I'm back with my BF! :heart:

[rachel_ballet]

Call me crazy, but my BF and are back together now, and I couldn't be any happier! Yes, we'll have to keep it low key, but that's okay! I can do that! I'm even going away with him for a few days to Ocean City! My friend has me covered as my parents will think I'm at her house! I know that this is a really daring move, but that's what makes it all more exciting! It'll work out and maybe one day my parents will understand how I feel about him and they will know that I truly love him and that he truly loves me! :D:heart::heart:

[dpriest]

Not trying to be a downer, but you are asking for trouble. If you are just "dating" (no sexual relations at all) cool. If you are sexually active with him (please please please don't be) and you go across state lines, and caught, he is looking at federal time and lifetime sex offenders list. That will ruin him, if you care for him as much as you say, stay home or at your friends house. I don't want you or anyone hurt, but the path your going on is going to be painful.

Much love and kindness.

[Ridonks_CB]

I agree with dpriest...And I also don't feel like this is very wise considering your parents, probably your father more specifically. It already seems like the relationship with you two is a bit difficult at the moment, and going back to your boyfriend (whom you legally should not be with) won't make it any better..

[Vermilion]

I get being in love but it's illegal for you two and I personally think it's wrong. Your parents must have a reason for not wanting you to be with him.

[Dying Ember]

Erm...you sure this is a good idea? Doesn't sound like it to me..

[Leprous]

Call me crazy, but my BF and are back together now, and I couldn't be any happier! Yes, we'll have to keep it low key, but that's okay! I can do that! I'm even going away with him for a few days to Ocean City! My friend has me covered as my parents will think I'm at her house! I know that this is a really daring move, but that's what makes it all more exciting! It'll work out and maybe one day my parents will understand how I feel about him and they will know that I truly love him and that he truly loves me! :D:heart::heart:

You obviously didn't understand a single word of what everyone was telling you in two other threads. If you're going to stay this stubborn it's gonna get bad.

He is atleast 5 years older, you barely started puberty, he's a legal adult. Do you not see what is wrong here? You're 13! Stop acting like an adult by dating one and get back to being an actual young teenager.

Now, if you get in trouble for this, don't go ahead and tell us it's your dad's fault, because it's not. I don't think you have any idea why your dad did it. He made you break up with him because he's worried. He doesn't want his daughter, the person he cares about most, out of anyone in the world. And you just act like he doesn't care. He is protecting you.

That guy, is an adult. I can't believe you don't even see what's wrong. Look, if this all goes wrong, this is your fault, you got yourselg into this again, not your dad.

EDIT: people you may aswell stop replying. Op doesn't reply to anyone giving her advice on her life. The only moment she would reply is when people tell her how good it is.

[WanderingHeart]

Alright, well I was going to say what everyone else above me said but it's already been said.

Don't be stupid. They (and your father) know what they are saying and doing. You could screw up your life or his. This is dangerous and I wouldn't suggest doing this.

[Pat the Bunny]

This definitely isn't a good idea. What if your parents call your friend's parents? You'll be in great trouble. You don't want that do you?

[Stronk Serb]

What everyone said. Also what if he sexually assaults you? You are away from home and that could be a problem. What if police catches him? Then his life ends, he get's labelled and loses his future.

[rachel_ballet]

We know what we are getting into!
So far we haven't done anything that I would consider really super "illegal"!
And I know he would never sexually assault me. He's not like that and I know it. I would never go away with him if he was like that.
If the police see us together, they'll have no clue that we are BF/GF.
I'm looking forward to our get away which is on this Wednesday. We're gonna have fun and I'll finally get to see the ocean!

[Leprous]

We know what we are getting into!
So far we haven't done anything that I would consider really super "illegal"!
And I know he would never sexually assault me. He's not like that and I know it. I would never go away with him if he was like that.
If the police see us together, they'll have no clue that we are BF/GF.
I'm looking forward to our get away which is on this Wednesday. We're gonna have fun and I'll finally get to see the ocean!

So you're constantly away with him without your parents knowing? You're 13! Go play with lego. Seriously you're acting way too mature for your age. This is fucking crazy.

[itsalex]

I'm sorry, but you kind of sound a little delusional. Do you know how many girls before you thought that he would never? I'm not saying that everybody's situations are the same and all older guys that date 13 year olds only have bad intentions (even though 13, I mean, come on) BUT better careful than regretful!!

[dpriest]

Ok just by your statements prove you don't know what you're doing.

1. You haven't done anything "super" illegal. If you have done more than holding hands....illegal and a pissed off parent will see him in prison.

2. The cops won't think we are bf/gf. No offence that is fantasy talk. Yes some police are not bright, however you are taking a huge risk. Do you have ID? SScard? Cops will want proof of who people are.

3. Where will you be staying? If it's in a hotel, and they see you together, they are legally bond to call the authorities. You say he is better than 5 years older good luck pulling the "uncle" bit.

I understand love and the things that it makes people do, but stop and think very hard about your decisions that you are about to make. Good luck.

[Ridonks_CB]

You are saying he hasn't hurt you, well okay, but there's something wrong with an 18+ being attracted to a 13 year old...

[itsalex]

You do realize that this is literally pedophilia, right?

Pedophilia is used for individuals with a primary or exclusive sexual interest in prepubescent children aged 13 or younger.

[Dying Ember]

Please get some perspective, seriously

[Ridonks_CB]

To be honest, if anything happens and you come back crying on here, I know I won't be as obliged to give you any pity...You won't listen to any of us and continue to ignore straight up facts. I'm hoping things don't go wrong whatsoever, but if they do, please don't come whining about life being unfair (you're only 13..) and complaining about your father.

[Hyper]

How old is this BF...

[Ridonks_CB]

How old is this BF...

We don't know exactly but she has stated in a previous post that he is older than 18

[Beth]

Dont know if this will help just wanted to add my two cents. Don't mean to be a downer and don't want to judge but this relationship is so wrong.

[WanderingHeart]

Dont know if this will help just wanted to add my two cents. Don't mean to be a downer and don't want to judge but this relationship is so wrong.


See, even someone your age is agreeing with the rest of us! You're getting into something stupid, and you WILL regret it!

[Dying Ember]

How old is this BF...

We don't know exactly but she has stated in a previous post that he is older than 18

Apparently he's 23. Its insane

[Ridonks_CB]

Apparently he's 23. Its insane

...O-oh my...

[Leprous]

Apparently he's 23. Its insane

Well this just made things a whole lot worse in my opinion. Omg, that's 10 fucking years!

[Pat the Bunny]

13 people have posted in this thread. You're the only one of them that thinks this isn't a terrible idea.

Please just think. This isn't just 'an older guy' This is someone who is already an adult while you're still a kid. Don't just think about how "cool" this is and how you "love" him, think about that even if he just has good intentions, if anyone catches you, you may move on, but his life will be ruined.
And even worse, if he doesn't just have good intentions, what may be hard to believe, but is a very real opportunity, then you'll be screwed.

Please, just read this thread a couple times, think about it, and if you still think this is a good idea, then go, but it's a very very bad idea.

[rachel_ballet]

We made it to Ocean City! And to our hotel!
A few people kinda looked at us, but that was pretty much it!
The ocean is so beautiful!
We are having a great time so far and he is treating me like a princess!
My BFF Heather is covering for me and we have a fail proof plan!
Four things!
1-I have read all the replies
2-He's not 23! Not sure where that came from! He just turned 21 3 days ago and I'll be 14 in 7 days! It's kinda like a bday celebration for the both of us!
3-If all fails, the last thing I will do is come on here and whine and cry and blame my father! We know the risk we are taking!
4-if I do break up with him, he'll of course ask why. What am I supposed to say? A bunch of people that don't even know us say that it's a bad idea to continue this relationship?
How do you think he's gonna take that?
We're having fun and everything is going great! That's all that matters!

[DoodleSnap]

I am very sorry to tell you what you are dreading most, but I agree with what everyone else is saying; this relationship is inappropriate. There is nothing wrong with you being in love with someone, but it is important you stay safe. Your 'boyfriend' is a legal adult and could face a lifetime place on the sex offender's list, plus a sizeable prison sentence. I understand that you have strong feelings for him, but you still have long way towards being mature enough to enter a romantic relationship with someone of his age. What you are doing is not frowned upon by your father because he hates you, but because he wants to protect you. Please, please, please understand that this is not a safe thing to do. Your love is important, but think about what you are entering into. Don't make a decision you will regret for the rest of your life. I really hope you will reconsider.

Edit: Look, I understand that you feel that you are capable of making this decision on your own, and I have been there, and done that. Don't allow yourself to get caught up in the moment and convince yourself you can do this on your own. Everyone needs help, and it is important that you realise the risk, and what the consequences mean.
I understand how much you value love and enjoyment, but your safety (which is on eggshells in this situation!) is more important. This man is an adult, and you are far under the legal age.
I really hope you are okay.

~Much care and sincerity.

[Melodic]

Look I don't know you or the guy you're currently with. I know the situation sounds really wrong and even if it was with a guy the same age, I wouldn't sneak out with him to another town. But obviously you made that choice already so it's too late to back out. Please stay safe, don't do anything you're not comfortable with, and be sure to check up so we all know you're alright.

[lyhom]

2-He's not 23! Not sure where that came from! He just turned 21 3 days ago and I'll be 14 in 7 days! It's kinda like a bday celebration for the both of us!

this is admittedly just going by memory, but didn't you yourself say he was 23 in another thread?

either way though, this is still amazingly fucking creepy. like even if I didn't have a moral issue with the age difference right now, the law does, and if they find out the relationship between you two, he's getting in some really deep shit, and frankly, it really isn't worth the risk.

[Uniquemind]

Meh, at this point there's nothing we can do.

This is a huge roll of the dice for them.

I just hope time works itself out, and they live happily ever after because nothing we say is gonna change her mind.

Who knows it MIGHT work out, it's just a messy situation.


I still say that if he really likes you and already knows where you live and all that (I imagine you were naive enough to tell him that personal information already) he will remember you and return to you once you're legal.


But beware of boys who seduce girls into a relationship, and over a long time, slowly start introducing them to the criminal underground and eventually start abusing them.


I still highly recommend back round checks before dating ANYBODY.

And that's advice I give to everyone of any age always.

[StarSan]

Some lessons are better learnt personally I suppose. I only hope that lesson isn't too life scarring.

[SethfromMI]

this is not going to end well. you should not be dating an 18+ year old, esp when you are only 13. it is wrong, it is illegal and will not end well

[Pat the Bunny]

I know you won't change your mind, but I'll try anyway.


"A few people kinda looked at us, but that was pretty much it!"
Why did you think they looked at you? People don't look at you if there isn't something wrong.

"My BFF Heather is covering for me and we have a fail proof plan!"
What is this fail proof plan exactly. I know your parents think you're at Heather's house but if that's all you plan is far from fail proof.

"if I do break up with him, he'll of course ask why. What am I supposed to say? A bunch of people that don't even know us say that it's a bad idea to continue this relationship?"
That you've been thinking and that's it's not a good idea to be dating someone his age. You shouldn't end this because random people online say so, but because it's dumb and dangerous, and the reason that "a bunch of people that don't even know us" are telling that it's a bad idea, is because this isn't something you judge case-to-case, this is something that no-one should ever do.


"We're having fun and everything is going great! That's all that matters!"

No it's not. People who got hurt in a roller coaster were having fun before the accident happened.

[Leprous]

I know you won't change your mind, but I'll try anyway.


"A few people kinda looked at us, but that was pretty much it!"
Why did you think they looked at you? People don't look at you if there isn't something wrong.

"My BFF Heather is covering for me and we have a fail proof plan!"
What is this fail proof plan exactly. I know your parents think you're at Heather's house but if that's all you plan is far from fail proof.

"if I do break up with him, he'll of course ask why. What am I supposed to say? A bunch of people that don't even know us say that it's a bad idea to continue this relationship?"
That you've been thinking and that's it's not a good idea to be dating someone his age. You shouldn't end this because random people online say so, but because it's dumb and dangerous, and the reason that "a bunch of people that don't even know us" are telling that it's a bad idea, is because this isn't something you judge case-to-case, this is something that no-one should ever do.


"We're having fun and everything is going great! That's all that matters!"

No it's not. People who got hurt in a roller coaster were having fun before the accident happened.

There we go. Thank you!

OP doesn't accept our advice yet if something goes wrong she'll crawl back to us, apologizing over and over again, knowing we were right. Ugh I can already see this happening.

[rachel_ballet]

Actually things went great! There are things that happened that I won't mention. Mainly cause I don't "kiss and tell" if you know what I mean, but I will say that they were positive things! I'm at home and he's at his home and no one's in any trouble! As far as my parents know, I was with my BFF Heather! I did miss Ballet Class on Thursday night, but that's been covered, too!
We are both back home! We had an awesome time with some positive changes in our relationship!

[Ridonks_CB]

Sorry if I come off as rude here, but please stop making posts about this when you don't listen to a single thing anybody is telling you. It's quite aggrivating on our side.

[SethfromMI]

Sorry if I come off as rude here, but please stop making posts about this when you don't listen to a single thing anybody is telling you. It's quite aggrivating on our side.

this. despite it going "well" right now, in the end, there is nothing which can come good from this

[WanderingHeart]

Honestly -_-. Just go enjoy yourself if you're not going to listen to anyone.

[Uniquemind]

Actually things went great! There are things that happened that I won't mention. Mainly cause I don't "kiss and tell" if you know what I mean, but I will say that they were positive things! I'm at home and he's at his home and no one's in any trouble! As far as my parents know, I was with my BFF Heather! I did miss Ballet Class on Thursday night, but that's been covered, too!
We are both back home! We had an awesome time with some positive changes in our relationship!

Well I'm sure we all know what happened without you mentioning any details.

No need though, since you aren't really playing it safe, but my last piece of advice is trust your gut instinct and always have an escape plan if things go sour.

If he starts pressuring or trying to convince his other guy friends or gal friends to do group intimacy with you....that's a major red flag and you need to get out of their ASAP, same goes for any recording of anything you guys do.

I still don't recommend the course of action you've taken, and I think he should wait til your legal, and then have at it then not now.

[Leprous]

Actually things went great! There are things that happened that I won't mention. Mainly cause I don't "kiss and tell" if you know what I mean, but I will say that they were positive things! I'm at home and he's at his home and no one's in any trouble! As far as my parents know, I was with my BFF Heather! I did miss Ballet Class on Thursday night, but that's been covered, too!
We are both back home! We had an awesome time with some positive changes in our relationship!

So what you're trying to say is that a 13 year old has sex with a 23 year old.

Honestly it feels like you're just seeking attention here, if you won't even listen yo us, then don't continueto post here. If this ends bad, don't expect any support here on VT. If you can't use your brains for 2 fucking seconds then don't go and cry here if this ends badly.

If this was Belgium, that guy would be charged for rape, even if it wasn't rape in the first place. You are being a massive idiot, you know that? You are a perfect example of how generations these days are turning to shit.

And I don't care if I'm rude, because I'm fucking done with this thread.

[Dying Ember]

Really?? I hope you're not being serious, I really hope this whole things a troll or a joke of some sort because this is going way to far. You're THIRTEEN. Thirteen. At that age you should be having fun with people YOUR AGE. NOT HAVING SEX WITH SOMEONE IN HIS TWENTIES.

[rachel_ballet]

First off, I'm not seeking attention!
Why does everything on VT have to be about needing attention or seeking support?
What's wrong with someone posting something on here about having a great time with his/her GF/BF?
You all are the ones that feel I need support!
I know damn well that if I was with a guy my own age and I posted something on here that he and I were looking at his pokemon trading cards, you all would reply with "OMG! That's so cute! He sounds like a really nice guy!" or something like that!
But the mere fact that I'm with an older guy that has yet to do anything wrong to me, makes you al think that I need attention and support! Everything we have done has been to my consent! No pictures were taken of anything that I didn't want!
Yes, I an a rebel and a rule breaker which has a lot to do with why I am home schooled!
I am also very mature for my age! I've been an only child all of my life and that has taught me a lot about growing up! And believe it or not, with a little make up on, I have passed for at least being 15 years old.
\In 3 days, I will be 14! On my actual birthday, my BF has to go back to the group home where he works (he has to clock in by 3pm, but in the meantime starting tomorrow, he has promised me 2 and a 1/2 days of treating me like a fairytale princess for my birthday! Taking me shopping! Taking me out to lunch one of the days and fixing me lunch the other day!
So I don't need attention from total strangers when I get all of the attention that I need and deserve from the one guy that loves me the most!
If no one replies to this, I am more than happy!
If anyone does, I'll read as I have honestly read all of the other replies!
I just wish for everyone that you all find the love of your life like I have!

[Hudor]

First off, I'm not seeking attention!
Why does everything on VT have to be about needing attention or seeking support?
What's wrong with someone posting something on here about having a great time with his/her GF/BF?
You all are the ones that feel I need support!
I know damn well that if I was with a guy my own age and I posted something on here that he and I were looking at his pokemon trading cards, you all would reply with "OMG! That's so cute! He sounds like a really nice guy!" or something like that!
But the mere fact that I'm with an older guy that has yet to do anything wrong to me, makes you al think that I need attention and support! Everything we have done has been to my consent! No pictures were taken of anything that I didn't want!
Yes, I an a rebel and a rule breaker which has a lot to do with why I am home schooled!
I am also very mature for my age! I've been an only child all of my life and that has taught me a lot about growing up! And believe it or not, with a little make up on, I have passed for at least being 15 years old.
\In 3 days, I will be 14! On my actual birthday, my BF has to go back to the group home where he works (he has to clock in by 3pm, but in the meantime starting tomorrow, he has promised me 2 and a 1/2 days of treating me like a fairytale princess for my birthday! Taking me shopping! Taking me out to lunch one of the days and fixing me lunch the other day!
So I don't need attention from total strangers when I get all of the attention that I need and deserve from the one guy that loves me the most!
If no one replies to this, I am more than happy!
If anyone does, I'll read as I have honestly read all of the other replies!
I just wish for everyone that you all find the love of your life like I have!

So far I refrained from posting in this thread seeing as all I've got to say has already been said. However since it is quite obvious now you won't listen to the advice of anybody and everybody who knows about your relationship, I would just add a few things for your benefit which you may or may not pay heed to.

Let us say i believe the truth is what you feel it is(at the moment) and your bf really loves you and doesn't want to take advantage of you in any manner. Maybe your relationship will be a success and you will end up living happily with him but at present I strongly believe this relationship can bring good to neither of you.
Since you consider yourself mature maybe you will also begin to look at other aspects apart from the momentary pleasure. Sure you might be a rebel but as of now you're a law offender. If you really care about your bf and love him as much as you say you would understand that if ever you two get caught, he will be in jail. You will end up ruining his life forever(assuming he doesn't ruin yours for reasons everyone here pointed out)
If you're so mature maybe you would look past the here and now and focus on the future. Is it so hard to wait till you are 18 to continue your relationship? If you really do care for him that's the prudent step. And if he actually loves you I'm sure he would understand this reason and wait.

[StarSan]

First off, I'm not seeking attention!
Why does everything on VT have to be about needing attention or seeking support?
What's wrong with someone posting something on here about having a great time with his/her GF/BF?
You all are the ones that feel I need support!
I know damn well that if I was with a guy my own age and I posted something on here that he and I were looking at his pokemon trading cards, you all would reply with "OMG! That's so cute! He sounds like a really nice guy!" or something like that!
But the mere fact that I'm with an older guy that has yet to do anything wrong to me, makes you al think that I need attention and support! Everything we have done has been to my consent! No pictures were taken of anything that I didn't want!
Yes, I an a rebel and a rule breaker which has a lot to do with why I am home schooled!
I am also very mature for my age! I've been an only child all of my life and that has taught me a lot about growing up! And believe it or not, with a little make up on, I have passed for at least being 15 years old.
\In 3 days, I will be 14! On my actual birthday, my BF has to go back to the group home where he works (he has to clock in by 3pm, but in the meantime starting tomorrow, he has promised me 2 and a 1/2 days of treating me like a fairytale princess for my birthday! Taking me shopping! Taking me out to lunch one of the days and fixing me lunch the other day!
So I don't need attention from total strangers when I get all of the attention that I need and deserve from the one guy that loves me the most!
If no one replies to this, I am more than happy!
If anyone does, I'll read as I have honestly read all of the other replies!
I just wish for everyone that you all find the love of your life like I have!

I found "the love of my life" twice now hun. I'm no longer talking to either of them. All we are trying to say is that how you feel now /will/ change as you get older. You may feel even more for him or you may not. We aren't condemning. We are simply trying to offer insight from an age that has a bit more experience. I understand you may feel mature for your age. That age being 14 very shortly. Maturity at 14 and maturity at say, 19, my age, are very different things. I thought I was the center of the world at 16 lol. You grow up and realize things. We all just want to help.

And don't post about it if you don't want attention :P Of course people are going to comment haha. That's the point right?

[Babs]

This doesn't sound like the best idea. But clearly you're fixed on it and cannot be swayed. Stay safe and watch out for him and especially yourself, alright?

[Ridonks_CB]

First off, I'm not seeking attention!
Why does everything on VT have to be about needing attention or seeking support?
What's wrong with someone posting something on here about having a great time with his/her GF/BF?
You all are the ones that feel I need support!
I know damn well that if I was with a guy my own age and I posted something on here that he and I were looking at his pokemon trading cards, you all would reply with "OMG! That's so cute! He sounds like a really nice guy!" or something like that!
But the mere fact that I'm with an older guy that has yet to do anything wrong to me, makes you al think that I need attention and support! Everything we have done has been to my consent! No pictures were taken of anything that I didn't want!
Yes, I an a rebel and a rule breaker which has a lot to do with why I am home schooled!
I am also very mature for my age! I've been an only child all of my life and that has taught me a lot about growing up! And believe it or not, with a little make up on, I have passed for at least being 15 years old.
\In 3 days, I will be 14! On my actual birthday, my BF has to go back to the group home where he works (he has to clock in by 3pm, but in the meantime starting tomorrow, he has promised me 2 and a 1/2 days of treating me like a fairytale princess for my birthday! Taking me shopping! Taking me out to lunch one of the days and fixing me lunch the other day!
So I don't need attention from total strangers when I get all of the attention that I need and deserve from the one guy that loves me the most!
If no one replies to this, I am more than happy!
If anyone does, I'll read as I have honestly read all of the other replies!
I just wish for everyone that you all find the love of your life like I have!
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I am done.

[Alien djinn]

Mmmm.. 13 years old... Okay no comments

[Alien djinn]

Yep. You got that right. Humanity is so fucked

[Alien djinn]

image (http://vignette3.wikia.nocookie.net/bloonsconception/images/c/cc/Facepalm_lv5.png/revision/latest?cb=20120815144528)
I am done.

Yep, you got that right, humanity is so fucked

[DoodleSnap]

I thought I was mature when I was your age, only now do I realise that it will be a loooong time until I am fully mature. What I am trying to say is that this is not a healthy relationship to be in. Seeing past that, even then, the legal issues surrounding the relationship make it dangerous for both of you. What I recommend is that you take the above advice and look to continue the relationship when you turn 18. If you both love each other that much, you will understand that it is appropriate to wait 4 years, to make things better for everyone. I'm sorry that you have received hostile words in this thread, and I realise that you enjoy the rebellion associated with what you're doing, and that you feel that you love him, but take our advice now, and wait for yourself to mature. I hope all goes well.

[WanderingHeart]

Please just listen to the above advice, or at least take it into consideration! I am pretty much the same age as you, same level of maturity, etc. This isn't healthy. Do you want to know how many girls have went on and on about how their boyfriend promised them things and loved them, etc, only to find out he's just after sex?

"But he's different from the others!"

That's what they all say. Until they find out he's not. The risk factor of physically or sexual abuse in a relationship increases if your partner is much older.

[Dynamo360]

I know you don't want to hear/read this but what your bf is doing is putting you through the grooming process, he'll act really nice to you, not do anything you don't want to do, and then maybe he'll ask you to move in with him, or maybe on this trip you're going on, he'll start locking the door, he won't let you out, then he'll make you think sex is your choice, don't go with him. You could get into serious trouble.

[Ridonks_CB]

I know you don't want to hear/read this but what your bf is doing is putting you through the grooming process, he'll act really nice to you, not do anything you don't want to do, and then maybe he'll ask you to move in with him, or maybe on this trip you're going on, he'll start locking the door, he won't let you out, then he'll make you think sex is your choice, don't go with him. You could get into serious trouble.

According to a recent post, they already had sex together.
do you know how much trouble you could grt him into if any legal authorities found out?

[Uniquemind]

Either way stay safe.

I hear parts of Maryland have a curfew in place now because of violent protests.


And bad guys never show their true colors immediately, be cautious and have a backup plan.

Hopefully 4 years and 360ish days pass and you'll be in the clear.

--

In this case though I suggest you stop talking about the relationship with anybody, including what you post here.

[Alien djinn]

Hey listen i usually don't insult but... From what i know about your story, your boyfriend is a fucking pedophile and not only you're so fucking naive but you probably Will be a slut in the future (i say in the future because i just can't tell a 13 years old girl that she is a slut). My god, i feel extremely sad for your parents, i would give them a billion dollars because of what you are inflecting to them,really :(. This world is making me sick

[Pat the Bunny]

What's wrong with someone posting something on here about having a great time with his/her GF/BF?

You know damn well that this is about more than just "having a great time with his/her GF/BF"..

You all are the ones that feel I need support!

Yes, we do.

I know damn well that if I was with a guy my own age and I posted something on here that he and I were looking at his pokemon trading cards, you all would reply with "OMG! That's so cute! He sounds like a really nice guy!" or something like that!

Because if that was the case it would actually be cute and we could safely assume that he actually IS a nice guy.

But the mere fact that I'm with an older guy that has yet to do anything wrong to me, makes you al think that I need attention and support!

That's because that "mere fact" is actually a really important fact, that indeed makes us think you need attention and support.

Everything we have done has been to my consent! No pictures were taken of anything that I didn't want!

Okay. And what makes you believe he wouldn't do any of that later.

I am also very mature for my age!

Very mature for year age is still far less mature than 23.

And believe it or not, with a little make up on, I have passed for at least being 15 years old.

Those 2 don't make any difference to how stupid this is.


In 3 days, I will be 14! On my actual birthday, my BF has to go back to the group home where he works (he has to clock in by 3pm, but in the meantime starting tomorrow, he has promised me 2 and a 1/2 days of treating me like a fairytale princess for my birthday! Taking me shopping! Taking me out to lunch one of the days and fixing me lunch the other day!

What's two and a half days of being treated like a princess to the risk of ruining the rest of your life?

I just wish for everyone that you all find the love of your life like I have!

Almost everyone thinks their first love is the love of their lives. Do you think most people only love once?


Congratulations on your birthday by the way.

[rachel_ballet]

So my mother is like the coolest person in the world!
I think my mother kinda sorta has an idea of what I did!
And thank God she didn't tell my father.
On Sunday she asked me "How was your trip?"
I didn't really say a whole lot! I was in total shock that she asked that! I replied with "I had a good time" and we both left it at that! I wondered how she even had a clue of what happened as my friend Heather and I had it all covered.
It probably didn't help that brought home in a bag a hotel key card for our hotel that we found on the beach, some sand and shells and a cork from the champagne, and left it all on my dresser! Dumb move! I know!
And then my ballet classes were moved from Tue/Thur to Mon/Wed and our ballet instructor sent me a text but also sent out an email to the parents on last Friday and she's really good about making the email a bit personal. Well, my BF called my ballet instructor Thursday night pretending to be my father saying that I was sick and unable to attend class that night! So, I'm sure that when Miss Bethany sent out the email about the schedule change, she must have put something in there asking if I was feeling better!
So, do I even bother with talking about this to my mom or should I just let it go?
It's gonna haunt me for a while because I know she knows!

[Uniquemind]

So my mother is like the coolest person in the world!
I think my mother kinda sorta has an idea of what I did!
And thank God she didn't tell my father.
On Sunday she asked me "How was your trip?"
I didn't really say a whole lot! I was in total shock that she asked that! I replied with "I had a good time" and we both left it at that! I wondered how she even had a clue of what happened as my friend Heather and I had it all covered.
It probably didn't help that brought home in a bag a hotel key card for our hotel that we found on the beach, some sand and shells and a cork from the champagne, and left it all on my dresser! Dumb move! I know!
And then my ballet classes were moved from Tue/Thur to Mon/Wed and our ballet instructor sent me a text but also sent out an email to the parents on last Friday and she's really good about making the email a bit personal. Well, my BF called my ballet instructor Thursday night pretending to be my father saying that I was sick and unable to attend class that night! So, I'm sure that when Miss Bethany sent out the email about the schedule change, she must have put something in there asking if I was feeling better!
So, do I even bother with talking about this to my mom or should I just let it go?
It's gonna haunt me for a while because I know she knows!

See I knew this would happen.

You think you have all your bases covered but you really don't.

There are details and factors about life that you just can't control, and your mom probably has a strong intuition about what happened.

Parents get that gut feeling, and with the context of you fighting with your dad, to you becoming all stealth-like sneaking out...sorry but children have been doing that for ages especially for relationships.

It's frankly predictable and not nearly as amazing as you think the experience makes you mature.

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Also for the record to someone who responded above her boyfriend would meet the definition of a hebephile, not a pedophile.

Just use the correct terminology people.

[SethfromMI]

why do people have a problem? your 13 dating a guy in his 20's? that is illegal!

[Pat the Bunny]

On Sunday she asked me "How was your trip?"


It's gonna haunt me for a while because I know she knows!

Yep. Your plan didn't turn out to be totally fail-proof after all. Do you know how much she knows? Does she only know you weren't at Heather's house, or does she know about your BF and his age. If she only knows that you went away leave it at that, but if she knows the rest, you will need to talk to her.

[fairmaiden]

I am actually beginning to think you're a troll of some sort. It is not right for a 14 year old to date a 21/23 year old, and everyone on this thread has told you that it's wrong.

You have made at least 3 or 4 threads dedicated to you and your boyfriend's illegal relationship, and it's beginning to make me think that you don't want to listen to sane advice.

You should not be dating an adult. Even if you look like you're a senior citizen; there are reasons why certain laws are in place.

If law officials find out, he will be arrested, and will most likely go to jail for quite a long time.

If you are a real person, you should really evaluate your relationship with him and ask yourself ''What the hell am I doing?''.

I don't really have any more advice to give you, because you continue to throw all of our advice back in our faces as though we are insane, when in actual fact we are the only ones talking sense during this entire saga of madness.

You should tell your parents immediately, and leave that guy alone.

Although, I am highly suspicious of the credibility of your statements. I have never met a 13/14 year old who is so brass that they decide to air their illegal private lives out in public like this.

[Stronk Serb]

Well, such a fool-proof plan you got there. You never bring evidence home or leave it there. Also drinking champagne at 13-14? What the hell? That could have a large impact on your growing up into an adult. If your dad finds out and trust me he eventually will, shit will rain. He probably already knows but refuses to believe it. Most parents are like that. My mom knew I was drinking on my birthday party even though all was perfect, a fool-proof plan. My dad knew I was smoking but refused to believe it until I pulled out my pack. We forget our parents have done similar stuff in their teens and that they can bust us pretty easily.

[DoodleSnap]

Oh dear. This is spiralling out of control, and lo and behold, the situation, and important information regarding it is out with your hands. I appreciate that you want to feel mature, but 16 is a very young age when it comes to maturity, nevermind a 13/14 year old. These things that haunt you are the things that you can't control. I went through a very difficult time when I was around 13, and that was due to thinking that I was super-mature. The first step to being mature is understanding one's lack of maturity. Please reconsider your desire for rebellion, for the sake of your life and mental health. Stay safe.

[goodnightxmoonx]

If I may just post an objective question: you say you're homeschooled. How many guys (aside from relatives and such; you say you're an only child, right?) have you been close with/befriended/dated? Maybe it's too early to know if he's really your true love. I haven't kept up with the other threads however so I'm not sure if you've addressed this before.

I was acquainted with this girl who fell in love multiple times with guys who were alternatively on parole or house arrest. NONE of these ended well. I can't help but liken your situation to theirs, although perhaps your mother is more forgiving/laissez faire, which I don't find to be a good sign.

By the way, congrats on being fourteen!! I'll be turning 14 in about two weeks and I'm so excited!!