Was it rude to cut off Facebook?

[Vilnius]

Hey. So a few weeks ago (probably like 10) I started practicing for a theater play and thought it would be cool since I knew a couple people there. It all goes like you'd expect for quite some time, but I don't really talk to anyone new there. Well just under 2 weeks ago this girl from the play adds me on Facebook and starts messaging me. We talk a little bit about the weekly rehearsals and a little about our personal lives and such. Then just after that she starts to tag me in some posts about having close friends, "tag your BFFs", etc.

Later I heard that she met up with sort of a family friend and told them about us being really good friends, which I found kind of creepy. Keep in mind that I've never even talked to this girl face-to-face.

We sort of talked a little more, but by the time she tagged me in at least the sixth post, I really had enough with the whole deal. It seemed kind of stalker-ish, to be honest. I tried to untag myself from the latest post, but all it did was remove the link. My name was still there to see for mutual friends of everyone tagged.

For quite some time now, I've wanted to quit Facebook altogether, but haven't really had any motivation to do so. But after this happened, I went to account settings and deactivated my account. I didn't give any notice whatsoever.

So, I'm wondering, was it rude of me to do this? I was kind of thinking of just telling her I wanted to deactivate it if she asks. I didn't know how to confront about any of it without sounding like a rude ass about it. I really don't know this person, so of course I'm not comfortable with stuff like this.

[ImagineRepublicCity]

Well, deactivating your account does not always mean you're trying to get away from one person. It can mean anything like "Spending time away from the computer" or "Trying to focus on studies" or even "Your parents forced you to." It's of course a surprise to others when you don't tell them, and they're bound to ask if they are able to, but it's not really a problem. Your problem isn't theirs, right?

Of course you don't want to just tell someone "Uhhh...go away" because that's rude. Give yourself some time to think it over. Maybe after some time you will feel comfortable talking to her, or talking about the situation. It's okay to leave it sometimes. I know it sounds a bit rude, but you barely know her, so if you really can't confront them, you can just block them. That's what I did once anyway, someone was being really creepy and the not, and I didn't really want to confront them, so I just blocked them.

It's all up to you, just give it some time to think about.
But no, it's not rude to just get off Facebook, people understand.

[James Dean]

No because to be honest I don't think this situation is what caused you to do it. I think this was probably the straw that broke the camels back, in addition to probably your feelings towards being on facebook and your name being tossed around it.

Facebook is not private. You can do things to make it so only people you know can see what you post, but even still by just adding one person to your page whether it's family or friends, your facebook is no longer private. So if you do decide to go back to facebook, just understand that. Maybe be selective as to who you add as friends and what you post, and understand you are letting people do with whatever you post and whatever they can post about you by having a facebook page.

I don't think it was rude. Just tell her that facebook wasn't working well with you, and you can tell a white lie and say it was someone else that caused it. Try not to make attacking. Just try to focus on theatre class.