Lost and need help

[Txfri1350]

Ok. So im really confused on my sexuallity. I think im bi... but i told my parents im straight. They think im gay because ive been talking to guys who r gay or bi... what do i do!? How do i tell my parents... my brother?? (Hes 17) and lastly, im popular at school... what if this ruines my friendships??

[Vermilion]

I don't think your parents will care is they already think your gay, It won't be a shock to them. Your brother shouldn't care he probably has a bit of a guess that your not 100% straight if your parents think your gay. And for school your real friend's won't care as long as your happy.

[Landbuscus97]

^^^^This guys is right in that I wouldn't worry about your family too much.
As to how you go about doing it, I have no idea. It's all up to you to do that part.
As for your friends and popularity, it depends if you think it's worth it.
Suppressing these thoughts and feelings really destabilizes your mental state over time,
but if you really care about it that much, you should think about the pros and cons of either option. If you keep quiet about it, then you might not be as happy or content as otherwise. But if you do come out and your friends abandon you, then you risk that social damage. However, you may forge stronger bonds, or even make new ones by taking such a risk and putting yourself out there.
Also, if a friend or two stops associating with you just because you happen to be attracted to guys as well as girls, then they weren't a true friend of yours.
In any case, there's a lot of change associated with the process, but I imagine you shouldn't have much trouble in your situation.
P.S. A good way to come out is to ask a few questions just barely touching on the subject, and see how they react. Go ahead and tell the friends that you trust won't spread the news like wildfire, and will be accepting.
Best of luck to ya!

[Mil1dreded]

Yeah tbh these days coming out as gay or bi people don't think much about it my friend came out and and no one made a big deal it's normal and if these people are you're friends they'll accept it and it'll be like nothing changed

[Aidoon123]

If your parents suspect you are gay, then coming out as bi will not be a big shock to them. As for your brother, if your parents have a hunch, then chances are so does he. And regarding your friends, if they judge you, then they really aren't your friends. Friends will love and care for you no matter what your sexual orientation is.

[DoodleSnap]

If you feel the time is right, and that you feel comfortable facing whatever challenges coming out may face with your own and other's support, then go for it. If your parents don't understand at first, that is okay, because sexuality is a scary prospect for many parents. Get them to read, and give them time to contemplate and understand. If you are worried about people no longer wanting to be friends with you because of your sexuality, they are not worth being friends with. As far as I am concerned, anybody who is homophobic has some serious deep-seated issues, and need to address those rather than lashing out. I hope it all goes well, and good luck.