feel. I homeschooled from 1st-7th grade, and in those years, especially grades 6 and 7, I had very little friends. I managed to get along, but I was always very lonely, until I first went to a public school.

Now I'm back to homeschooling, but I am still a member of my school's band, so I see my friends every now and then.

What you need to do in your situation, is first, wait out the summer. I'm sure your other friends are having the same situation, with everyone coming back from a different place. So just stay sane over the summer. See if you can connect with your old friends.

When summer's over, just call people up on the weekend once in a while and say, "Hey, wanna do something today?" If they say they can't, then ask them when a good time to do something is. If you're hanging out with them as often as you are I'm sure they all think you are a great person. You just need to be more proactive, get out there talk to people. Good luck. ;)


Oh, and by the way, no one minds the long post. At VT that's what we're here for, listening to people's problems and helping them out.

[Nihilus]

Try to oh invite your old friends over perhaps on the weekend.
I know whats its like and My big advice is keep working on get close to your friends.:D